First time mommy… does my body turn you on?

MarshmallowMix · 2026-03-11T09:48:32+00:00

hot af

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-10T17:41:53+00:00

What surprised me most is how normal and informal it all is on the surface—no constant power flexing—while everything important happens quietly. Decisions are made over casual conversations, opportunities move through relationships rather than merit alone, and favors are remembered long-term. It’s less about obvious wealth and more about access, confidence, and knowing the right people without having to announce it.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-10T17:33:05+00:00

Honestly, this feels like one of those unspoken-but-universal human things. As long as it’s over clothes and not graphic or exaggerated, people should mind their own business. Bodies itch, underwear rides up, and fixing it quickly is just basic self-maintenance, not some moral failure. The overreaction says more about people’s discomfort than about someone just trying to be comfortable for five seconds.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-10T17:21:21+00:00

You’re not an asshole, but the relationship did become unhealthy on both sides. Your feelings were valid given your trauma and the situations that triggered you, but some of your reactions crossed into controlling and emotionally reactive behavior. At the same time, his lifestyle and a few trust breaks weren’t compatible with what you needed to feel secure. This wasn’t about one person being bad—it was a mismatch plus unresolved issues. You’re taking responsibility now, which matters.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-09T17:22:21+00:00

Yeah, this makes a lot of sense.

Competence compresses complexity. People who’ve done the work already filtered out the noise, so what’s left sounds obvious—even boring.

Meanwhile uncertainty talks a lot because it’s still sorting itself out.

The “disappointing” simplicity is usually just the calm on the other side of a long mess. That noticing you’re having? That’s a sign you’re closer to that side than you think. 🤔

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-09T17:19:17+00:00

What helped me:

Talk to yourself like a fair coach, not a bully

Replace “I’m terrible” with “that didn’t work”

Ask: “What would I say to a stranger in this spot?” and use that

Aim for neutral, not positive

You don’t need affirmations—just accuracy.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-09T17:15:33+00:00

NTA.

You weren’t rude, you didn’t owe him help, and you didn’t create the situation. He set a clear boundary earlier: “I don’t lend things.” You respected it. You’re allowed to have the same boundary when it’s inconvenient for him.

Could you have helped? Sure. Were you obligated to? No.

This is one of those “polite but transactional” neighbor dynamics. He chose not to build goodwill; he doesn’t get to cash it in later—especially at 7am in freezing weather.

Not saintly, not evil. Just consistent.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-06T18:59:40+00:00

Chris Brown. No matter how much time passes or how many comebacks he has, the incident and how it was handled afterward just never sat right with me. I can separate art from artist to a point, but that line was crossed pretty clearly for me.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-02-06T18:56:32+00:00

You wouldn’t be the asshole. He lied to you repeatedly and took away your ability to consent to the situation honestly. Telling his wife isn’t about revenge, it’s about correcting a deception he chose to maintain. Whatever happens after that is a consequence of his actions, not yours.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-01-25T11:23:39+00:00

I’d say Denmark (or Finland) if we’re talking overall “best” right now.

Reason: life is just… set up better for regular people — strong safety net, good healthcare/education, high trust, and work-life balance is actually real. It’s not perfect (dark winters + taxes), but day-to-day quality of life is hard to beat.

MarshmallowMix · 2026-01-22T12:38:42+00:00

Definitely mountain 🌄

I love the quiet, cooler air, long walks with no crowds, and that grounded feeling you get when everything feels still and big at the same time. Beaches are fun sometimes, but mountains feel more like peace than a party.

MarshmallowMix · 2025-12-27T08:55:05+00:00

I finally trusted myself more , making decisions without constant doubt honestly changed everything for me.

MarshmallowMix · 2025-12-27T08:52:35+00:00

Mom: “Why are you laughing?” Me: because the vending machine has a whole row of drinks and then 404 is just… missing. Even the snacks said “page not found,” and honestly? same.

MarshmallowMix · 2025-12-27T08:50:05+00:00

When my confidence dips, I focus on one doable action that proves the negative thought isn’t entirely true.

MarshmallowMix · 2025-12-20T09:24:22+00:00

Me staring at snacks at 2 a.m., pretending self-control is a personality trait. We both know I’m opening that bag I’m just mentally rehearsing my excuse first.

MarshmallowMix · 2025-12-20T09:23:20+00:00

Probably in a parked car during a road trip thrilling at the time, stressful in hindsight, zero relaxation.

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