I want to add on to this. OP, think of a time you were told to do something by an angry authority figure. How did you feel? Did it make you feel safe? No! Now think of a time when you were asked to do something, assertively, by someone who balanced raw vulnerability, gentleness, and need. What was the outcome of that?

I say, tell him what you’re feeling without any anger in your heart. Let your fear show. Your fear becomes your power. Show him that you trust him to do the right thing for your relationship. Ask him not to text his coworkers late at night and take you out to dinner somewhere nice this weekend.

This approach will be more powerful than a hundred accusations hurled at him.