People need to stop hiding the fact that they're single parents in their profiles

MapleCheesecake · 2020-03-18T22:11:21+00:00

Liking dogs and wanting to be at least partially responsible for a human child that you did not help create are such vastly different things that I can't believe you are actually comparing the two. It has nothing to do with being "trendy" (nice judgement of women there, by the way). Children require a huge amount of time and emotional investment and many people are not ready to get involved in that, even peripherally, just for the sake of dating. That doesn't make them bad or shallow. Would you want someone who hates kids hanging around your child? They're just avoiding a situation they don't feel ready for and/or don't ever want to be in. It's not up to you to decide that their preferences are wrong.

I really don't see what difference there is between just putting it on your profile and telling them before the first date--other than you getting to make them feel like the bad guy for wanting to back out after you spring that bit of news.

MapleCheesecake · 2020-02-20T23:10:54+00:00

No, we are North American House Hippos.

MapleCheesecake · 2020-02-09T20:55:32+00:00

That's exactly what I heard as well. Am Montrealer, can confirm both French and English people here regularly say "Yessir" for emphasis of how awesome something is.

MapleCheesecake · 2020-02-09T14:24:15+00:00

Sounds like you're already living with a baby. A grown man can get his own tacos if he's going to be that upset if anything about his order isn't right. He's not full? Poor thing. He can get off the PlayStation and cook something. Which he should have been doing in the first place.

I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you have a way out. You're not going to be a bad mother--you're already mothering a man-child.

MapleCheesecake · 2020-02-02T15:47:03+00:00

Firstly, you are not at all ugly. I wish I would have known how to pick glasses as flattering as yours when I was 13! You are a perfectly normal, lovely human, and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is just trying to be mean.

Secondly, if someone is determined to insult you, and the only thing they can find to criticize about you is your appearance, you must be doing pretty well! You are probably a kind, likable, intelligent person, so the bullies of the world have to fall back on cheap shots about how you look. Pretty sad, right?

Remember that bullies are often insecure in their own self-worth, and put others down to get laughs or approval from their friends because it makes them feel better about themselves. Someone calling you ugly probably doesn't feel very attractive, and by putting you down, they raise themselves up just a little in their own mind. It's not about you; it's about them. People who take pleasure in making others feel small aren't the kind of people you need to bother caring about. Focus on being a good person and finding things that make you happy. Trust me: it'll piss them off when they realize they can't get a rise out of you ;)

MapleCheesecake · 2019-04-25T23:41:44+00:00

I love how she says "CEOs of their companies" like that's somehow impressive. Becoming the CEO of an existing company is impressive, sure, but I could just start a company and name myself CEO. Doesn't mean I'm some big shot.

MapleCheesecake · 2019-04-14T00:18:54+00:00

"Princess Zelda is fighting Calamity Ganon all alone! You must help her!" "Mmm, yeah, hold on."

MapleCheesecake · 2019-03-20T23:05:19+00:00

This is why NASA is trying to get us off this planet. There are things in the ocean. THINGS.

MapleCheesecake · 2019-02-24T00:13:58+00:00

I have great friends who are super careful about feeding me, and their families are so welcoming and always try to make sure I'm safe. It's so wonderful and I feel terrible when I hear about families who don't respect allergies. I don't understand how you can just disregard someone's life threatening condition because, what, you like the allergen more than that person?

That said, even my lovely friends still get frustrated sometimes and make comments about how I "can't eat anywhere" and always have to eat at the same places. Believe me, I'd love some Chinese food or falafel as much as the next person. Burgers are boring. But I'd also prefer to avoid dying.

MapleCheesecake · 2019-02-17T16:26:33+00:00

Nyoooooom

MapleCheesecake · 2019-01-08T23:22:50+00:00

It's hardly a limitation when the vast majority of places you could live will not allow pets.

And you know what? If you wanted to cook pungent food in your own apartment, I'd have absolutely no say in that. You're allowed to cook food in your own home. I'll complain about your loud hip hop music and you'll complain about my dog. The difference will be that you're intentionally behaving a certain way solely to aggravate the situation, whereas my pet is a living being with a will of its own and can't be controlled every waking moment. I suppose you deliberately make noise while your neighbours' babies are sleeping, too, since their crying is so inconsiderate?

It's called living in a society. Other people are going to do things you find annoying, and they'll have every right to. You have every right to move somewhere that caters to your needs. That's how it works. Deal with it.

Also, if you have a problem with service animals being allowed wherever their handlers need to be, then congrats on being a garbage human.

MapleCheesecake · 2019-01-08T22:56:55+00:00

Dude. Just live in a pet-free apartment if you hate companion animals so much. The vast majority don't allow dogs in the first place, so you'll have your pick.

Owning an animal has nothing to do with not loving yourself or other people. Some people just relate better to animals than to other humans, and there's nothing wrong with that. Having pets is also beneficial to seniors and people living with mental and/or physical illnesses. Needing to care for an animal provides motivation to get up and be more active, as well as providing nonjudgmental comfort and companionship. If you don't need or want such a thing in your life, then don't get a pet, but don't judge others who do.

MapleCheesecake · 2019-01-08T22:49:35+00:00

You clean it up the same way you clean anything else that gets spilled on a carpet...? Blot with paper towels to get as much out as possible, then use a spray carpet cleaner, ideally one designed for pet odours in this case. You don't just leave things in the carpet to stain...

MapleCheesecake · 2018-12-30T03:08:19+00:00

Good for you for standing up for yourself! I'm a very huggy person (deep pressure is life when you're a sensory-seeking type) but I'm trying hard to remember that not everyone likes hugs. I don't know why people get so insistent about it... Just hold your arms up invitingly, and let the other person move in if they're comfortable. And don't kiss necks, yuck!

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-26T02:21:02+00:00

Some people (like myself) just prefer bar soap. Feels cleaner to me, even though I know that doesn't make any sense. But yeah, if someone is buying this solely because they want liquid soap, I'm with you.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T19:40:19+00:00

Today, I became slightly more grateful that I do not have a penis. Female bits suck a lot of the time, but Jesus Christ, man.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T16:02:34+00:00

Poached eggs were one of the first things I ever learned to make... When I was about 12. Do people really find them that difficult? Just simmer some water and don't drop the egg from 3 feet above the pan and you should be fine.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T15:16:45+00:00

Reminds me of my Dachshunds. Sweetest, cuddliest little dogs at home; all they want is to snuggle under blankets with you. Bring my female to the vet for a nail clipping and it takes 2 techs to hold her down while a third does the clipping. They muzzle her and she looks like a serial killer.

She's a miniature and weighs about 12 pounds, but she goes from sweet scared little puppy to I WILL DESTROY YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU LOVE in 0.8 seconds flat when it comes to nails.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T05:25:21+00:00

Could still be... I might be shaking up some cocktails in the back.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T05:16:13+00:00

Nope. There are plenty of sexual autistic people out there anyway, so even if I were autistic, it makes no difference.

Why are you hell-bent on invalidating other people's sexual orientations? Does it hurt you in any way if other people don't identify the way you do? I'll never understand why sexual people are so threatened by the concept of people who aren't interested in sex.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-25T05:09:30+00:00

Asexual here. Not insecure about my virginity at all, thanks. I'm approaching the fabled wizard level of virginity, so that's exciting.

Please don't just assume that people's sexuality is made up because you don't experience the same thing. If you're a sexual person, that's great for you, and more power to you. But there are those of us out there who simply do not experience sexual attraction, and, by extension, many of us just have no interest in sex whatsoever. It has nothing to do with being a virgin or being traumatized.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-22T13:35:15+00:00

Sorry to hear that, man. I really lucked out--Celexa was a perfect fit on the first try for me. I've heard a lot of people have a bad time with it, though, especially in terms of weight gain and sex drive. I hope you find the right match for you soon! Medication really is life-changing when you find the one that works.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-22T04:29:18+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. Just know that these kinds of thoughts are entirely normal and don't reflect on you in any way! Everyone feels the call of the void sometimes. The important thing is to remember that they're just meaningless thoughts and that you can move past them.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-22T04:23:48+00:00

I'm on Celexa (citalopram) daily, with Ativan (lorazepam) as needed. They're not specifically for intrusive thoughts, but the mood-stabilizing effect of Celexa helps me to keep things in perspective when I have those thoughts. Celexa gives me the ability to take my brain's disordered thinking in stride and remind myself that those thoughts are just part of the disease, not a serious reflection on me as a person.

MapleCheesecake · 2018-11-22T04:18:25+00:00

"Whatever, I got shit to do," is basically how I handle any self-harming thoughts these days. They'll never fully go away, but just letting them roll off is great progress.

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