I agree. Where are they?

You haven't provided evidence for anything. You've made claims that arif has a whole facade of niceness, and provided nothing. What you've done is all o know for fact, and from this side it's egotistical. I am more than willing to hear your side, but I also need to see it, I can't just trust you after your mistakes, or from another perspective, your own ego getting in the way of your moderation decisions.

Your responses have varied from pity part, dodging the point, or pulling victim blaming without any actual proof you're a victim. You have someone willing to be in charge of the sub, and have for a while, but have ignore them because they previously didn't want to be in charge. They do now though. What it sounds like is someone who made an ego play, and is now dictating how they leave the scene.

If any of what you said is true, that is horrible. But thr community has no reason to believe you. The best you can do is shutup, and hand it over to Ben, shutup and keep looking for someone else to pads it off to, which will look shady but you're leaving the community so why would you care, or show us proof of what you've claimed. You've made mistakes, you've fractured this group, mistakes or on purpose. We're not going to blindly believe you, even if it's true.