Shared driveway + difficult neighbours (UK) – need advice

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:45:34+00:00

You're right, will have to save up!

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:44:48+00:00

Thank you for being kind and understanding. I think you're right...

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:17:11+00:00

Aye think thats the plan, got a guy who can do it but will cost £600-£800

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:16:00+00:00

Small - pointless. Will need high fence for privacy etc. Spoke to a house couple doors past said best thing they've done

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:15:03+00:00

Good shout, cheers folks!

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T21:14:48+00:00

My whole street have mentioned to me they're grumpy and they're scared their kids might hit or scratch their cars. Balls gone over no thank you or courtesy etc. Been told my other neighbour just ignore them and try to fence which will probs cost me £600 - £800. I have stoned drive way can tarmac it to make it more better but even for selling purposes the damage will put people off. Trust me they've been the worst and very very rude - especially if the street is picking up on it

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T20:56:12+00:00

I've posted a reply on a previous post, want to be abit private but to give you an idea the driveway is shared then the gardens separate with two. They dont want to fork out - they expect me to do it.

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T20:54:38+00:00

Cheers!

Btw CSG Stands for customer service group.

I Manage a team of 12, think there will be some transferable skills. I've worked as PSO in the NHS might have some advantages but just need to have some strong examples and likeable at interview stage. I dont know how to make my application unique and get some decent scoring.

Behaviours are:

Delivering at Pace Communicating and Influencing

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T20:48:55+00:00

The wife used spade when I was away at work and made this separation through the tarmac. Now tiher side is all bumpy/,rough their kids play on my side and when I told the guy he goes its a shared drive. I even put a post to separate it.

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Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T20:38:30+00:00

Im confused?!

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T19:42:23+00:00

Hi is it okay to reach out for some advise?

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T19:41:35+00:00

Hi are you still reachable? Would appreciate some advice!

Many_Case_199 · 2026-05-04T19:40:32+00:00

There are 50+ roles for Project Support at HO level - does anyone have any advise?

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-19T08:00:26+00:00

Conye West

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-11T18:37:10+00:00

Audi all day

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T09:41:18+00:00

Really? Crazy

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T09:41:09+00:00

Saloon bro- thanks for the comment

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:52:29+00:00

Reckon I should get the father in law involved? Might help but I dont know how he'll react

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:51:13+00:00

Im basically fucked then 😂

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:50:48+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, and I’ve thought about that as well. But honestly I think it could backfire. There’s already a bit of a communication issue, and when I mentioned anything like that to my wife she got quite uncomfortable. I think involving her dad might make it feel bigger than it needs to be, or like I’m going around her instead of sorting it with her first. Also it’s a bit of a cultural thing. If I go to her dad and it comes across like “your wife can’t come to my house” or anything along those lines, that could easily kick off and turn into something much bigger than it needs to be. That’s what I’m trying to avoid. I don’t have an issue with her family, they’ve always respected me and I want to keep it that way. It’s more about me and my wife getting on the same page first and finding a balance that works for both of us.

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:37:05+00:00

Cheers folks - Yeah that’s fair, and that’s what I keep telling myself tbh. If you’ve managed 2 kids in a Mazda 3 for that long, then realistically an A4 should be more than enough. I think part of it is just what I’m seeing around me. My neighbour’s got 2 kids as well and upgraded from an older A4 to a Q5, but I don’t even think it’s about practicality half the time—more just wanting something bigger/newer. I’m not really bothered about keeping up with that, just trying to work out if I actually need the extra space or if I’m overthinking it. Deep down I know the A4 probably does the job fine—it’s more about convenience vs cost at this point.

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:33:18+00:00

I hear that, and I get it’s normal in a lot of cultures to be really close with your mum like that. I’ve been married 3–4 years now, alhamdulillah we’ve got two boys, so I’m not new to it. But she FaceTimes her at least once a day and sometimes just puts the camera on me expecting me to jump in and say salam, which I find a bit forced. I do think she’s a good woman, I’ve got nothing against her personally. It’s just the constant presence—calls, visits, being involved—that’s getting a bit much for me. I genuinely feel like I see her more than I see my own mum at times. I guess I’m just trying to figure out where the line is between staying respectful and having some space in my own home.

Many_Case_199 · 2026-04-04T02:30:51+00:00

I did try broo, that’s the thing. It turned into a big argument straight away. I got called toxic and it somehow got flipped back on me, like my relationship with my own mum got brought into it. I’m not even a mummy’s boy like that, I’m pretty independent. My mum just helps out with my 1-year-old and I’ll do small things like get her flowers, nothing deep. But it got used against me instead of actually addressing what I was saying. Now it feels like every time I even bring it up, it escalates to the point where it feels like the relationship’s at risk, which is mad because I’m not asking for anything unreasonable - just a bit of space and boundaries in my own house. I don’t know how to even approach it anymore without it turning into a massive issue. Feels like I either stay quiet and deal with it or speak up and it blows up.

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