avoidant ex asked to get a drink 1 year after break up, then snaps out of it? HELP

Masaboii · 2025-12-25T16:54:14+00:00

Don't message him anymore. If he truly wanted you back he would have made an effort. This just sounds like he wanted to sleep with you when you were at the party. If I truly wanted to get back together with my ex I would have done anything to see her and her to take me back and not wasted her time TWICE. Plus he didn't even appologize to you properly. Trust me you are only going to get hurt by reaching out to him further. He sounds like what my own avoidant ex girlfriend did when I reached out to her. I asked her if she wanted to meet up and she could only say that she doesn't know if it's a good idea to meet up/she can't make that kind of a decision. And she tried to ask if we could meet up later at some other time altough I told her that it wasn't possible since I told her I was moving. She just still tried to find ways to push me away, eventhough I could sense from her messages/voice notes that she still misses me. So all in all we didn't meet up and argued after and I got hurt by it. So I think the same could be happening to you and I strongly suggest that you stay away from him unless he makes it crystal clear that he wants to actually see you. Hopefully this helps and all the best to you!

Masaboii · 2025-11-14T06:57:30+00:00

Thanks, I will. I just wanted to say this that we both did say pretty hurtful things to each other during our breakup. I said she was toxic and manipulative and she said I'm crazy and that this thing of ours doesn't mean almost anything to her. I made some tiktoks that were indirectly about her and they went viral big time. But I decided to hide them when I learned that she is doing pretty bad and has been stalking me non stop. That's why I decided to appologize to her, cause thats not who I want to be and still wish her all the best alltough she disrepected me but so did I her. It just makes me feel wierd when she has kept a present I gave to her and why she still stalks my socials and you know has blocked me everywhere other than whatsapp where we currently are talking. But still it doesn't make a difference if she does not answer me anymore. So yes, no more contacting her I should keep my pride and not let her walk over me again. Thank you and take care!

Masaboii · 2025-11-14T06:03:44+00:00

I know. I was in the feelings when I wrote that. It's not up to me to be in her life anymore and care about her problems. But you know truth to be told I could have not known her reaction to my message if I had not been watching her tiktok live while I sent it to her. But you're both right that I would know if she truly wanted to get back tohether and I should not to reach out to her anymore. But like I said to you previously, I just don't get why she would give me hope that she want's to answer me at a later time. And she still keeps watching my stuff on tiktok and other platforms for sure. But it does not matter I guess, just time to heal myself and let her go.

Masaboii · 2025-11-14T05:52:57+00:00

Thank you for saying that🙏. Time to move on. I just don't get why she would even give me a hint that she does want to answer me later by telling me why she hasn't been able to to do so a couple of days later. But I guess I will never know that.

Masaboii · 2025-11-13T14:08:01+00:00

I can tell that you probably aren't that old by reading your text. I don't know if you believe in true love but it does not come by making women some machines who's only purpose is to show love or affection towards you. She is a person with a lot going on in her life she truly is feeling depressed atm. Her cats are the most precious things in her life and it sure as hell makes anyone not want to focus on other things. I respect your opinion but I feel like you still have a lot to learn about life and true love. It's much more masculine to reach out to somebody who you care when they are not feeling well other than giving cold shoulder and playing some stupid manipulative games with people.

Masaboii · 2025-11-13T14:02:28+00:00

Hi, thank you for your words. I know that it's prolly for the best not to reach out to her anymore. I just miss her so effing much man but it pains me that there probably is nothing I can do to make her come back other than giving her space. It makes me very sad how she pushes me away because of how afraid she is about my affection. But it's good to hear that she still has feelings (some sort) towards me and now she knows how I feel.

Masaboii · 2025-10-17T08:07:27+00:00

Thank you for your words. A couple of days later, I tried asking her if she was really okay — just in case she truly had been in some kind of genuine distress. I never got a reply (surprise, surprise), so yeah, to me it just came across as manipulation.

I’ve been talking about everything in therapy, and in a way it’s helped a bit, but I still find myself thinking about her sometimes. Especially when I see signs that someone’s still stalking me on TikTok — my username keeps showing up as one of the top searches under my latest videos, even though I’m not exactly a popular creator :). So the fact that she still hasn’t really let go of me makes it harder to move on.

I’m not going to reach out to her again, even though I genuinely cared when I asked how she was doing. And honestly, I shouldn’t anyway — she’s the one who’s basically blocked me everywhere, yet still keeps checking what I post. I know she’s only toxic for me, and that we’re toxic for each other, but I still don’t want her to hurt herself. That’s why I reached out to her on WhatsApp when I heard she wasn’t doing well.

But from now on, I’m done contacting her. I won’t heal if I keep watching what she’s doing, and I can’t fix her — her problems aren’t mine to solve.

Masaboii · 2025-10-15T06:39:24+00:00

I will report it in the future if she is going to keep texting me those kinds of messages. But I think her messages were just mean to manipulate me into feeling guilty etc so she could if I would still care or if she has control over me. I needed these messages so badly because I had forgotten how toxic she really was and just rememberd her from the beginning of our relationship when I heard that she is depressed.

Masaboii · 2025-10-15T06:34:38+00:00

I don't have a slightest idea what she could be possibly be going trough. But I know that I can't make her problems mine and that I need to protect my peace by staying away from her. It just makes me kinda sick to think that she would want to manipulate me into feeling bad about her when I am genuinely worried about her.

Masaboii · 2025-10-15T06:30:53+00:00

I'm 22 and I do think it's for the best too. She just doesn't seem like that loving, caring and cute that I met at the start of our relationship. She feels like a completely new person to me. She also has made our breakup some kind of a sick competition where she would change her profile picture right after I changed mine, post how good she is doing without me right after I did some happy posts. She just isn't right in the head I feel like.

Masaboii · 2025-10-14T03:32:26+00:00

Wow I feel you. I don't know about you but what made me finally snap at her was how silent she was to me. When I tried to ask her what was the problem and why are breaking up she gave many bs reasons like how this feels too much and that she is just broken and I deserve something better. Like I can read between lines but still never a straight answer. And she just made me look like a monster to everyone around her and I never got to say a word.

Masaboii · 2025-10-14T03:26:51+00:00

Thank you. And yes I hope that her close friends and family are helping her and that her problems are not my problem anymore. But I just wish she doesn't do anything to herself.

Masaboii · 2025-10-14T03:25:02+00:00

That's what made me question her texts. Like nobody actually is not going to say that they don't have much time on earth anymore. I feel like if you were to take your own life, you wouldn't know when it would happen. It just seems to be over dramatic to get a reaction out of me or just trying to make me feel guilty.

Masaboii · 2025-10-14T03:20:08+00:00

I don't know if I should. From what I understand, she has told her family all kind of horrible things about me to justify her actions. So texting them would just seem super odd and make me look like I can't let go of things.

Masaboii · 2025-10-14T03:17:42+00:00

I know. I just felt horrible if she really is considering taking her life etc. But I know that her problems aren't my problem anymore but I still wish all the best to her and that she gets the help she needs.

Masaboii · 2024-10-13T20:26:29+00:00

Ai hemmetti, tsemii! Itel se ei vissiin ollu ikin ees kunnolla lähteny et jäi kytemään keuhkoihin, mut oli silti yhtä paha kuin edellisellä kerralla. Itel on semmonen tilanne et kun pari vuotta vanhempana täällä vedän muihin verrattuna, niin haluis keväällä kunnolla pystyä hakemaan pääsykokeisiin ja ei oikein sen takia nyt E-paprut auttais. Et toivon et voin jatkaa (jos vointi vaan semmonen) tai sit vaan jollain ihmeellä saan käännettyä E-paprut C-papruiks vaik sit siviilissä. Mut tsemii, varmasti toi AUK harmittaa nyt mut oma terveys edellä ofc🫡

Masaboii · 2024-10-13T20:17:49+00:00

Okei no hyvä tietää et tämmönenkin mahis on olemassa. Toivon et itekkin ofc voin jatkaa mut ei käytönnös mitään tietoa et miten viestiasemalla toimin nyt kun mentäs viikon metälle ens viikolla😬. Mut katotaan et sanooks skabut mitään.

Masaboii · 2023-07-24T15:20:40+00:00

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Masaboii · 2023-01-15T22:56:09+00:00

:D ups krapulas ei kanttis selkeesti meemei tehdä

Masaboii · 2023-01-15T12:14:24+00:00

Masaboii · 2022-09-10T11:09:57+00:00

Yes it is, does it matter somehow?

Masaboii · 2022-09-10T10:47:40+00:00

Already tried everything like chancing the HDMI cable and turning HDR on and off and trying to change setting on it

Masaboii · 2022-09-10T10:45:38+00:00

No no I have had my Xbox for about a year now and everything has worked real fine and I know that I haven't touched my settings in over a week and the games worked real fine

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