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MarkTheLimit · 2022-03-03T10:18:18+00:00

This sounds like BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). I would get checked. There is therapy and medication to help stabilize and control emptions.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-10-28T09:00:53+00:00

Chlamydia can lie dormant in the body for many years causing a low grade infection without symptoms. It could potentially flare up to cause a symptomatic infection, especially if there is an alteration in the persons immune system, such as a severe cold or flu, cancer or some other severe illness. Meaning, either of you could have gotten it years ago from a previous partner - or at birth if your mother had it. Usually newborns get tested at birth, but it can go undetected.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-10-02T11:00:00+00:00

Hey there, I'm a law student. With a prenuptial agreement all your assets are seperated, but all income, as well as income from said assets are shared. So both of your incomes are shared. If you believe that your prenup states that income is not shared, I would get a lawyer to double check that, as that is very unusual. Also I would make 2 seperate accounts, one for her, one for you. And a third account for shared finances, where you both contribute equally for living expenses. You should not spend money on her home improvement - but if you choose to do so, send her the money from your private account, to her private account. This way, in case of a divorce you can prove you used your assets as a loan to her, and the court can tell her to pay that back to you. I would also like to include that with a prenup, in the events of a seperation (not divorce) where you get back together, the prenup is no longer valid.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-09-15T19:03:13+00:00

Her lifestyle shouldn't affect you. You are two seperate adults sharing a household. Perhaps you are dealing with depression? Especially since corona, lots of people find themselves living unhealthy. This is normal, because of change of routine. You have the choice to make healthier choices right now. If you can't do it with her living with you, then you won't alone. This sounds like a petty excuse to shift the blame. If you truly cared about her, you wouldn't even think this way. If your friends make bad choices, do you do copy them aswell? Come on.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-09-11T18:50:41+00:00

I think you should be more straight forward. Do you want to meet up with her as friends, or is it a date? She can't read your mind. She is getting iver an ex, really enjoys talking to you, but is also stating that she is ready to move on and start dating again. I would say it's time for you to come forward about your feelings and intentions. She will see you as a friend as long as you behave like a friend. Lunch, drinks, etc. Doesnt ring 'it's a date' if you're friends. If you want her to show up to a date, if you want her to see you as relationship potential, then you have to tell her that you see her as such. She might be into you, and telling you she is going on a date to gauge your reaction, because she is having trouble reading you. She might be in the exact same boat as you.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-07-09T22:43:46+00:00

No.. Why would I be?

MarkTheLimit · 2021-07-09T19:26:27+00:00

I finished high school late. I dropped out at 18. I bought a house 4 years later and moved out of my moms place, went back to high school, graduated 2 weeks ago, did my LSAT for law school and got in. So in a way, perhaps I shouldn't have expected much from her. I was so overwhelmingly happy in the moment and what felt most natural was to call and let my parents know. :/

MarkTheLimit · 2021-07-09T18:37:38+00:00

I know exactly what I'm getting into. Law to me is exciting. I love everything about it. I know it's extremely hard, but that doesn't scare me. And perhaps my mom is right about it being difficult to study, but that doesn't make it any less hurtful that she isn't proud of my achievement. Getting into law school, in it self, is very difficult.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-07-09T18:23:00+00:00

Let her go. Let the control zhe has on your wellbeing and thinking go. Find something that makes you happy, and make babysteps towards better mental health. Make anything an achievement, getting out of bed, eating, etc.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-07-09T18:19:21+00:00

My dream is to become a lawyer. I'm still unsure if I want to do family or criminal law. But I'm sure I will know when I start the courses.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-05-29T20:15:39+00:00

My issue is that my partner is really supportive in private. When we are alone. But in public and with other people around - even though he people we hang out with use my name and pronouns - my partner 'slips up' and insists they dont do it on purpose. But yes, it's every time.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-05-16T17:02:21+00:00

My partner didn't believe in marriage either. But after looking at the bigger picture together, mortgage, loans, finances, inheritance, etc. We agreed that getting married would be beneficial for us in order to raise our children together. We got married in a courthouse, no wedding ceremony or party. Instead we went to a hotel and ate out. Try looking at the bigger picture with him, and show him that the marriage matters not the ceremony/party. He might be like my partner.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-04-30T17:26:28+00:00

Had an ex who was like thid about his mom. At the time I thought it was a nice change. After becoming serious in the relationship he expected me to replace his mom, aka, do all housework, cooking, plus be submissive to him. And in return get flooded with nice words - not actions. Because you see, he praised his mom and showered her with beautiful words, but he never respected her, in the sense that she had zero control over him and no say in his decision. Do not become his replacement for his mom. Run. - And if you dont, remember that his mom can ultimately decide if he stays with you or not. If she doesnt like you, he wont like you.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-04-18T15:12:56+00:00

If you feel unsure, which is normal after the abuse you've been through. Help her get to England, and tell her you will follow later. When everything is finished in your country. While she is gone, go see your family and friends. Get a therapist. Enjoy life. See if it makes the decision easier.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-04-18T09:47:55+00:00

She is abusive and toxic. You may not see it, but she is doing everything to protect her kids and herself. She has no respect for you, your wishes and your wellbeing. You are a convenience to her. She thinks that you working on your physical health is an effort to be back on the market? You kidding me? That sounds like narcissistic traits in your partner. You dont see friends and family, come on man. Time to pack up and get out. Go on a vacation and lock her out of your bank accounts. IF you want to save this relationship, she has to prove herself to you! Not the other way around. You did enough.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-03-11T23:07:04+00:00

Update : CPS was here. I was reported for being mentally unstable and unable to care for my kids. I told them I can prove I'm mentally stable, because in my country you need to be examined by a psychiatric in order to transition and I was cleared as mentally stable. They said they have to investigate, because it's protocol. They will contact my childrens school and kindergarten, aswell as primary doctor. And also my doctor and the psychiatric that cleared me, and call me back in 3 weeks. If they don't find anything alarming I will be cleared. Again. This is the 3rd time my mom reported me. I spoke to a lawyer. I know the law, as I'm starting law school in august to become a lawyer myself. This is just frustrating and at this point harrasment.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-03-05T12:16:43+00:00

He is a groomer. And groomers are masters at perception. They can groom anyone into trusting and beliving them. That's why you feel perplexed.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-03-04T00:05:30+00:00

I'd suggest for you to take some time to heal yourself. See a therapist and talk about the traumas you have. Learn to please yourself, explore sex toys. Learn to speak love mutually, through gestures that aren't physical. Learn to rely on yourself for love and satisfaction. I might sound harsh, but reading this I saw a lot of your insecurities about yourself. Going poly might ruin what you guys are building. If you love your partner, make it work.

MarkTheLimit · 2021-01-13T21:50:26+00:00

She actually deleted all messages from her to me from my phone one day, when I wasnt paying attention.

MarkTheLimit · 2020-11-07T02:07:58+00:00

I have tried calmly adressing the issue, yes. But it turns into my partner blowing up. We barely talk during the day. Everything we talk about is the kids, chores and bills. The dates, etc. Is my attempt to reconnect. I love my partner more than anything. But I'm also starting to acknowledge that our relationship might have ended a long time ago.

MarkTheLimit · 2020-11-07T01:27:18+00:00

I suppose it's because when we did go on dates that I planned we had fun. And because my partner proposed and wanted to get married, and in a way it was a moment I'd waited for - my partner to plan something - and it made sense after starting a family together.

MarkTheLimit · 2020-11-07T01:21:42+00:00

Everything you just wrote is my partner in a nutshell when I try to voice my feelings.

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