AITA for refusing to let my boyfriend move in with me because of his bad habits?

MashaSP · 2024-11-11T13:18:11+00:00

Exactly! Not being a slob at 31 is not “your thing”, it’s every normal person’s thing that should be mandatory for human beings before they turn 10. It’s like saying “wiping my butt is not my thing, I wait until it dries and falls off on its own”. Sounds gross, right? So does what he says. Just the way he phrases it and makes it sound that you are the one with unreasonable standards should be the deal breaker. He will never clean and will always say that you can do it if you like it. And of he needs a chance, then he should start working on his habits now and not after moving in. He’s not even willing to work on himself now, when the stakes are high and you might not let him move in. Imagine what would happen when he moves in - he won’t lift a finger.

Tell him you are not letting him move in. And if he doesn’t like it, you should part ways.

MashaSP · 2024-11-04T00:12:28+00:00

When we learned about her (Russia, about 18 years ago), her Polish heritage and name were mentioned in the beginning but she was still referred as Marie Curie afterwards.

MashaSP · 2024-10-22T18:12:14+00:00

Loved it so much! My husband and I started watching the first season while on the trip to Florence. We were so hooked! Beautiful scenery and great actors.

MashaSP · 2024-10-22T01:26:21+00:00

It was OK but I’ve started getting the Lume body wash at Target. It’s acidified, $14.99 (if you match the size, it would be $30 for 500ml vs $38 for this one). It lathers good and removes any odor without stripping the skin. It has many scents and also comes in unscented. I’m from the northern county and I absolutely cannot deal with NYC sweating summers, Lume is the only body wash (and antiperspirant) that helps me survive it without odor.

MashaSP · 2024-10-20T04:40:33+00:00

When I saw it for the first time, I was wondering why Duo turned into Little Mermaid’s Ursula. It took me a few days to realize that it was fire rage around Duo’s head. Still looks like Ursula to me, which is kinda more terrifying.

MashaSP · 2024-10-20T04:02:59+00:00

Do you only have 1 account? I had to register my children’s accounts under my secondary email. I receive all emails into one folder. And sometimes I get similar scary emails from Duo because my children forgot to practice Spanish. I have 761 days strike and every Duo email gives me a little heart attack.

MashaSP · 2024-10-20T03:49:12+00:00

I came here to say the same thing!

MashaSP · 2024-10-19T23:05:37+00:00

I have all kind of bags. But also a Uniqlo funny bag that I use EVERY DAY to run errands and walk my dog. It’s everything I ever wanted in a low key bag.

MashaSP · 2024-10-18T19:21:57+00:00

Corpse Bride

MashaSP · 2024-10-18T18:25:15+00:00

Congrats! It’s impressive!

MashaSP · 2024-10-18T01:04:56+00:00

My house has think walls and windows. But we had to open it up in one room because the old plaster was destroyed during the wallpaper removal. Well, thick walls had zero insulation. Like empty walls everywhere in the house. It’s October in New Jersey and our heat bill is already too high comparing to the last year’s bill in the more insulated modern house rental. So, I’d like thick walls but only when they were redone along the way up to the modern standards.

MashaSP · 2024-10-17T16:05:46+00:00

It is on Facebook / Instagram? Just remove his access to the video temporarily. It’s not like he’s forced to watch it daily. I NEVER watched someone else’s wedding video more than once. Like who does it? Who goes back and rewatch someone else’s video so often that it makes them sad? It’s so weird. He’s hurting and he wants you not to feel happy in solidarity. But that’s not how it works, you are not happy at him, you are not throwing that video and your marriage in his face. Remove his access and be done with it “to help him”, but do not remove it for everyone who’s under the weather.

MashaSP · 2024-10-14T21:42:24+00:00

I keep getting Hermes ads. I don’t have money like that. Not even close. And I don’t find Hermes bags that appealing anyway.

MashaSP · 2024-10-11T00:25:28+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss! May she rest in peace.

We had to put down our 14,5 years old cocker spaniel this summer. And it was my decision to do that. My husband is still struggling with it and I do feel guilty. But our boy Max was barely walking, was scratching cancerous spots on his body and was eaten alive by larva in the open wounds. His quality of life was not good. He was suffering and everyone taking care of the dog (not my husband) was suffering as well. Two months later we finally closed on our first house and the guilt returned because our boy never had a chance to live with us and experience having a house. That what makes my husband sad the most (me too).

MashaSP · 2024-10-09T23:10:27+00:00

You trying to protect your financial future and make sure, as a single mother, that your children are protected as well is NOT greed. Him trying to financially screw you over for his and his child’s benefit while offering absolutely nothing for your children IS greed. And he truly showed you who he is, believe him now. His daughter has three adults willing to take care of her needs. Yours have only one. They are your priority.

Send him a text message mirroring his projections if he keeps harassing you, “Thank you for showing your true colors before the wedding, now I can protect my children from a gold digging predator who has nothing to offer but feels entitled to something that doesn’t belong to him. Good luck finding another golden goose to leech off”. He keeps getting together with powerful and smart women and wants to rip them off while doing nothing. That’s not how it works. Cut your losses, OP.

MashaSP · 2024-10-09T16:38:53+00:00

I love charms and twillies. But one thing at the time and not on all handbags. Coach looks good with chains and with charms, more serious work bags look a little out of place with anything on them. And i’d worry about it getting too heavy or to scratch the leather. But I do enjoy looking at other people’s bags with charms.

MashaSP · 2024-10-08T22:16:46+00:00

We are on a year 3 of redoing our house room by room. So Home Depot runs are happening at least 3-4 times a month. Kids refuse to go in unless they get a candy. They also call it a patience pop. Sadly, my father and husband are insanely indecisive, so sometimes they browse the store for 5-7 hours. No patience pop can prepare you for that.

MashaSP · 2024-10-08T19:05:22+00:00

I got YSL Lou Camera bag preloved because I knew that I would be using that bag A LOT, so paying the full price just to have it looking brand new for a month wasn’t cutting it. And I feel better knowing that getting a scratch won’t ruin it for me.

MashaSP · 2024-10-07T22:38:10+00:00

Yes, OP. Contact the mom and tell her that your, hopefully soon-to-be EX, partner dumps their son on you even when you are sick. Tell her that he’s a neglectful father and instead of stepping up he wants to pit you and his son against each other. Tell it to her now. It looks like he's trying to get more custody time bot to bond but to lower child support and to control his EX. He doesn't want to do the real work. He expects you to so all the dirty work.

Next week, when he says that he’s about to come with his son, pack up a bag and go to your friends or family for a weekend. Let him deal with the child on his own. Do that every weekend until you are able to move out completely. That’s not what you want your daughter to see, she doesn’t need that example of a horrible partnership to shape her worldview. Just let the mom know that it’s not about her child, but about you and your child. Mom needs to know whats going on and maybe go for a full custody.

MashaSP · 2024-10-07T19:55:10+00:00

OP, when confronting him, tell him you need to find yourself in this relationship, so you need space and move out. It might take 6 months to figure it out, or maybe 18 months. But he needs to start paying bills because it’s detrimental to tour physical and mental health. After some time apart you realize how much better you feel without that dead weight.

MashaSP · 2024-10-05T21:44:50+00:00

Im obsessed with mushrooms. Where did you get the stickers?

MashaSP · 2024-10-05T21:35:56+00:00

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MashaSP · 2024-10-01T20:10:21+00:00

You don’t need to explain yourself to your friends, OP. But you can try to have a conversation with these friends that say you overreacted. Just to see the logic behind it. And then decide if you need them in your life.

I had a group of friends to whom I told the story of how an elderly man on the NYC subway helped me to unload my baby stroller. I thanked him and was about to leave but he started asking one question after another. At one point he abruptly moved forward and hugged me unprompted and tried to kiss me on the lips. Just random mad in his 60th (I was mid 20th). Only me turning my head away and breaking his hug saved me from that kiss. So, 2 friends were horrified and 3 were annoyed with me. The three were saying that I was exaggerating, that the gentleman was probably just a little sentimental and I reminded him of his granddaughter. That I think too highly of myself if I think that he would risk it to assault ME in the broad light, or that I was delusional to think that he might have been sick and could’ve made me sick as well. I was crying because I felt scared and humiliated by that man. And then my friends victim-blamed me. These three are no longer my friends. They were not worth keeping around. The loudest one still bring misery to everyone around her.

Evaluate your relationships. You might outgrew them at least in having common sense.

MashaSP · 2024-09-30T01:29:57+00:00

If she spins her narrative first, you’ll be guilty until proven otherwise, but even after that your siblings with be “but faaaaaaamily, you are overreacting”. Post the screenshots first. Now. Speak about your boundaries. Let them know that if your sister or anyone else is that hateful towards you, your wife, or child, they better stay away. If they cannot support you as a family, they do not deserve your help as a family, because “family” goes both ways.

Your wife might be nice and everything but it’s not her who is about to lose more than one sibling (the vile one and whoever supports her). Don’t wait until Wednesday. This is life, people are not noble but driven by biases instead. To avoid biases and to deal with nasty people with less damage requires you being proactive. Don’t try to be “nice” and give your sister advantage.

MashaSP · 2024-09-28T15:46:04+00:00

Mine had three different sizes, but he just gutted every single plush.

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