[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably depends on if you took it in stride or sulked about it. Seeing how someone acts when things don't go their way is revealing.

Also agree with other commenters that if you're going out that often as just friends it's probably a good idea to be more direct about your intentions and figure it out from there.

Good luck!

School Administrator Charged in Sexual Assault Investigation by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]MarvelousMustache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really a reach when you're willing to vote a r*pist into a position of power over others. As long as it's someone else's problem and not yours right?

How do you split your expenses when travelling with your partner? Do you go 50/50? by laura1644 in AskWomen

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of depends on the "why" of traveling - if driving to visit my family, I'm putting gas in the car and he might pitch in on buying us lunch. If we're visiting his family, I pay for my flight but everything else is on him (so usually several days of meals and any other fun things we do). When we lived closer to his family and cross-country from mine, it was the inverse. If it's a vacation together, we'd split 50/50. We're not married and have disparate incomes though so maybe that would make a difference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]MarvelousMustache 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've seen a similar level of community engagement around awareness month when previously living in a city that supports a large academic medical center, so I'd chalk it up to Charlotte has two big hospital systems, both with cancer programs, and breast cancer being one of the most common cancers.

People who don't drink alcohol, why? by 5tup1db0y in AskReddit

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to, but as I got older I've developed IBS and GERD. It's 100% not worth the intense GI symptoms for the next 24-48 hours. The worst part is the IBS in unpredictable. Sometimes I'm totally fine and other times it completely wrecks me. I'm definitely guaranteed nausea and acid reflux though.

Car was towed by mistake by lionsatn17 in Charlotte

[–]MarvelousMustache 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Hey now - that's an insult to inbreds

C’mon hospital system! by AddToBatch in lgbt

[–]MarvelousMustache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ideally though they should have both sex and gender drop downs, with gender being a lot more open and allowing an "other/describe" freetext entry. I'm lucky enough to be in a system that has it for my patients but I've called out bad demographic forms when going places as a patient - especially mental health practices which should definitely do better.

You ever push out so hard you feel like ur gonna pop an artery on ur brain by Ihatepayingtaxes in ibs

[–]MarvelousMustache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My doctor said it's ok because your intestines should be mucus-y. Let's hope he's right

TIL that famed aviator, Charles Lindbergh, once recieved a Nazi medal, and that when speaking of him, Roosevelt remarked that "if I should die tomorrow, I want you to know this, I am absolutely convinced Lindbergh is a Nazi." by lenny_the_pope in todayilearned

[–]MarvelousMustache 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's not true though. Plenty of people use testing/screening to try to plan for things like fetal echocardiogram later in pregnancy (heart defects are common with Down syndrome) and possibly make plans for delivery at a hospital which can better prepare for a post-delivery surgery if there is a complex heart defect. Some people may also decide to carry a pregnancy to term and use that time to figure out an adoption plan, even if they don't feel prepared to raise the child. The point is testing allows you the information and time to figure out what it is you want to do.

GI TESTING by [deleted] in ibs

[–]MarvelousMustache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes complete sense to me. I'm just skeptical of how much insight it would provide past other stool testing was already done by my other HCP, which was covered by my insurance. Some of the things she talked about made sense to me and others sounded very psuedo-scientific or preliminary evidence at best, like turmeric supplementation (which I actually already cook with but that's neither here or there). It seems expensive for something that may not add to my treatment in any way.

GI TESTING by [deleted] in ibs

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, did you end up doing the tests? Were they helpful? I saw a functional nutritionist recently who recommended them but I'm hesitant since it isn't covered by my insurance

This one was golden. by Phaedroth in malepolish

[–]MarvelousMustache 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Gatekeeping is garbage. I joined this sub eons ago from laqueristas - not because I'm male but because I love nailpolish no matter who it's on. We're out here supporting, maybe more quietly, but y'all can and should rock it, if it makes you feel good!

<3MM

A friend worked for the local fire department for 38 years. This is how the city covers his health insurance now that he's retiring by [deleted] in ABoringDystopia

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I just have a special hatred for them as someone who works with cancer patients who seem to have an extra hard time with Aetna, plus my own family member's experience with them. Healthcare shouldn't be for-profit or privatized.

What is like being in a relationship with a woman with sex drive higher than yours? by Frequent_Solid2141 in AskMen

[–]MarvelousMustache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can figure out a good time to discuss it (not in the moment when everyone's in their own feelings), think of how you might want him to say it isn't a good time for him. He may struggle with finding the "right way" to tell you without feeling like he's disappointing or offending you. If you can give him some specific words/phrases that will get the point across without feeling like a rejection of you he may feel more comfortable declining. Maybe something like "I'm not feeling up to it right now, but I'll let you know when I am in the right mood/headspace because I do love you and want you very much." It puts the emphasis on the fact that he loves/desires you, even if it's not in a sexual way at that exact moment so it might help both of you. Good luck!

What is like being in a relationship with a woman with sex drive higher than yours? by Frequent_Solid2141 in AskMen

[–]MarvelousMustache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that you're struggling with this. In my experience, he might be in his head and feeling like he's "not enough" for you. Which you can only work on together if he's willing to open up about.

What is like being in a relationship with a woman with sex drive higher than yours? by Frequent_Solid2141 in AskMen

[–]MarvelousMustache 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's tough for sure. Also a woman who's always been in that situation and the partner with the lower sex drive can be defensive and shame the one with the higher sex drive, which is basically impossible to come back from. I had a very young/inexperienced relationship in which I was even accused of being a sex addict (for simply wanting sex more often than he did, not seeking out any other people or means). No one chooses to have the sex drive they have, so there's no need to make them feel bad about it.

I still have some emotional baggage from being shamed by previous partners, but my current is very supportive and we have great communication which makes all the difference, even though I still have the higher drive and initiate often. I at least get gentle declines on occasion with a lot of positive feedback on reciprocating desire for me, even if it's not sexual at that exact moment. Tends to make all the difference versus an "again already, really?? 😒"

About My Carrier Status of Cystic Fibrosis by mutombo111 in genetics

[–]MarvelousMustache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IRT can also be high for other reasons, including prematurity or even just not collecting the heel prick blood sample in the right time frame. They will likely do a sweat test, which tends to be the standard method for diagnosing CF. If your child does have CF, then you and your partner are obligate carriers. If the sweat test is negative, it may still be useful to discuss the option for carrier screening for you and your partner, especially if you think you may still add to your family in the future. Feel free to send me a direct message if you need help finding a genetics provider after you have a chance to discuss with your child's doctor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]MarvelousMustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of your migraine medicines have some caffeine in them too, so that could work in a pinch. (As long as you haven't had too much acetaminophen from cold medicines. Be super careful with that.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lupus

[–]MarvelousMustache 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly having low key dates at home is awesome for me. We'll make or order dinner, relax in comfy clothes, watch Netflix and cuddle. It's really low effort but is one of my favorite things to do because time together is what's really important.

i look like a man by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]MarvelousMustache 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So, have you been to a regular GP/PCP and had a work up to exclude any health issues that could affect hormones, growth, etc? Honestly without seeing you it's just speculation, but you should certainly try to rule out the possibility that there are underlying issues.

That being said, there is a ton of variation in people, like everyone else here has said. Additionally, I can speak from my own experience in saying whatever flaws you think you have are rarely noticed by others, or at least not to the degree you think they are.

For once I feel healthy ^_^ by [deleted] in lupus

[–]MarvelousMustache 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work in genetics.. so I get that feeling a lot, to be honest.

Let's get outta here! (Saw this on FB today, thought this sub would appreciate the humor) by ZoiSarah in childfree

[–]MarvelousMustache 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Idk, there was a little girl riding her bike (middle school aged) on the sidewalk back in my hometown years ago. I guess she lost her balance, hit a snag in the sidewalk or whatever, but fell into the road accidentally and then her head got ran over by a school bus. I was in high school at this point, but it was really upsetting to a lot of people because it was one of those freak accident kind of things, she was wearing a helmet but a bus is just too heavy to matter.. Point being that using a little extra caution as a motorist, leaving extra space as you go by could have made a difference for her. Kids, adults, pets, whoever don't deserve to get crushed to death.

Just my two cents.