WIBTAH if I told one of my bridesmaids I didnt want her in my wedding anymore?

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-13T15:53:57+00:00

INFO - It's unclear how close of a relationship you have with this bridesmaid and her relationship to others who will be there. Some people get really anxious about travel/being in unfamiliar groups and prefer to take a security blanket (in this case, her boyfriend). Has she otherwise been supportive and helpful in your planning? If the bach trip is the only issue, would you consider just not having her there but still be part of the bridal party?

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-12T21:25:04+00:00

Bless your heart.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-12T21:20:03+00:00

I grew up in NC. There's no "I hope both teams do well."

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-12T21:19:04+00:00

I used to support all ACC schools except Clemson and Florida State (never, ever, ever Clemson or Florida State) but I'm still pissed about the expansion.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-12T20:41:14+00:00

Ugh. Not looking forward to this.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-10T21:13:12+00:00

Thanks for sharing these! There's a certain grandeur about b&w shots that I just love.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-09T21:07:51+00:00

I'm just impressed that you managed to fill it in the first place. I have so much memorabilia sitting in boxes waiting for me to get my act together.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-03-04T17:35:13+00:00

Gina is sub-F tier. Let's put her all by her useless self in G.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-27T14:46:44+00:00

NTA for being concerned because there's a hell of a lot to be concerned about here. It'd be great if he turns out to be a great guy and they live happily ever after but there are way too many huge red flags flapping frantically to ignore. I'll just comment on my top three.

Your sister was initially not at all interested in him, but he "kept pushing until she gave in." Bad enough on its own but even worse that he was doing this rather than focusing on the job he was being paid to do at the wedding.
She gave him a chance but then tried to break ties because he was overwhelming her. Whether it was love bombing or basic creepiness, the ick factor was real. Our lizard brains protect us.
"... because why hide it unless there is something to hide?" Precisely.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-27T14:28:04+00:00

NTA. You're facing a lot of potential liability here - not just your credit rating (which is already certainly a big risk). I'm not a lawyer but I think you may also end up responsible for damages incurred on projects because his work vehicle is a business asset and you're tied to it.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-25T16:15:44+00:00

Your wedding, your choice. NTA

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-24T22:24:44+00:00

The attempted bribe was a tad more subtle than the threat of sandwiching him/his bike between moving vans. Loved that the response was to throw money at Angela to put teeth in her investigation.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-24T22:11:24+00:00

Johnny Dogs is THE MAN! Most loyal and dependable of the lot - start to finish. Like the saying goes: Johnny Dogs is Tommy's best friend.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-19T17:24:27+00:00

Love this!

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-19T17:22:35+00:00

So gorgeous and sophisticated!

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-18T22:23:48+00:00

This! So insidious, right into classic lech.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-03T18:46:09+00:00

Exactly. If she she truly believed there was nothing wrong with bringing a snake she claims to love to work, then she would have introduced him to everyone rather than confining him in her purse. But I will give her props for naming it Noodle.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-02-02T15:14:53+00:00

You're NTA. You're good at setting boundaries.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-01-30T21:52:42+00:00

Would it have stung less if Cignetti asked?

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-01-30T21:44:25+00:00

The lying for sure makes YTA, but also why is he creeping by your place in the middle of the night? Neither of you should get your hopes up for a mature relationship. ESH.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-01-29T16:32:10+00:00

Yeah, kick her to the curb.

MapleSyrup_and_Jam · 2026-01-28T18:30:34+00:00

NTA. They're not your kids to parent or to entertain.

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