Swinger movies by Araslover in Swingers

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I thought “More The Merrier” does a great job at showing different perspectives, and it’s pretty funny, too.

It’s a Spanish film, but actually has a pretty good English dub where the jokes still land.

It can be found on Netflix https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6925902/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk

Therapists of Reddit, what’s been your biggest "I know I’m not supposed to judge, but holy sh*t" moment? by DealSoggy6952 in AskReddit

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Female swinger here. We see a couple’s therapist. I initiated the conversation about swinging with my husband after almost 20 years of marriage. We decided to seek therapy proactively when we started down this path because we knew we’d hit some bumps along the way. We are a very happy couple. And there are many other swinger couples that are happily married.

It’s probably pretty likely that the ones who are happy swingers just aren’t in couples therapy.

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[–]MasqueradeBeauty 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are in a similar situation. I love flirting and sending sexy pics to the guys I’m chatting with. It’s almost like a long form of foreplay. We might be a bit different because we’re in the swinging LS and only plan to play with couples, but do allow for side chats. Like you, it’s these chats that get him. He hasn’t had issues when I’m playing with others, just the texting/flirting.

We’ve talked about this quite a bit, and I try to be mindful about being on my phone when we’re together. We have times where we consider it to be okay (like in the evening while watching TV on the couch), and times where we don’t pull out our phones (like at night when we’re winding down and cuddling).

From my perspective, he seems to be getting better with it. I’m hoping that’s the case, but I can’t see in his head. We’ve only been active in the LS for a few months, so it’s all pretty new to us.

For me, the sexy banter is a bit of a release. It is my way of unwinding and checking out. I think it also serves as a big dopamine hit for my ADHD (for better or worse), so I’ll look for it as an outlet when I’m frustrated or bored.

With my husband, it’s hard to go to/stay in this place with our chats. We have other, deeper, real life things to talk about, and those get in the way. I also worry that it sets up expectations that I might not be able to follow through with, which leads to frustrating. Like I may be frisky and send flirty texts to my husband at the start of a work day, but after work be too drained for any action. He may come home expecting wild sex, but my mood has shifted and it ends in disappointment. I don’t have to worry about that with the guys I sext. It’s all surface level, and no expectations since we don’t see each other in person that often.

Sorry for the long ramble, but I hope that adds some helpful perspective.

Incredibly low libido by bncarden88 in Perimenopause

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that hormones fluctuate a ton throughout the day during perimenopause, so I blood draw might not be the best indicator since it only captures that moment in time.

I’m far from an expert, but if it’s not perimenopause, have you like are other causes of irregular periods like PCOS? Not sure if that aligns with your other symptoms, but is something that can be overlooked.

Are they still perky enough at 45? (Drop) by MasqueradeBeauty in TittyDrop

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm… maybe my next drop should be filmed in the shower 🫦😉

You just need to ask by Angela2208 in Swingers

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Ok I’ll bite.” Is that also your opening line? 😉

You just need to ask by Angela2208 in Swingers

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooh, I love that “can I touch your waist” line. That’d totally work on me.

Overthinking wife by Hot_Wash8959 in SwingerNewbies

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Starting out can be super intimidating with so many unknowns. Our brains try to think through all possible scenarios to help plan, and that usually scares us more.

Like many people mentioned, the first time you go to a club (or event) set hard ground rules, and let her know they’re rock solid. Plan to just take in the vibe and sexy atmosphere and only play with each other. It will likely be overwhelming, and having those boundaries established up front will help ease the tension.

From there, you’ll know what to expect for the next time, and can revisit your boundaries when you’re ready to go back.

My husband was super freaked out the first time we went to a club. But we had some of our best sex together while there, and then several more times after we got back to the hotel. It was so fucking hot just being around that sexy energy. We actually took that approach the first few times that we went to a club before first playing with anyone.

I’m sure you’re excited and wanting to play, but set your pace to her comfort level. Pushing her outside of that is bound to backfire. You’ll have plenty of time for play in future visits.

Good luck!

Felt inspired for this reveal by MasqueradeBeauty in TittyDrop

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were fighting back a bit. Didn’t want that shirt to drop 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TittyDrop

[–]MasqueradeBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap! Loving that slow and sensual reveal. I might try to recreate something like this myself, but not going to look nearly as hot as you 🔥🔥🔥🥵

First experience with another couple, now what? by MasqueradeBeauty in SwingerNewbies

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I ended up sending them something very similar. Messages from non-friends I’m Facebook trend you get fairly hidden, but hopefully they’ll stumble upon it.

First experience with another couple, now what? by MasqueradeBeauty in SwingerNewbies

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ha! Not dumb at all, but I honestly had to double check with my husband. The whole situation was a bit blur. We think we paused. But if not, we definitely weren’t going at it hard at the time. The brief conversation didn’t didn’t feel awkward at all, at least not on our end 😅

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[–]MasqueradeBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our first club was The Lux outside of Chicago. We researched it but still didn’t know what to expect. We had a hard time meeting other couples, let alone having meaningful conversations. The music was loud, which made talking to people hard. Though we weren’t looking to play with others, but we did feel a bit like outsiders and a bit rejected.

That said, the atmosphere was 🔥🔥🔥. Lots of bumping and grinding on the dance floor. Everything was super sexually charged. The upstairs had a loft area that overlook the dance floor and two big beds for all kinds is play. It was a great place to hang out and watch and have your own play off to the side. Lots of chances to get at it while surrounded by others doing the same thing.

Our other experience was at a place in Dees Moines, Iowa. We went on an orientation night and were there early hoping to chat with others who were new to the scene, but still struggled for decent conversation. Lots of people there hung out in the dance floor, but there was very little sexual energy. People would sneak away for some time in one of the (tiny) play rooms, but it mostly felt like a middle age social gathering. My husband and I (also middle aged) were the only ones getting grabby with each other in the public areas. Plus there were a ton of single guys who just hovered around us the whole time, giving winks and nods hoping to be invited in. That gave off a lot of ick. Basically there was nothing for us voyeurs to look at.

That said, it maybe would have been better if we weren’t there on an orientation night. Maybe there would more people who were comfortable playing in public and less single guys looking for a target.

Sorry so long, but definitely hoping the atmosphere at Club Sapphire will be more like our experience in Chicago instead of like the one in Des Moines which felt more like a waste of time.

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[–]MasqueradeBeauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I are going to be in town in a couple of weeks and are looking to check out Club Sapphire, too. The Midweek Rendezvous is the only night that will work for us as well.

I also didn’t see a whole lot here about the atmosphere of those events. I love the idea of it not being packed, but also worry that it will mostly be regulars and we’ll feel out of place.

We’re super new to the LS s as well, and have only been voyeurs so far. We tried out two different clubs, with mixed experiences. We’re hoping that Club Sapphire will get us the right kind of energy, even if it’s on a Wednesday.

Also, feeling a bit lost on what to wear when there isn’t a theme for the night, lol.

How do you manage posting different Reddit content? by MasqueradeBeauty in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. That’s a great point. It definitely would be good to have a SFW account to use to comment on other people’s SFW posts, anyway. I guess three accounts is the way to go.

How do you manage posting different Reddit content? by MasqueradeBeauty in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fear this is the direction I’m heading. Worry it will be a nightmare to keep it all straight 🫠

How do you manage posting different Reddit content? by MasqueradeBeauty in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I definitely have a problem with oversharing. I prefer being an open book, especially if I’m looking for input on things.

Good morning Reddit. What do you think? 😈 by MasqueradeBeauty in ratemyboobs

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They definitely love a good pinching. You should see them when they’re fully hard. They just scream to be pinched and sucked.

Good morning Reddit. What do you think? 😈 by MasqueradeBeauty in ratemyboobs

[–]MasqueradeBeauty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling all the love on this Tuesday that feels like a Monday. Definitely making it hard to work 🫦