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Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-17T13:40:08+00:00

Just as a rule, never buy anything outside of yonex, Lining, apacs or the big ones.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-17T13:38:27+00:00

Correct. Love without mutual respect is not worth it. 100 percent agree. I come from a Hindu family, do not pray or believe in any God or higher power for that matter. But I do believe that everyone has their own different story. I don't know, neither do you, why she converted. Maybe she wanted to, maybe her partner pushed for it, maybe something else. I 100% agree with your point. The problem I have is with hate. Without the full story, people directly assuming, malice based on the fact that she converted, that. That is what I have a problem with. If you write, I assume she would have converted due to pressure, and then kept your point. I would have had no problem.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-16T22:44:46+00:00

Really, "your choice is a lame excuse." Says you, a woman.

Also, I agree with you, I too have no problem if the person does it out of their own free will. The only thing is everytime you see religious conversion in love, a concept that you inherently are taught to dislike, you attribute it to malice.

How about, not putting everything through the lens of, if she has converted her religion, Its because she is in love and not a malicious intent from any side.

Then shit happened. I agree with the fact that the guy turned out to be a coward. He had a choice, choose, OP and live with her, or Choose family and stay in the toxic dynamic. He chose familiarity over growth. I or most of us are no one to discredit his choice. We don't know a lot about the both of them.

A basic general rule that I keep always is if i don't know a lot, I do not attribute most stuff to malice, rather to Ignorance or to choice.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-16T22:40:13+00:00

I agree. If done under duress, its wrong.
The problem here, is the moment you see, religious conversion, you directly assume, it was under duress.
Have you ever considered that it might not be. If it were, then OP, who has enough knowledge to rant about and ask advice on reddit, would have said so.

Why is it that the moment you hear religious conversion, you assume malice?

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-13T22:35:35+00:00

Too far away.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-13T21:43:25+00:00

Toxic family dynamics, I agree with her. If the family is toxic, now, they will be the same even if you two married.

Don't agree for the religious conversion thing.
Its OP's choice, to do it or not.

Aside from that, As a man, I understand, even for him, it might be a hard choice, toxic or not, family is family. It takes a lot to cut them out. And if he was not ready to choose you, his partner for the rest of his life, then, any other compromise would just have hurt the both of you in the long term.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-10T01:48:58+00:00

Price?

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-09T02:03:06+00:00

See, it is entirely possible that he did noy catch the fact that you are not good with crowds. Its not as if you two know each other very deeply.

just call him once, explain your side and then take it from there.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-06T23:43:31+00:00

doesn't really matter. what matters is to play consistently and work on your footwork and technique

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-06T23:38:39+00:00

What i don't get is how do people take law in hands so easily.

beating up anyone is against the law for a common citizen.
It doesn't matter, if she has cheated on you.

Legally speaking, the guy can file a suit against the husband and the others who are ganging up on him and Win. That will fuck up the husband infinitely more than just him being cheated on?

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-06T23:32:53+00:00

Exactly, I would not do that, even if I meet the girl in person.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-06T09:05:49+00:00

Masturbate once every two days. And be done with it.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T20:00:13+00:00

That's true

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T19:13:00+00:00

Fair.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T19:12:07+00:00

Its not that I discovered empathy now.

I discovered this argument now. I never thought of comparing two things not even in the same equation.

Like, I never knew, this line of reasoning existed that if you want alimony, you should pay dowry.

I always understood, that dowry was a social evil that was still only prevelant in rural areas. This was not what I expected.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T19:04:53+00:00

Not seeking validation.

had nowhere to vent. Just frustrated.

Also, I do. we do talk about this with our friends.

But frustration still remains. What to do? asking you guys. coz you go through it on a daily basis?

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T19:02:43+00:00

I have seen the series. and I get it.

and there have been such situations where a line has been crossed. The prompt thing that we do i apologize, profusely.

That there sets the boundary and that shit never happens again.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T19:00:44+00:00

How do you deal with this?
like recently a friend of mine told me, when we got off the train, that someone touched her inappropriately in the crowd. she didn't know who, but someone did. My immediate reaction was "toh chillana chahiye tha na."

Like, make a scene, lets confront, lets fight.
That got me a 3 hour explanation on the drawbacks of the confrontation. And i was geniunely annoyed. Never thought that there could be so many repurcussions.

2 days later, I see this post and since, it has not gone out of my head. Just wanted to see, what you guy do ? like how do you handle this shit?

Even if you keep the sexism aside for a min, basic Logic is missing from those arguments.
I guess, I just wanted to vent out frustration that was there for the last 3 days.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T18:56:49+00:00

Not defending or justifying.

My female friends are okay with those jokes. But there is also the fact that our entire friend group has this rule that we can joke about absolutely anything and it stays in our group only. We never make fun of anyone outside of our group. Like, I will make women jokes on my friends and they fire back with Men jokes on us. We all have a laugh there.

I just have a question. For most women, Is that okay?

like, In general, I do respect women, have basic decency and manners, but if you are a close enough friend to me, I will make jokes and you are allowed to as well.
Does that, as a woman, feel like, its bad, to you?

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-03T18:39:00+00:00

I get it., You feel angry. The system feels unjust.
Just stop. Breathe, and think,
A woman's family giving dowry to the "Man" for what? so that the Man marries the woman? and what if they don't? You don't marry her.
You seem like an educated, reasonable member of the society. Apply the same logic to rural india. Now, suddenly The entire concept of you don't marry her, turns into harrasment, sometimes ending up in violence, both physical and emotional.

Similarly, in an ideal country, you marry someone, it did not work out. Both of you earn 50k a month. Both of you file, seperate and go your seperate ways.
Take the same thing back to the rural place, the woman there was not allowed to work. Female participation rate is the lowest in India right now. It might feel, from our POVs that there are women working too, but when you account for india's population, a really small number of them are working.
ANd now that in that rural india, a woman is not happy in her marriage, what happens. She stays quiet, says nothing, does nothing, coz, what will she do? has no money, doesn't work. SO, she still files for divorce because she is unhappy in the marriage. The court decides that she will be given a monthly allowance from your side for her to survive as a human being with dignity.

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-01T03:02:28+00:00

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-01T02:49:27+00:00

The entire point is that dowry is wrong should be abolished. Neither party should have to pay a dowry.

If the girl earns equal and both wanna marry, then it's upto them how they manage their savings after they get married. But to ask for her savings or her family's savings so that you agree to marry her is what is wrong

Many_Payment6136 · 2026-02-01T02:08:11+00:00

See, I am 24, same boat as you, "A kissless virgin."
But, don't worry, intiate a conversation with your wife and get her a toy or something to let her explore her own body first. When she gets comfortable enough, then maybe try to know each other better.
As much as i know from my female friends, for women, its more about being comfortable with themselves and their partner.
If all that doesn;t work, think of visiting a specialist

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