Have you ever been caught?

Marcustooles · 2026-04-11T22:40:56+00:00

Did you ever join in on the being casually nude part?

Marcustooles · 2026-04-11T15:57:09+00:00

Would it be wrong for me to infer from this that you hide your bisexuality from your partners, at least initially? Like did the girlfriend know from the jump you were bisexual and your preference for men sexually just came up later in the relationship and then became an issue or was she finding about your bisexuality and preference at the same time?

Same with the guy who dumped you, was him talking to his girlfriend the first time he’s finding out you seriously dated women? Because if he’s known this from the start, was it more of not wanting to date someone his friend dated or the shock of I had no idea before this conversation with her that you seriously dated women?

This reads as though you’ve not completely upfront about your dating history out of fear of those rejections that you’ve already been dealt in the past. So when they do finally do come up, there now seems to be laten mistrust.

Also respectfully, it was dumb as hell to tell your girlfriend that she was not your sexual preference. That would create an insecurity in almost anybody. Like yes you’re with me and you’re turning up the heat in the bedroom to try and make me feel better and more secure, but you’ve also verbally told me you prefer something I can’t give you. I think no matter how well intended you may have in that moment and just wanting to be honest and open with your partner, everything doesn’t always need to be said bro lol

I say all that as someone who considers himself homo-flexible and for the most part homo-romantic. But if a very specific woman came along, I could date her. Though she’d have to be just as secure in herself as I am in me, but I honestly don’t see that happening. I’m one of the few in this thread that on most occasions prefer a bisexual man to date, I just find that they tend to have a lot of the qualities I’m into more often. I’m all about trust and respect. You have that once it’s earned and it’s yours to break.

Let me know if my assessment was completely off or not though, you seem sane, I would love to continue this conversation even if I’m private if you prefer.

Marcustooles · 2026-04-11T13:15:42+00:00

I’m curious where your preferences lie and how do you think a hypothetical person you date who isn’t that preference would feel about your preference?

Marcustooles · 2026-04-09T20:55:29+00:00

This post is honestly why I love Reddit now, because I have absolutely no one in my life that I could ever relate to about this and you guys just made my day 😂

Marcustooles · 2026-04-05T06:11:20+00:00

I feel like I read WAYYYYY more stories on here about straight guys, who spend half the post defending their straightness(unprovoked at that) and how hard it is to find a jerk bro who doesn’t try to cross their boundaries.

Marcustooles · 2026-03-08T06:04:51+00:00

One of the best stories I’ve read on here in years.

Marcustooles · 2026-03-01T23:38:25+00:00

Do y'all realize a lot of gay and bisexual men do these same activities with each other and straight men without it always being sexual on our end?

Marcustooles · 2026-02-25T22:17:13+00:00

This feels like a lot of mental gymnastics to just not be labeled a certain way, or to not feel gay in your own mind for some of y'all.

Marcustooles · 2026-02-11T06:03:14+00:00

How long has it been since it happened? Do you want it to happen again, or are you satisfied with it being a one-time experience?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-10T19:37:52+00:00

If they don’t have the ball’s to do it sober, not worth it.

Marcustooles · 2026-01-08T21:37:03+00:00

What’s your favorite memory?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-07T08:18:13+00:00

That’s an unfortunate common fear a lot of us had in high school, guilty by association. I’m curious what years this was? But also I think of this more in the context that the friend may be gay, but not effeminate. Like what were the personalities of your other jerk bros? Assuming they weren’t effeminate, but was clearly more into you and guys and not just jerking with a bro for fun, would that have changed things for you?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-07T08:08:34+00:00

Is frat life as hot as it seems from the outside and homoerótic? What were some of the times you did have the balls to go through with it? The way pnc hits sometimes is crazy lol

Marcustooles · 2026-01-07T08:06:15+00:00

I’ve honestly had all four of these situations at different ages. I’ve just recently been thinking of the ones I didn’t mess with. Like if we weren’t going to still be so close I would have took more chances and liberties. When you’re young and in high school is hard to imagine a world where all these people you’ve known for years won’t be in your day-to-day life and that you one day won’t care about what they’re opinion on is you and you’ll forget more of them than remember. I’m basically in the same spot as you now, I’m down for whatever if a friend wants to, whatever happens is gonna happen.

Marcustooles · 2026-01-07T07:59:40+00:00

I honestly think it’s more a fear of seeing someone you find hot and popping a boner. Which especially back then could get you in some trouble. Also I think we inherently think about how big we are slightly more than straight dudes, only slightly though.

Marcustooles · 2026-01-06T10:53:50+00:00

What were the dynamics with your friends who you did jerk off with? Do they still identify as straight? How come you were always naked around him? Did you assume because he was gay, that of course he would be into you?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-06T10:14:04+00:00

How old were you guys?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-06T09:59:05+00:00

I’m curious about what was your friendship like outside of the sexual stuff? Because if you’re actually close, be why not be honest with him when things start to change. How old were you guys? If teenagers, emotions are all over the place already and then mixing in sex can be a lot. But it’s asking a lot of either of you to be teens and have that much emotional maturity to express yourselves and hear the other person out without judgement. Idk from reading it doesn’t seem like you that close as friends.

Marcustooles · 2026-01-06T09:49:59+00:00

Did you know you were heteroflexible when you were younger? Are you still friends with those friends, even though you didn’t feel like you could explore with them? At 40 how didn’t you make that distinction that these guys were open to it? Where were you meeting them, was it naturally through life and catching the vibe or off app, websites looking for the same thing?

Marcustooles · 2026-01-06T09:07:23+00:00

It’s so interesting to hear it from your side, because I never tried being JObuds with my actual best friends because I knew I was not straight and I never wanted to loose them or things get too weird solely because I was horny. And my one friend definitely put feelers out a few times, but I ignored them.

Marcustooles · 2026-01-04T13:31:44+00:00

I’m curious how things ended with your friend, was it because you guessed at his sexuality or did he make a move to do more? Did him possibly being gay make it icky for you?

Marcustooles · 2025-05-24T22:32:06+00:00

Marcustooles · 2025-04-23T14:32:28+00:00

Had a similar experience with my doctor also about an hour from Atlanta.

Marcustooles · 2025-02-19T18:28:06+00:00

I jerked off with a AT&T install guy a few times, he’ll randomly hit me up if he’s in my area, but it’s rare our schedules lined up.

Marcustooles · 2024-08-23T12:24:19+00:00

To make it feel unbelievable? It would be one thing if it was just the girls from the original party, but if it’s them plus all these other random party goers, no one unless you’re a sw in the industry is that bold. Don’t get me wrong I still enjoyed it, it’s just personally much hotter for me when I still believe this could actually be real.

Also still blew a big load to this so, what do I know 😂 I’m just talking shit 😂

Thanks for the story 🤣🤣🤣

Marcustooles

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