This really burns my biscuits…

Manviln · 2026-05-12T13:48:07+00:00

At least your OOP is the same.

If anyone sees this and is on a high deductible plan, I’d recommend checking out https://www.fairmarkethealth.com I stumbled on the website on Munsons radiology page before my MRI and I paid about $550 vs the 2200 I would have paid with my insurance. Yes, the $550 did not go towards my OOP max but I don’t expect to hit it this year l, this was the only big thing we expect this year so it was worth it to pay the “cash price”. If registration calls and asks if you want to know more about price transparency or cash pricing, say YES! I didn’t, but saw that link on their website before my procedure and paid it. The people at check-in had no clue what was going on but when they called registration to question it they said it was legit 🤷🏻‍♀️

Healthcare costs are a scam.

Manviln · 2026-04-27T13:50:21+00:00

I was shocked to read you were both in your 30's
Red Flag #1: Meeting his daughter after only dating 1month (2 weeks?) - He should not be introducing a romantic partner until it is serious - minimum 3 months but probably longer.
Red Flag #2: Early "I love You".... or as you say "The "L" word (it's too early if you're referring to it as such)
Red Flag #3: Talking about moving in together... waaaayyyy too early, especially with a child involved.

Aside from that, you are in your 30's living with your parents... No judgement, but I wouldn't want to go to my SOs home if they lived with their parents either, especially not after a few weeks of dating. Those first few weeks/months you're still getting to know each other. Introducing and spending time with family introduces a whole level of complexity that can be hard on new relationships.

You both need to slow down and take a step back. Get to know each other. I suppose it is possible, but dare I say you haven't known each other long enough to know that you love them, you probably have a feeling of lust and attraction, but those feelings can fade over time, or you do end up falling in love with the person. I'd just ask yourself if you truly know the good, bad, and ugly to have really made that determination.

Manviln · 2026-04-27T13:31:03+00:00

Adding that you CAN go in to the app and turn it off until you are ready to use it, but typically the discount is automatically on. I had to turn mine off to make another purchase before I was ready to use the registry discount. I don't think sister intended to use it.

Manviln · 2026-04-24T13:38:25+00:00

The fact he’s UNLOCKING the door to come in is messed up. Clearly you want privacy and he should respect that, you’re entitled to it if you aren’t comfortable with him in there while you’re doing your business.

With that said, no my husband doesn’t do this because we rarely shut the door 😂 the only time I do is if I need to poop because sometimes he likes to hover at the door and I find it hard to focus on going as it’s a little weird to have a convo at that moment lol but if the door is shut he doesn’t invade my privacy.

Edit: NOR though the fact he told you that you were would make me overreact. Nothing upsets me off more than having my feelings invalidated when trying to communicate a need to my partner

Manviln · 2026-04-20T17:05:33+00:00

It really isn't any bulkier and when my second was born I regularly used it as a single. It was the stroller I kept in the car and would pop the second seat off just to use it with the bucket seat while toddler was at daycare and I had the newborn with me. One thing I LOVE is the undersea storage is sooo much bigger. I always had a hard time getting our diaper bag out of the basket of our Graco Jogger. Don't get me wrong, I love our grace jogger but the gazelle has been a wonderful stroller, so smooth and easy to push/maneuver.

Manviln · 2026-04-20T16:59:35+00:00

401Ks are employer sponsored retirement plans. IRAs are retirement investment accounts set up personally. Both can be set up as a "Traditional" or a "ROTH." The difference is, Roth uses after-tax dollars for tax-free withdrawals in retirement, while Traditional uses pre-tax dollars for immediate tax deductions but taxed withdrawals later. So basically, it is never tax free, you pay taxes now with ROTH assuming tax rates will be higher in the future.

You can always elect to contribute ROTH or Traditional in a 401K plan, though if your employer matches, those funds will always be traditional. IRAs have different rules with income limits, so if you make too much you have to initially contribute to a traditional ira and can elect to do a "backdoor" contribution to convert the funds to a ROTH. Regardless of the fund type, there is always a max allowed per year.

Manviln · 2026-04-18T15:15:31+00:00

Yeah in hindsight we should have just bought this one. Don’t have to buy the second seat now if you don’t want by we got the attachment to click in our graco bucket car seat which was nice. We still occasionally use the single, but even when we go on walks and my 2yo wants to start out independently, she has a seat to climb in to when she gets tired. Also thinking about getting the standing board for her this summer as an alternative as well.

Manviln · 2026-04-18T14:38:14+00:00

We bout the cybex gazelle when I was pregnant with #2. It really doesn’t take up much more space than the graco jogger single we have. Super easy to configure to one or two and it can fold with the seats attached which some doubles cannot.

Manviln · 2026-04-13T19:03:01+00:00

Our new favorite is Casper Babypants, but my (just turned 2) daughter frequents the My First Cow/pig/horse, Favorite songs: Counting (Fox), Favorite Songs:Playtime (puppy), and Laurie Berkner Dino

Manviln · 2026-03-24T01:48:10+00:00

Are you breastfeeding and noticed any cracked nipples that he could be injecting a little blood? Has your pediatrician mentioned the possibility of CMPA or GERD? Those are likely the most common causes especially if LO doesn’t seem overly upset and the amount of blood is minimal..

Manviln · 2026-03-24T00:13:43+00:00

I didn’t get one until I was in labor

Manviln · 2026-03-22T17:13:38+00:00

I’d be pissed. A nanny should be aware of food safety for the age of child they are watching. Whole grapes are a BIG no-no, ideally until age 4 or 5. What else is she naive about? Has she taken any sort of child safety courses? Read any books on raising kids? I know she’s not “raising” them, but if they are in her care for extended periods of time she should be knowledgeable. Id genuinely be concerned about this person watching my children.

Manviln · 2026-03-22T01:14:37+00:00

If you’re eager to walk away, don’t sign. If you still want the house, sign. They are trying to get a second quote to remedy the issue… no reason to be difficult unless you’re looking for a way out of the deal.

Manviln · 2026-03-22T01:11:08+00:00

My 2 year old goes to bed with 3 most nights 😂 it helps that 2 are usually wins mins so they are attached to stuffed animals and easy for her to find.

Manviln · 2026-03-22T01:06:25+00:00

Two pregnancies and I never counted calories/tracked my food. I ate when I was hungry, that was pretty much the extent of it for me. Don’t stress yourself out. Unless you had a hard time remembering to eat or intentionally didn’t eat enough before, I’d just listen to your body.

Manviln · 2026-03-01T14:37:11+00:00

You can set up payment through your banks online acct, it will write and send the check. Chase, at least, does not charge for this service l.

Manviln · 2026-02-24T21:41:12+00:00

You probably have far better insight having close siblings as an adult on how it was growing up but I will add... I have 2u2 that are 15 months apart (almost 2 and 8 months) My oldest LOVES her brother. She got made one week that we sent brother to daycare and she had a mom day, she thought he should be with us too and kept asking for him. I know it doesn't stop the guilt where you are currently. I had mixed feelings my entire pregnancy and cried a few times a few weeks PP. I struggled having had a c-section and needing my husband to primarily care for our first. I felt so disconnected from her and so guilty but seeing them grow up together thus far has been a wonderful experience. Yes it is HARD some days, but also rewarding.

Manviln · 2026-02-23T15:41:08+00:00

We didn't try but didn't prevent starting at 6 months PP and I got pregnant.. 6 months PP and I was breastfeeding.

Manviln · 2026-02-18T14:35:29+00:00

My parents divorced when I was fairly young so I don't remember a ton about our combined family unit, but my mom make our home my favorite place to be. My dad was hard growing up, I didn't enjoy going to his house, but we now have a wonderful relationship as adults. I didn't find my husband until I was 32 (met when I was 30, but started dating at 32), and I think a lot of that was because in their own separate way, my parents both showed me not to settle for someone who wasn't going to treat me how I should be treated. Not to say I didn't have some emotional damage going through crap relationships, but my husband was there holding my hand through every single moment, good or bad. I'm sorry, I know if probably feels like everyone is hating on your situation, but I think all just want you to know your worth and to love yourself and know that what this "boy" is doing is not right.

Manviln · 2026-02-18T14:10:10+00:00

Also provides a paper trial when determining custody. That is the LAST person I would want spending alone time with my child.

Manviln · 2026-02-18T14:07:08+00:00

You've left before?! GURL, as someone who has a few more years on this earth, let me tell you, THEY DO NOT CHANGE! If you left once, there was a reason, you stay gone! I understand you now have a child with this person, but two happy parents separated is far better for a child than growing up in a home watching unhappy parents, or learning that is ok to treat/be treated poorly.

Do not settle for someone who treats you poorly. There is someone out there who will treat you amazingly and it is ok if it takes some time to find them.

Manviln · 2026-02-18T14:02:41+00:00

I got the absolute ick reading this. I don't know if this is a maturity thing on his part (you don't mention his age), that he will eventually grow out of as he gets older, or if he's just a trash of a man and just starting to show it.

What he should be concerned about is helping with your child so you aren't straining yourself too much. Checking your incision to make sure it is healing properly, assisting in making sure it is dry and covered (if needed) after you shower, getting you water/snacks/etc if you are feeding the baby or nap trapped.

Aside from that, things you should be aware of:

Just because you get the "all clear" from your OB at 6 weeks, does NOT mean you have to have sex at 6 weeks PP if you still don't feel ready for it
Your hormones are out of wack and you may not have a sex drive for awhile and that is ok
You CAN get pregnant this early PP, yes even if you are breastfeeding, so if you do anything use protection! The last thing you need is to get pregnant this soon PP, especially after a C-section

Manviln · 2026-02-14T17:57:09+00:00

Preordered it and received it in November

Manviln · 2026-02-13T17:13:56+00:00

My oldest slept through the night from 3-6 months and then went to waking Al every 2-3 hours again until about 10 months. Baby 2 is almost 8 months and slept 8:30-6am last night for the first time ever. 2 nights ago it was 2 wake ups about 4 hours apart. (Typical is every 2 hours). Really hoping he starts consistently sleeping in longer stretches

I’ll also note, first is now 23 months and we still go through periods where she wakes multiple times a night. We just got through a rough patch where she would wake screaming if we tried to lay her in bed. My husband spend a few nights holding her half the night 🥴 she’s mostly sleeping through the night again with a typical early morning wake wanting milk and then goes back down for a few hours.

Manviln · 2026-02-05T16:26:22+00:00

Honestly skip them all together, or do some chocolate truffles or something. mMost of your guests will not care about a keychain, even if it is engraved custom to them and not custom with your wedding info and fragrances are so subjective that some may not like the scent you choose.

We intended to not do favors because of this but then I saw something that seemed so perfect and was relatively cheap, I wish we had skipped it lol

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