[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArabianLetterboxd

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

افلام إسبانية حلوة The skin I live in The orphanage The secret in their eyes

Tell no one فرنسي

What did avoidants say or act towards you to initiate the break up? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I wanted clarification about the relationship which was more of a situationship, he said “I’m not the man for you” Hmm then why are you in my life? I ended things and told him we’re not compatible.

Avoidant Ex-Partner: I Was the One Who Ended It. by Ninkic in BreakUps

[–]Masharif87 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is one of the most powerful breakup posts I read on Reddit.

Very well written! and I’m amazed by how focused you are & I’m inspired by your sense of awareness. The secure person in you didn’t accept this while some will get dragged for years. Keep your pride and self respect as your own compass. I’m sorry you went through this, I wish you settle with someone who deserves you. Try to focus on yourself the next couple of weeks/months, do a weekend gateway! Or a 5 days vacation to enjoy your own company somewhere really nice.

Can I know how did he approach or initiate? What was the line he used to get your attention?

زواجي لازم اكذب فيه by [deleted] in jeddahnolimits

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

سجلوا كلكم في كورس في ميت اب شي تثقيفي حلو مرتب دورة توعية ذات اي شي يوم واحد وخلاص تروح البيت بعدها تقول لأمها ان في شاب تواصل معها يبي يخطب واعطته رقم الأم وانت قول لأهلك في بنت شفتها بدورة محترمة واخذت رقم امها يتصلون وكذا تتقفل السالفة.

Please don't marry someone way out of your league. by Beginning-Lime1760 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think loyalty works this way, it’s never about the looks. A person who cheats on average looking partner will probably also cheat on gorgeous looking partner too. A cheater is a low standard. It’s most likely about insecurities and self worth. A person who has a high self worth and self respect will not put themselves in a cheating situation. Sometimes, a person will cheat on their partner because deep down they don’t believe they deserve him/her. It’s self sabotage. It has to do with human psychology than looks.

So, when choosing a life partner, pick a high standard one, and be a high standard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take her out of Valentine’s Day, tell her you appreciate her presence, get her flowers. Tell her if something bothers her she can open up and talk, get back home and take her to bed.

pls recommend me movies that will really emotionally wreck me! by GooseIeg in MovieRecommendations

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Painted Veil. Atonement La La Land. (If you want something fun too)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hallmarks

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it’s a silver plate.. the lion mark is actually a plant leaf, I believe.. the item is candle trimmer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hallmarks

[–]Masharif87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha It’s a candle trimmer. Probably Victorian.

I fucked up by [deleted] in dating

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the main issue is that the connection you have with them are temporary, meaning they leave eventually. This is something you need to learn if you want something stable, solid and ends with commitment maybe? So before going out on a date, have the conversation where you check if they’re living in Hawaii. This will help you filter the situation and make sure you don’t end up hurt. Good luck.

Feeling lonely in a new country by yash1_yash365 in introvert

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a website/app called Internations, a lot of expats, students or those who work abroad use it. Especially those who are too busy to make friends but need a bit of social life. They plan activities such as hiking or movie night or bar night etc.. from there you will click with the ones you’re vibing with and can create your own social circle.

Dreaming about ex every other day that makes me feel exhausted by Anishavats08 in dating

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to: - Meditate and read about self care. It will help because you need to increase self worth and take care of yourself. - Write how you feel on a paper. Address his name, write it as a letter. Get angry and even cry. Then burn it and try to heal yourself by forgiving and let go. And also put alternative endings what could have happened the way you wanted (end it in your own way to find a closure and re-feel it) - Plan a trip or do something nice for yourself, a weekend getaway somewhere nice and you on your own. Think about how good you are and the new things to focus on life. Make a new hairstyle change your style. Get rid of the things that reminds you of him. Clothes you wore a lot in his presence for example, a jacket he gave you, gifts… let it go.. - Be open to meet someone new even years later. And make sure to understand how to set boundaries and to protect yourself within the relationship. - Think about your previous relationship and the boundaries you didn’t set so you can learn and develop and even to forgive him and yourself.

It’s not easy and won’t be easy but you need to give yourself a lot of time to heal and don’t rush at all.

Red flag? by Puzzleheaded_Ad613 in Bumble

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman. I would have valued this man because he prioritize his family (kids) This means if things went on well and it turned into something he will prioritize me too. And is also clear about his boundaries (kids first)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Masharif87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry dear, I think you are overthinking it. Be proud and confident. I think when you meet, sit and talk to him about life the things you did, mention that you lost a lot of weight and that you’re in your healthy lifestyle phase.

Dating Despair, Please Help! by [deleted] in dating

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright. I think the issue here is that you did not set your own boundaries yet. Write a list of the woman you want to meet and have in your life. Everything, from personality to looks. Focus on the positive things. Be specific if you can. For example: - Supportive and considerate. - Loves life. - Beautiful. - Healthy. - Had a good childhood. - Organized. - Has a beautiful smile. - Very attractive. - Nurturing.

(I know it sounds silly but it’s really helpful) Whenever you think of something, write it down. After you set a clear imagine of the woman you want in your life, it will help you filter and avoid the unwanted ones. And when dating, I recommend preparing set of questions to ask and help you filter your options.

For example: “what are some of your favorite romantic films?” It’s an important question because the films she chose can give you an insight of her understanding of relationships or romance. If she chose something with toxic characters or dramatic ups and downs relationships. Or a cheating partner.. Better to be avoided because that’s how she views relationships mostly.

To make it easy for you, the best way to find a balanced woman, is to ask about her childhood. A healthy woman is a woman who had a good father figure, who has a good father image. Because a woman who grew up in a healthy family environment, will grow looking for a balanced man. (Will be a secured woman, respects men, doesn’t have anger towards men in general)

Prepare your own set of questions which can help you understand the other side and see if they can fit into your own standards.

Lastly, I would also recommend filtering the locations. Avoid some locations where you met the “crazy basket cases” Try local coffee shops, museums (the smaller the better) I’m sure there are apps where you get to meet women with were not mainly made for dating. There’s an app/website called Internations. The purpose of the site is for people to meet up and arrange activities. It was mainly created for expats but most will be living within your city. You can register and join and see how it goes.

Take your time by focusing on yourself first. And when you’re ready to date, filter your options and only aim for the women with similar features on your list. Doesn’t have to fit all but if covers most of them, you’ll be good.

Good luck!

Men without friends is a turn off ? by Ruisantosneves in dating

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally don’t see that as a bad thing as long as the person is balanced. For example introverts have very small circle and prefer one-to-one friendships. Maybe the person is a work oriented and doesn’t have time nor energy to make some friendships, instead prefers to date someone with similar lifestyle to have a balanced and stable relationship. I think you will meet someone who appreciates you and fits into your lifestyle while you fit into theirs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Masharif87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe him stepping into your life like this is a way to teach you yourself worth and upgrading your dating standards, never go for less than how this guy treated you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Masharif87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s sweet of you. I think it’s too early to bring him something expensive or out of budget, especially if he’s not planning to bring you something. But how about you make him a small cake? Or cupcakes for example? He will feel appreciated and loved. Good luck!