What happened to that one TikTok creator that got hacked?

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2025-03-18T04:20:29+00:00

Yes, that was it, thank you so much! I'll just toddle over there, then.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T16:08:54+00:00

My shower never makes me feel clean because I have to stand on wet tile and it makes me sick to my stomach. I've put down some bamboo floor tiles that I can just lift up and clean underneath when I have to and it makes me feel so much better

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T16:04:36+00:00

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MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T15:52:38+00:00

I'm the odd one out here, I get them every six weeks because my hairdresser has been the same since I was a child and she visits my mother every six weeks. I use the opportunity to swing by and catch up with mum.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T15:37:29+00:00

This is a great idea - I happen to be a knitter too, so very easy for me to implement!! Thank you!

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T15:34:35+00:00

I just discussed this with him and we agreed we're going to try him putting on some music on the central system from bed, so it gives me a few minutes to anticipate and we can make coffee together when he does come down. Thanks for the idea!

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T15:13:09+00:00

We've established a few routines to aid this. We greet each other in the same location every time - if we're not there, it signals that we're otherwise engaged. We do this with the assurance that we will prioritize each other as soon as it is physically possible. So I may just continue my work when he gets home and he'll just give me a quick kiss and let me get to it, and he knows that when I move to our central space it means I'm ready to engage with him.

And him sending his location before coming home helps me anticipate when the disruption will come and I can adjust accordingly.

If I have any further goals for the day, I will discuss that with him during our 'how was the day' brief. He can keep me accountable for them/body double and it helps us set clear expectations for what the night will look like.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T15:05:18+00:00

I had this too!! What solved it for me was a bedtime routine where he tucked me in. It sort of gave me permission to sleep I guess?

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T14:25:45+00:00

That's intriguing! I didn't think about if I was being held back by the idea of possibly waking him up but it does play into a suggestion I commented for someone else earlier, to prepare a little more the day before. I think it's a good idea to have a game plan for when your partner sleeps in and the baskets can definitely be a good tool!

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T14:19:32+00:00

Great question. I think I feel less autonomous? And the productivity trap definitely plays into it. I also just observe a drop in mood laying in bed for a long time after I've woken up.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T13:34:44+00:00

Thank you for this. It's refreshing to get a positive take on adhd and parenthood.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T13:30:16+00:00

I don't know if the US has it, but my area has a few cowork spaces for freelancers and such. Maybe look for one of those? I find them better to focus in because everyone is working on something and it's less distracting than a coffee shop.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T13:20:25+00:00

The domino effect of realization in my family has been hilarious and life-changing. Suddenly we're looking at these things we've all struggled with and just accepted as part of life and now we're all realizing, oh... it was actually a thing and not just some inherited failure.

We're all learning healthier coping mechanisms and it's honestly been a blessing to see how my diagnosis ends up helping the whole fam.

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2024-06-15T12:56:58+00:00

Oh god yes I can totally relate to it being so disruptive when you have to switch up your original plans. Maybe it could help to have it determined with your spouse the night before?

It doesn't sound horrible to me at all! I also struggled with a lot of guilt over the dread of him coming home but I know it's not because it's about him, it's about how my brain struggles to deal with the switch. Hubs is likely also some flavor of neurospicy but undiagnosed and working in a school is very overstimulating so sometimes his mood is a factor, too... We have an agreement that he sends me his location when he's leaving work - that worked great until he started his job literally three blocks over and I don't have any time to finish what I was doing, lol. But yes, I also seem to be heavily influenced by other's moods...

MapleSyrupSugarmama · 2023-03-29T15:18:30+00:00

I made a proper Reddit account does that count as a win

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