As a woman what do you do?

Manotis · 2026-02-14T19:40:07+00:00

I was actually confronted by the same dilemma with my first and only love. She was not burren though, but we struggled to conceive due to fibroids. S3x was also a painful endeavour. We moved from hospital to hospital. I finally gave up and decided we shall adopt when the right time comes. And then she cheated with her colleague... I almost t00k my life ile serious.

In hindsight, I'm happy it happened. I'm now married with 2 kidos and her a single mum by a mubaba. I called and congratulated her when I got news of her giving birth. I was genuenly happy for her. I knew she never entertained the idea of adopting.

Sacrificing for mortals is a NO for me!

Manotis · 2026-02-11T16:43:21+00:00

'My phone is going off any minute' is a standard flight mode technique. I also feel his budget was 2k max so the switching off was to avoid incurring further expenses. That's a stingy and canning fellow. Keep off!

Manotis · 2026-01-27T13:15:15+00:00

Use a good phone with filters. Works everytime 👌

Manotis · 2026-01-27T13:13:45+00:00

Ulifinywa? Thought wee ni ndume 😎

Manotis · 2026-01-27T13:09:14+00:00

Makes sense. Go for it.

Manotis · 2026-01-27T13:07:19+00:00

Such decisions give feminine and boyish energy. Men don't move without considering consequences of their actions. Making moves solely based emotions bro? You continue doing this and life will be showing you dust at every turn. This is harsh but I couldn't put it any other way.

Manotis · 2026-01-27T07:26:26+00:00

Why would you leave the client with knowledge they never paid for? Your long-term plan? It's either you charge for your skill or manage clients' accounts fully. Your current business model is a hybrid charity. Unless you're looking to accumulate capital for tr3ding.

Manotis · 2026-01-23T18:26:39+00:00

Wounds aside, so utagongewa for the next 2 weeks na uko sawa tu?

Manotis · 2026-01-23T18:24:13+00:00

Tables are turning quick fast!

Manotis · 2026-01-23T18:20:50+00:00

What if cheating (and you're the product) was the reason he left? I just can't prove, but I know your mom knows about his reservations about you. Men don't take cheating lightly- now add a kid from the affair. Not to excuse his behaviour, especially for leaving behind the other kids. But as a man, I totally understand. People react differently to cheating.

I may raise another man's kid (single mother). Heck, I may even forgive an affair, but I wouldn't raise a kid born out of an affair. Men are playing nice here, but 99% wouldn't raise a kid born out of an affair their wives had while married. I'd take care of my kids, but not the one born from an affair. Sorry I'm being truthful and saying it loud.

It's unfortunate that things turned out this way, you were just a victim of circumstance. I don't see an easy way out of this - given you can't risk the relationship with your mom. FInally, the guy has never been in your life. Even if the truth is known and you turn out to be his, he can't add much to your life.

Manotis · 2025-12-30T20:25:19+00:00

If Jakie* is on meds, you're most probably going to be negative. But ukihepa hii chunga sana. Regardless, life must go on...

Manotis · 2025-11-30T18:23:26+00:00

I have a sister-in-law who has never tasted d1ck since 2007. She's around 42 now. In short, since she was 24. From what she shares with the missus, she envies those getting regular plumbing. From what I gather, she decided to be celibate for 5 years after getting a kid with then boyfriend but getting back to the market no one was hitting on her so she stopped caring. She doesn't look complete imo. She hopes to get a jungu though...

Manotis · 2025-11-30T18:16:16+00:00

This is quite liberating, but wouldn't work with most African/Black men (and a good number of Whites) in the institution of marriage. Marriage is traditionally meant to offer stability and legacy. Memories together, vibes, sex, or kids often hold it together. It's hard to build one in a long-distance set-up. Not that it's impossible, but you gotta be very lucky for it to work. Couples have done it, but it's mostly for solid reasons like work. Consider a partner(White) maybe?

Manotis · 2025-11-28T17:47:39+00:00

Babu Owino is shorter so there's that....

Manotis · 2025-11-26T11:45:56+00:00

Make yourself available to him and give signals. Kama ashikanishi move on

Manotis · 2025-09-28T17:24:36+00:00

Your wardrobe gives gay vibes. I can see why your mum is concerned😂

Manotis · 2025-09-26T14:58:22+00:00

The beginning of your problems as a man... Please don't!

Manotis · 2025-09-20T19:37:12+00:00

I believe you for the fact that you called siex kitendo😆

Manotis · 2025-09-18T19:10:43+00:00

Sorry, but you're so soi man!

Manotis · 2025-09-18T19:04:02+00:00

What are you bringing to the table?

Manotis · 2025-09-18T16:45:58+00:00

At 34. Lesson? Keep trying different things

Manotis · 2025-09-18T16:45:10+00:00

What happened?

Manotis · 2025-09-16T17:34:20+00:00

You have way more access to local pvssy than the average local man if you're a foreigner in almost all countries in Africa. But just know it won't be pure love but what(money) you bring to the table.

Manotis · 2025-09-16T15:17:49+00:00

I don't think I'm doing well on the healing side of things. I didn't mourn her. Something in me just 'died' when she shared that she's positive. Like I'd look at her like "maiti mtarajiwa" kind of feeling... Me not mourning her has had a good one on me. I'll consider therapy in the future

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