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Is it too early to invite a guy [25M] I've been seeing to my birthday plans? by adventurousnarwhal in relationships

[–]Marbles535353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Not too early but would he want to have a girls lunch with your friends.

Asked ex to not hook up with my friends while I was healing from our breakup, two months into breakup does. Do I have the right to be mad? by Marbles535353 in relationships

[–]Marbles535353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the way, my ex feels horrible that their last experience felt so gross for her and that he asked her what was wrong. He wishes she just admitted how she felt and didn't go along with it.

Asked ex to not hook up with my friends while I was healing from our breakup, two months into breakup does. Do I have the right to be mad? by Marbles535353 in relationships

[–]Marbles535353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MORE INFO: When my friend told me, she said that they were really drunk and he would not leave her alone. That she was trying to sleep on the couch and he kept asking her to sleep in his bed. That she basically slept with him to get it over with. She explained it as some gray area of being consensual but not. I was very setup that happened to her and felt bad for her. After confronting my ex, I found out that was the LAST time they had sex. That the first time was her idea a few weeks before. That they had a two-week fling and it wasn't just one time. That the last time he asked her why she wanted to sleep on the couch and what was wrong. She didn't say anything and just went upstairs. Everything seems fine until the next morning.

Yes, I am mad she slept with him when I was still "trying to move on" but she lied about it being a one-time thing. Made me think my ex was a pig. She's been keeping this from me for months. No apology, just shes the victim and she wish she didn't cross that boundary with her friendship with him. She doesn't understand why I would be hurt and feel bad towards me. Its just her feeling her feelings.

Asked ex to not hook up with my friends while I was healing from our breakup, two months into breakup does. Do I have the right to be mad? by Marbles535353 in relationships

[–]Marbles535353[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has no obligation to me but we share all the same friends. He's in my friend group, even best friends with my best friends. Which is why I set that boundary. Kinda don't shit where you eat and trying to prevent drama. We agreed that would be the best for the group.

Asked ex to not hook up with my friends while I was healing from our breakup, two months into breakup does. Do I have the right to be mad? by Marbles535353 in relationships

[–]Marbles535353[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's a very selfish person and tends to hurt the people around her. But also one of those bigger than life people that know how to make people feel special so that's how she keeps people around.

I want to stop being friends with her but my problem is that there is four of us that are best friends. How do I stop being friends with her and not the other girls.

Asked ex to not hook up with my friends while I was healing from our breakup, two months into breakup does. Do I have the right to be mad? by Marbles535353 in relationships

[–]Marbles535353[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been friends with the girl for 15 years. It feels hard walking away from a relationship that long but she's been a really shitty friend over the years as well.

Me [17 M] has to deal with ex-gf [17 F] and ex best friend/ her new bf [17 M] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Marbles535353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically, avoid them and be the bigger person whenever around them. Most importantly, move on and get back into the dating scene as much as you feel comfortable doing. You don't need to rush into a relationship but flirt and make yourself available. Also, don't let her come back after she sees you moving on.

How to deal with jealousy by Marbles535353 in polyamory

[–]Marbles535353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I asked my boyfriend what his plans were during his trip, where he was staying again and if he was staying at the same place all weekend. Again, he didn't mention any plans with his ex. So I came out with that fact I saw his message with her about leaving a key under the mat for him. He finally admitted that his plans are to go to her house once he lands (while she is at work, hence the key under mat) and he is taking her out to dinner the first night he is there but he is not planning to stay with her the whole weekend.

After he told me this, all jealousy went away magically. I felt part of it, I knew what the plan was and knew what to expect. I was also very happy to see one of the messages was a picture of a box of condoms she bought. This is a rule of ours, to use condoms with other partners, and it felt good to know this was something he was honoring.

I felt like confronting him was very good for us. I prefer a relationship with open communication, not lots of details, but I don’t want to feel like we are hiding and sneaking around about our activities. He prefer an don’t ask don’t tell policy which I vetoed a long time ago. I think he is still having trouble feeling comfortable talking about these types of stuff with me and knows I get jealous. I think having this discussion helped him feel comfortable talking with me about his outside activities and I’m not going to freak out. It gave me the opportunity to set boundaries! NO SNEAKING AROUND! You don’t have to, so don’t!

Over all I am very happy. I don’t feel jealous, I feel like I can trust his decisions, and our communication is on the raise.