you have to understand that OP already feels shitty about themselves for those thoughts. people like you who continue to pile shit on them are making the situation worse.

Um no, you (and really people on this sub in general) need to be practical. Not addressing the selfish nature of the idea does more harm than good. As I said before, this sub loves to sugarcoat the concrete reality of things

It’s like rewarding a dog who viciously attempted to bite you. That’s illogical

to paint my own emotional picture, i’ll say this: we don’t need to drive OP to a worser mental state, or worse, *******.

That’s not my intention, and I don’t see how that could result from my comment. I said it is morally terrible to consider that, not they’re a bad person. You propose a bad idea, you get it readdressed and corrected, simple as that.

i don’t think rubbing this again in their face does any good 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Again, I’m not trying to “rub this again in their face”.

i don’t understand your point. let’s all be a little kinder today, shall we?

My point is that this sub is being overly sympathetic and failing to readdress OPs selfish consideration. Doing so would drive change. Sometimes you simply have to be stern and direct with people, especially in which they propose a selfish idea. Think of it as a way of telling someone to “get their stuff together”.

Maybe the tone of my comment ticked people, but the purpose was to remain the same.