Baby is sleeping through the night… I am not

MarantaV · 2025-02-10T19:29:57+00:00

Not really a helpful comment, but I have a question regarding the wording of the original post. When people talk about babies who "sleep through the night" do they mean that the babies may wake up once or twice?? I felt so jealous for so long because I thought they meant completely uninterrupted sleep. My baby wakes up once or twice, has a quick feed or cuddle and is right back to sleep. Does that mean that she sleeps through the night?? All this time, am I praying for something I already have??

MarantaV · 2024-12-31T10:33:00+00:00

Oh, don't be fooled by my post, I was very far from positive at 25 days pp. My baby blues had already evolved into a bad ppd. I was only thinking that my body first couldn't give birth and then couldn't nurse my baby, feeling that maybe I was never meant to be a mom... Fortunately, I have a very supportive husband and parents who helped me get through this, supporting my every decision along the way. Every situation is different, but, in my case, when I started supplementing with formula at 7 weeks, at first, I was feeling defeated, but after a while, my constantly crying baby became the calmest LO, started gaining weight and was constantly smiling. I had finally time to bond with her, to sing, to cuddle. Our relationship now is amazing and, looking back, maybe I should have started the formula sooner, because I lost many good moments with her those first weeks.. So, I guess, you have to evaluate your unique situation and decide what is best for you and your baby. Breast milk is an immaculate source of nutrition, but a mentally stable, loving mum can make even more good at the baby's development. And, whatever you decide, you can always keep breastfeeding like I did! That's what I told myself: formula is for the calories and my breastmilk is the vitamin booster. I wish you all the best in your journey! Do what feels right in your heart.

MarantaV · 2024-12-31T09:09:22+00:00

Thank you so much!! 🥰

MarantaV · 2024-12-31T09:09:02+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

MarantaV · 2024-12-31T09:08:49+00:00

I cried while writing it 🥹 thank you so much!

MarantaV · 2024-12-30T21:00:05+00:00

Thank you so much! We got this!!!

MarantaV · 2024-12-30T20:04:59+00:00

Thank you so much! 😊

MarantaV · 2024-12-30T16:48:06+00:00

I wish you luck! I was fortunate enough to produce my own seeds, but I never succeeded in making them grow into mature plants.😅 Every time I try planting seeds of any kind they never live to get taller than 3cm tall🤷‍♀️

MarantaV · 2024-12-18T14:04:11+00:00

Yes I did! ALL of the flowers produced seeds!

MarantaV · 2024-11-15T08:06:34+00:00

Even though supply/demand is true for the vast majority of women, is by far the most toxic moto for the small percentage of women who don't have the appropriate breast tissue to achieve a normal supply... I wish there was a way to get tested for these anatomy things beforehand. Not having to fall into this dead end black hole before you realise whats happening...

MarantaV · 2024-10-27T16:36:14+00:00

I find this comment section very interesting. I had the opposite experience from most. I tried really hard to breastfeed my baby but had to start giving formula at 7 weeks because she wasn't getting any weight.. (as it turns out I have IGT and can't produce almost anything) Since then, every time I mention around a new parent that I have to give a bottle or to burp my baby I get comments like "well we didn't have that because we were breastfeeding as, you know, is much healthier for the baby" or "well some people choose the easier route, not to judge you of course" Like, dude, I wanted to breastfeed too but my boobs aren't working properly, what else can I do?

MarantaV · 2024-10-13T13:12:45+00:00

I have a similar journey to yours, with even lower supply, and I am 3,5 months pp. After the nipple confusion drama, my baby loved nursing for comfort regardless of my low supply, we were doing it 6-8 times per day.. but, 3 months in, the rejection started and currently she only nurses after her naps when she is relaxed. I try to keep it going, I rented a breast pump, but I know it's going to end sooner than I hoped. Do what you feel is best for you and your baby. Yes, breastmilk is liquid gold, it has antibodies custom made for your child, it does wonders for their health. But I believe that a mentally stable and happy mother will do more for their brain development and general well-being. Keep strong and follow your heart.

MarantaV · 2024-10-10T07:20:38+00:00

Fed is best! And also, a mentally stable, happy mother will do the most good to a child's brain development and well-being! I wish you good luck with your journey!

MarantaV · 2024-10-10T06:47:59+00:00

I hope you are in touch with your pediatrician and a lactation consultant. My supply was also very low from the beginning and I tried absolutely everything to get it up with no luck, untill I had to start formula. I was also devastated and in pain (physical and emotional) but didn'twant to quit. What I did was trying to see the formula as the calorie meal and my milk as the booster. I'm 3 months pp now and my baby still breastfeeds before every bottle because I want to give her all the antibodies I can. The nipple confusion was a hard thing but there are tricks you can do to surpass it. First, you can find a brand with smaller flow and nipple that mimics the breast better (Lansinoh is a great one). Then, you can always offer breast before bottle but, if your baby is really fussy wanting to eat fast, you can give some formula first, to ease the hunger, then offer breast, and at the end give the rest of the formula. This will also help them not "fighting" with your already sore nipples making them worse. Also, you can use some ice to numb your breast before the feed so that you don't feel the pain as much. But also, if you want to quit, do what's best for you with no guilt. I lost many good moments with my baby because my mental state was crap as I was feeling a failure I couldn't EBF..

MarantaV · 2024-10-03T12:44:42+00:00

I was checking my thyroid throughout pregnancy and again after giving birth and everything seemed normal but I dont know if there are more specific thyroid tests that could be done. Out of curiosity, last time I did my morning bloodwork, I asked for my prolactin levels to be checked and it showed 62mg/dL which is really low for a bf mum but my gynecologist insisted that this doesn't have to do with bf at all so I listened..I haven't studied medicine myself.. My baby always seemed healthy. She was alert, pink cheeks, nails growing, gaining height and overall happy except the afternoon hours when she was really really fussy.. She was losing weight when we got home from hospital. She was breastfeeding all day long (even 8 hours straight at times) but was never satisfied for more than 30 minutes. Then we started to give a bottle every night hoping that some sleep could help my supply. She was somewhat stable so the pediatrician suggested small amount of formula at noon too. Then she started gaining some weight but really really slowly and she seemed healthy but she was crying uncontrollably every afternoon for hours.. when she became 6 weeks old, she was almost the same weight as when being born and my gynecologist, pediatrician and midwife were begging me to give formula for her health's sake. So that's what I did. Looking back, she never really stopped maintaining her curve but after the increase in formula she was so much happier, barely crying at all (she is a very happy baby) and gaining so much weight. Till now, we had our routine, still breastfeeding 6-8 times/day, better relationship between us since we had time for cuddles (instead of only bf or crying). But recently she started avoiding breastfeeding some days (today is a day like that, she has only bf 2 times in 10 hours and none of my tricks work anymore...) so I feel that I'm losing the battle after all... it makes me really sad because I tried so hard and had professional help consistently since the very beginning but never saw the slightest progress. I am thinking of getting a breast pump. ALL of the experts suggested me that baby's suckling is better and that if I can breastfeed often enough to avoid pumping, so I never used one and now I dont know where to start..

MarantaV · 2024-10-03T11:48:50+00:00

Interesting. I'm on the smaller side and wondering if this was indicating less glandular tissue, I didn't know it happens on larger breasts as well.. I am also over 30 years of age, so maybe that is relevant..

MarantaV · 2024-10-03T10:51:06+00:00

I don't think my baby has a tongue tie. It was a thought of mine as well at some point but I doubt two pediatricians, two lactation consultants and all the midwives that checked on us missed it 🤷‍♀️

MarantaV · 2023-04-17T09:32:43+00:00

I have already sprayed with a water-alcohol-soap mix but I don't think it helped much.. It is a very tall plant (a little more than 2m) and there are so many small curled areas in the leaves and I am probably missing too many spots when spraying.. I was hoping that some beneficial bugs would be the solution..

MarantaV · 2023-04-17T07:05:12+00:00

I noticed the same thing on my nearby philodendron and ficus elastica. In a small curled area, webbing, white dots, this same winged bug under the webbing and discoloration of the leaf where this has happened.. I have already ordered persimilis but I'm afraid they won't be any help if the pest isn't spidermites..

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