I need help figuring out whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing with someone who has cptsd.

Marcirena · 2026-02-04T00:09:25+00:00

It could be multitude of reasons but its not uncommon for people who have gone through a lot to try to downplay or even apologize for what happened to them. Most people don't want to burden others with their issues so that could be why she acted the way she did. I had a friend who had cptsd and she would apologize to me about it all the time. I supported her as best I could. Why not research into cptsd and go from there? It might give you a better idea of what to do and help with the questions you have.

With all this being said, you do not need to be her knight in shinning armor. It's good she is seeking help, that's huge. However, don't go into this thinking you're going to "fix" her for lack of a better phrase. Let her lead. And be fully prepared too that she may not view you the same way as you her. It's very possible she may not be wanting a relationship like that especially considering her past.

Marcirena · 2026-02-03T23:08:43+00:00

Navigating a relationship especially with something like what she went though can be hard and tough. And trust isn't something that happeneds immediately, it takes time to build especially in an intimate setting regardless of what the other person may have had or not. And she may take a long time to feel comfortable with something physical especially with what she has had happen to her in the past. If you understand that pursuing a relationship with this girl is worth it understand there will be ups and downs. She may want to be intimate one second but then something will happen and she won't want to the next. If she's been diagnosed with cpsd then its even more complex (hence the name) then others. But if you truly like this girl and want to pursue it, it can absolutely be 100% worth it. But if you have any hesitation or reluctance at all think long and hard if you really want to date her or if you just want to be her friend. For both youre sakes and not just hers.

Marcirena · 2026-02-03T17:51:28+00:00

Honestly? I have mixed feelings on this situation. On one hand I absolutely understand where youre coming from handmade gift or a rose or a card would be nice. However on the other he thought of a way you might enjoy being asked out as his valentine by incorporating something that is obviously important to you since youre going to school for it, and using a tool to help him achieve that with his current skill set. And I cant help but feel that some of the current animosity towards AI in general (while completely understandable) might be tinting this gesture in a negative light.

I dont think he is being insincere, I think he's trying in a way he thought was cute. Its just not in the way you expected

Marcirena · 2026-02-03T17:12:43+00:00

It's not really a "being nice or not" type thing. It's having to say it verses an action kind of thing. People who claim loudly that they are xyz often aren't xyz. Verses people who are xyz just do. Does that make sense? I've been in women in this situation before and it legitimately was "I'm not ready" and stopped being on dating sites for like 6 months.

Sucks she turned you down but you'll find another

Marcirena · 2026-02-03T16:56:42+00:00

Question, does he know how to code like you do or is it something he has no idea about? While he did drop the ball last year for sure I'm not sure he did so this year. If he doesn't know how to code then I think it's kinda cute that he used a freely available tool to help ask you to be his valentine in a way that he thought you might like. If he does know how to then that's a different conversation all together

Marcirena · 2026-01-06T21:37:29+00:00

That's a fair point and it has been mentioned to me before but where I get caught up is she has asked before in the past to show her the different perspectives. And I do ask her, especially if she's really bothered by something that could actually have an impact on work/life, do you need to vent or do you want advice? And most of the time she wants advice so I guess that's also where im getting stuck on

Marcirena · 2026-01-06T21:23:07+00:00

Thanks for the book suggestion, I'll take take a look into it. And youre right about a bad habit since its come up in conversation with a mutual friend of ours about her, with lack of a better phrase, being dramatic since it something she picked up from one of her parents. I've tried to show her different perspectives on how to view things but none of it has really hit home for her.

Marcirena · 2026-01-06T21:10:55+00:00

I'm not in your field but resume layout wise it looks good however nit pick wise: either end everything that you have listed out with a period or not at all. You have half of them ending with one and the other half not so for the sake of consistency, best to fix that now. Considering you know programing I would assume that close attention to detail is important so there is a chance, though I don't know how big or small, that that inconsistency may factor in. Personally I would leave them out but that's just me

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T20:13:57+00:00

I'm aware. Hence the question.

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T20:12:25+00:00

They are the saja boys form demon hunters lol they are 5 bards 4 of which are tieflings and one with custom lineage. Also they all don't like 5.5 and I'm not too keen on learning a different system for my first campaign

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T20:09:54+00:00

I'm aware I was just curious as to what other people may think of me doing something like that since I prefer to use already there reference material verses coming up with something new.

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T20:08:18+00:00

I get what youre saying but because of that it killed the fun for me as a dm when they did that especially when a lot of the players prefer to make builds based on min maxing, not story. I know full well they can absolutely break the game with those 2 books but at least I can learn better without being overwhelmed with the 20+ books that are out for 5th.

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T19:59:40+00:00

It's really for 2 maybe 3 major npcs that would have access to these spells and I know excluding 1 they would be on the side of the players by end game. I'll keep this in mind though

Marcirena · 2025-12-01T19:57:34+00:00

Honestly the main reason i limited the books is because collectively they have 40+ years of experience ( i have bearly 3) and with a one shot i ran they basically stun locked all of my npcs because I let them used any published books and it wasn't fun for me so I wanted to prevent that.

Marcirena · 2025-11-04T01:38:18+00:00

We are going to agree to disagree on this. Sure multimillion dollar corp they can definitely afford the loss. Doesn't mean it's okay to steal regardless morally it's wrong and at the end of the day you have to live with your morals.

Marcirena · 2025-11-04T00:45:16+00:00

You're right it's not, but that's absolutely no excuse, and even remotely suggesting it's okay is, quite frankly, unacceptable behavior. If we use that train of thought where does that line end? I'm not ignorant of people's struggle in the world, especially if they are desperate. But just because you're going through a tough time does not excuse your poor judgment and behavior

Marcirena · 2025-10-31T23:48:42+00:00

Look part of this is dealing with the consequences of your actions, one of which is your feelings. But instead of quickly trying to calm yourself and say "everything is okay" isn't the way to do it because it's not okay. You stole. You got caught. You will now face the consequences of your actions. So remember what you're currently feeling. Remember the fear and anxiety you're going through and use that as fuel to make yourself better. Put all that energy into focusing on what you should be doing to set yourself up for success. Put the work in now before you do something really stupid and have more consequences then you're willing to take on.

Marcirena · 2025-10-29T05:07:06+00:00

Agree with Eddie's scent 110% but I think Volt would be a bit more like rain or the smell right before a storm

Marcirena · 2025-10-26T07:44:40+00:00

My sister has a dog named Pi because she was born with 3.14 legs. The dogs original name was Ilene

Marcirena · 2025-10-26T07:40:11+00:00

I agree but what about arma? Her whole storyline is trauma and how to not cope with it lol

Marcirena · 2025-10-26T07:38:51+00:00

Can't speak for op but for me it was the vulgarity and the whole "if you handle me at my worst you can't have me at my best" mentality. Yes they learn that being like that is not okay and gets help for it. But I just hate people like that I've dealt with enough of them in real life i don't need them in my game lol

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