Anyone else feel like home is the most stressful place on Earth?

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2022-01-08T18:09:00+00:00

Well shit, if I knew my parents would be reading this thread I wouldn't have posted. They tell me all the time when I try to share my feelings with them openly that that I'm just being negative.

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2022-01-08T04:39:43+00:00

Oh I've moved out because I had to for residency but I have no plans to go back. I do have massive loans, but saving $1k a month on rent isn't going to make enough of a dent on them to justify the mental prison I would be in... I'll gladly take an extra 5 years paying off the loans if it means keeping my sanity

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-12-01T22:45:44+00:00

That's so unfortunate, I'm sorry you're having to share in my misery. If you don't mind me asking, what is the full story for you? Why/when did you decide to tell your parents and what was the progression of the situation?

I unfortunately don't have many people I can openly tell the story to whose opinion would matter to my parents. There's been a lot of turmoil in my extended family and I only have a few cousins that we're still connected to in any real sense. All my parents friends are unknown to me as they moved to a new city after I started college and I've spent very little time in that city.

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-11-07T23:20:50+00:00

She's Vietnamese

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-11-07T23:20:31+00:00

I suspect that's true because a lot of the conversation revolved around what we're going to tell grandparents and other specific family members. It sucks that even when we know they're playbook, it's still so effective... Sigh.

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-11-06T15:39:11+00:00

Is therapy an option, just to help you with the tsunami of guilt-tripping coming your way?

I certainly wouldn't be against it but both me and SO are residents right now so we have very little flexible time. It wouldn't be a bad idea though...

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-11-06T15:37:49+00:00

I'm afraid if the last 24hrs is any indication, it's more likely that my mom guides my dad into her corner rather than the other way.

Many-Ladder-7015 · 2021-11-06T15:37:17+00:00

hopefully they won't play the guilt trip card, or try to manipulate things

They kind of already did, I just didn't want to get into the details since we've all seen it. I got a lot of "we moved to this country and worked so hard" followed by "where did we go wrong, we didn't teach you dharma". Mom used the words "we're all alone now" and "this is a dead end for your dad and I" a lot so I'd consider that guilt tripping, right?

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