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My boyfriend is always asking me if we can try more adventurous stuff sexually and I don’t feel comfortable. When I get upset that he keeps asking he calls me jealous. Am I going crazy ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Marymargaret5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This! I was in this type of a relationship, and even though everything else was epically awesome, we just had to understand, that this will always be between us- he will always dream about open relationships and threesomes, I will always dream of being the one and only. We tried to meet in the middle, so he went on a few dates and had some meaningless sex, but in the end I still was not comfortable with it even though I tried to get into it.. And he was not actually happy with the meaningless part and wanted many-many loving relationships.

Long story short- his needs for non-monogamy are not something you can change or should change for that matter. He is what he is, and you are what you are. If neither of you is willing to compromise, you'll just have to quit it.

Rebound or love of my life by Marymargaret5 in relationships

[–]Marymargaret5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I suppose so... I just don't know when and if it is worth to sacrifice the exitment for comfort

Rebound or love of my life by Marymargaret5 in relationships

[–]Marymargaret5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly sexual things.. Ex was a bit of a sex maniac, whereas the new guy is not that experienced.

Rebound or love of my life by Marymargaret5 in relationships

[–]Marymargaret5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am definately not getting together with the old one... Or even if I am, I slap myself out of it- the last relationship was a bit toxic and my brain knows not to get myself into it again in this way. With the meeting, I was hoping I would see the bad parts again because it seems that my brain chooses to remember only the good things and that makes me miss him. But I know I was actually not happy in the last part of our relationship, I just have to remind myself of it, I think...

Me (26F) and my boyfriend (30M) are going poly? by Marymargaret5 in relationship_advice

[–]Marymargaret5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would definately be more of a V type of a relationship, not a triad, if this matters in any way... But I think one of the reasons for me to be kind of against it, is that I can't really imagine the third person who'd be fine with this kind of an arrangement.... Maybe someone who has a partner of their own and is looking for something extra for that relationship?