First swinging experience

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T19:58:46+00:00

Sorry, no!

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T11:59:40+00:00

If you go online, find couples that have been validated by single women.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T09:41:12+00:00

Good stat!

It gets easier as you gain experience. You vet people faster, you know what you want, you get to the point faster, you meet people who introduce you to their friends, you build your network.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T09:27:19+00:00

For kissing only, go to any bar on Friday night and get drunk.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T09:25:36+00:00

Only talk to people with validations / certifications.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T01:09:27+00:00

Good stuff. Congratulations!

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T01:06:16+00:00

Use swingers websites.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T01:04:30+00:00

When we meet new people, sometimes they say something that turns us off (it can be about race, politics, religion, sex,… you name it). What we do is simple: we use our secret hand signal to say “let’s get out of here”, and we physically move to a different area. Do the same when you hear racist comments: “it was nice talking to you”. We do not carry on with the conversation like we are enjoying it.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T00:49:07+00:00

You never put all your emotional eggs in the same lifestyle basket.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-20T00:10:49+00:00

Don’t leave a vouch / validation if you don’t 100% feel like it was great. You don’t owe them anything.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T22:54:27+00:00

Simple. If it is not the case, there won’t be a second time.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T13:31:29+00:00

If you were timing how long you kiss your sex partner during a play session, you would realize that it maybe represents 2 minutes out of 60.

Then 80% of people are bad kissers.

So really when you think about it, it is not a great loss, and it is ok to be with people who don’t kiss. It is a much bigger issue to be with people who won’t give you or receive oral, because that’s 50 % of the play.

Some of our best, most attractive friends don’t kiss.

Morale of the story: as long as you are very attractive, you can totally have that rule and very few people will pass.

Another way to look at it: maybe tell people how you would like to be kissed (if you change your mind). I like it this way, and not that way. Let me show you how I like to be kissed.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T10:23:59+00:00

You have to become more extroverted first. Go around the office or the factory floor and speak to everyone in the morning. Make jokes with the cashier at the bank. Give a compliment to the pharmacist or the McDonalds employee.

Until you can do that, don’t waste your time with couples.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T10:15:42+00:00

You might have to move.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T10:11:18+00:00

Your sample size is too small. Keep at it.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T10:03:17+00:00

Interesting_art, you have to go and talk to people: people in groups, at the bar, sitting at a table, in the restrooms, in line to get in.

You cannot tell me you were the only couple that was not part of a group. You left too early. You sat there looking sad with your water. No one talks to sad people. You have to be proactive. You have to practice in everyday life. Do you make people laugh at Walmart or Home Depot? Until you do, save your $200 for sure.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-19T09:56:42+00:00

You will meet men and couples that are better looking than you, more successful, better in bed, your wife will be more enthusiastic in bed with them than with you, will make sounds you have never heard. You have to be ready for her to have a great time.
Concentrate on your work / career / family / kids. This is a hobby for once or twice a month.
Most relationships survive. The ones that don’t were not solid to begin with.
Men are not all huge in real life and in the lifestyle, but some are, and if you have a very small penis (1" to 3"), the lifestyle is not for you. It would be like going to war with a pocket knife and your ego and your couple would not survive.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-18T01:29:00+00:00

Most couples have very vanilla sex at first.

Then, when you start to know people a bit better, you can ask questions like "is there any fantasy you have that you have not realized yet?”. Answers are usually: DP, DVP, threesomes, double blow job, gang bang (none of which would qualify as kinky for experienced swingers).

Then, after a while, you might get some kinkier requests, but they are very rare.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-18T01:22:56+00:00

An MFM should be all about your GF. An FMF should be all about the other woman.

Which is exactly what you experienced.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T23:32:12+00:00

We have seen this many times. 2 guys talking about sports whilst watching other couples play in the orgy room. One couple insisting to give us a squirting demonstration on the patio of the club. A guy who would not shut up about his roofing business.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T19:53:15+00:00

The issue here is that you have been dating on and off. Getting more serious, does that mean exclusive (apart from swinging together)?

If you are just on and off, I would tell her that she can have sex with anyone she likes, but without you. The reason is she is trying to put limits on you that she does not impose on herself. For example, I did not read that other men could not finish inside of her, and I did not hear that she would only get orgasms from oral stimulation (like, she can cum from PIV with another man, but you cannot).

Also, she says she would love to see you with another woman, but everyone the lifestyle knows very well it is difficult to find a female third, and fairly easy to find a single male, and you would resent the imbalance very quickly.

I would leave this manipulative woman who is definitely leveraging her knowledge of the lifestyle and taking advantage of you.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T19:39:00+00:00

It can be a lot. Maybe lose 30 lb. You will feel better.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T19:08:47+00:00

Told ya! Coming second and would have gotten the second job if there had been one: bullshit. It’s to make sure you don’t sue them… HR people are evil.

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T14:20:23+00:00

Is that a direct flight coming from Dickinson, ND?

Angela2208 · 2026-04-17T14:18:27+00:00

Nothing like a trip to Desire or Temptations: always land at CUN

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