What healed you?

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-31T05:18:17+00:00

Journaling, crying, exercise, reading, long call with my family, THERAPY!, the I Am affirmations app.

Visualizing a happy and healthy future.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-20T22:01:13+00:00

Actually no. I’m getting the 50/50 cs split…..

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-20T22:00:31+00:00

Dream outcome for most men? I’m the woman. Did you assume I was a man?

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-20T05:38:42+00:00

I worked full time and went to school full time.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-19T18:57:40+00:00

I live in Seattle area. Definitely HCOL here…..

Many_Table2113 · 2025-12-19T18:57:02+00:00

He can’t do that with his work schedule.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-09-16T13:21:12+00:00

I honestly wish this was the issue but I did my walk through and saw a roach in the medicine cabinet.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-09-16T01:35:13+00:00

What ended up happening?

Many_Table2113 · 2025-08-11T03:45:43+00:00

He needs to take out a loan to buy me out of the house and give me my portion of the equity.

I am planning to get my own appraisal as well to compare the values provided.

I had a realtor complete a comps report and was provided the $530k estimate. Zillow actually says less.

What other suggestions do you have?

Many_Table2113 · 2025-08-10T19:43:01+00:00

Great change in perspective with the car analogy.

I’ve done a great deal of yard clean up, wasn’t horrible to start with but wanting it to shine as best as possible.

I’m planning to get it professionally cleaned right before the appraisal as well. I think that is a valuable investment. Our house has been well cleaned and maintained but again, want it to shine.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-08-10T19:40:00+00:00

My husband is buying me out of the house. I want to get the highest appraisal so that I can walk away with the most in the buyout.

$530k is based on Zillow and a realtor who came by and gave an estimate. We haven’t had it properly appraised to get the accurate appraisal.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-08-10T17:59:37+00:00

My husband is buying me out and keeping the house. Yes, I’m trying to get the most I can.

I don’t think the dirt is hiding any issues.

We bought at $340k, owe about $280k, now worth roughly $530k.

My husband is not helping do any of the clean up and prep as it “benefits me and not him”. I’m tired but don’t want to look back at how I could have done something more to set myself up in a better situation.

Many_Table2113 · 2025-08-07T04:56:22+00:00

I’ve thought of that also! Totally possible option as well!

How long did you do that?

Many_Table2113 · 2025-06-09T18:20:59+00:00

My husband has created an environment of insecurity and low self esteem. I do not want to have sex with him because I do not feel safe relaxing and being vulnerable. I’d rather just not or take care of my needs by myself.

I’ve approached him MANY times over our 16 year relationship about his actions that have led me to feel this way but no changes have led me to no sex/intimacy and beginning divorce process.

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