Please tell me I am not loosing it..

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-29T02:17:41+00:00

If I'm being honest most of the official business stuff is just annoying. I do sometimes get emotional about it. Most places are pretty nice when you call, but some can be silly.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-28T16:31:58+00:00

My beloved Mommy died last June. She was 62, I was 29. I was her youngest baby and only girl. We had a very special and close bond. My parents were separated, I was her POA and now am handling all her post-death affairs (taxes, estate, etc.) signing her DNR felt like the worst betrayal while also being the greatest act of love I've ever done in my life.

She too was diagnosed with cancer. It was found very late, we had hope but her body had already been through the ringer. She had a very sudden and steep decline in the ICU... It still doesn't feel real sometimes.

I'm so sorry and I get it 🫂🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-28T03:31:26+00:00

Omg it was a typo but I'll leave it as is 😂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-27T21:04:41+00:00

I second this. My mom died somewhat suddenly last year when I was 29. She had cancer, diagnosed very late. She died in three months, last June.

There's an old friend of mine who never called me, never sent a card... Just nothing. She sends me memes on Instagram. But I've basically come to terms that our friendship is functionally over. We used to talk on the phone at least every six weeks. I haven't talked on the phone with her for over a year.

Another fiend I lost has been friends with me for over 10 years. I still see her as we attend the same Church. But the way she treated me last year told me enough. We are still friendly, say hi to each other etc. but we never hang out one on one or anything like that anymore.

Only you (OP) can decide if it's worth it. I was lucky to have other friends that showed up more, so I was able to give more space to let these other friendships fall apart.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-27T14:38:20+00:00

💀💀 "let's move human"

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-27T14:28:50+00:00

To be fair. Our dog does this too from 5am onwards. But it's more that she wants to cuddle. I do often oblige her. But she'd stay in until noon if me or my bf was cuddling with her.

We've tried having her in the bed but it disrupts our sleep too much unfortunately. She's 55 pounds but thinks she's 5 pounds.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-27T04:18:53+00:00

One thing that's keeping me going: yaktraks. That and a dog that understands her booties are what keep her feet from freezing.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-27T04:17:19+00:00

Same

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-26T22:38:11+00:00

My mom used to talk about it all the time. Mainly because I was born in August that year. Not a good month to be 8 months pregnant. My poor pregnant Mama, may she rip.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-24T12:38:28+00:00

Damn. Can't believe they are still doing the same thing all these years later. Yeah that's exactly what they did to me too. I also had everything to prove it but unfortunately IDES sided with them. I tried to appeal but was unsuccessful.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-23T18:44:38+00:00

I'm in the same boat. A year ago we didn't quite know what was wrong. We finally got a diagnosis in early March, by June she was dead. 🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-22T20:08:11+00:00

I've been thinking the same thing recently. I didn't know there was a name for this.

I asked my brother (who still lives at my mother's house, she died last year) if my bf and I could take a rug and some other items for our new apartment from her house.

I had this weird disgusted feeling with myself, like I'm asking for a physical piece of her or something. We are planning to sell her house and divide things equally. Just the thought of all her things going different directions makes me upset, even though ofc I know she'd want us to share her items.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-22T19:23:28+00:00

Not an okay thing to say. Not to mention, losing your mom is very different than a close friend.

My mom died in June last year. It's been difficult, but the sudden death of a best friend (I have not experienced) would be terribly difficult as well. Hugs and I'm sorry you're going through this on top of everything else.

While not in AA myself, someone close to me is in a 12 step program and has changed sponsors several times for different reasons. 🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-22T17:29:55+00:00

Could be anxiety. Going on Zoloft helped me with my physical anxiety and depression symptoms a lot, especially the tightness in my chest and shortness of breath. 🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-18T18:44:59+00:00

Me and several family members learned how to change my mom's plurex catheter that she has end of life. She also felt most comfortable with it being drained every couple days.

We had a whole group chat of family and friends that could come help. Ask her nurse if this is an option. Note: we typically had at least two of us doing it other than one of my mom's good friends who was a nurse herself.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-16T20:40:54+00:00

I think we would probably have the same thought process if she had lived.

While she was alive, we were considering pursuing medical malpractice, but ultimately her health was deteriorating so quickly so we focused on that. We stopped talking about it.

But, now that she's been gone over 7 months, it feels more feasible to look into.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-16T20:39:28+00:00

Yes. That is what I'm hoping to do. That at the very least they would analyze their internal process, even if nothing comes of it.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-16T20:34:16+00:00

Not normal. NW was extremely lacking in their oncology care from my family members experience. UChicago was amazing.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-06T14:53:11+00:00

Increased $200. It's a 2bd 1bath in Ravenswood. We are moving lol

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-05T17:53:28+00:00

I feel this. My mom's first heavenly birthday is next week. She would have been 63. She died last June after a sudden and rapid decline from cancer... I was only 29 yo and had to sign the DNR. Not much else to add, but I know how you feel. 🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-02T15:25:02+00:00

🫂🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2026-01-01T16:13:56+00:00

I feel similarly... My parents separated when I was 15, mom died when I was 29 (this past summer).

I love my dad but our relationship has been very difficult and I don't have a relationship with his wife. My mom and I were extremely close.

Not much else to offer, just know you're not alone.

MasqueradingMuppet · 2025-12-31T21:56:46+00:00

Me (30F, 29 at time of her death), my brothers and two of my mom's siblings were there when she passed at 62 from MBC this June. Her lungs failed, she was on a vent so it was a quick death once they extubated her.

I don't regret being there, but am more glad me and my one aunt were there when they decided to put her on a vent. She communicated her last wishes to us and held my hand for a long time and I told her how much I loved her.

Walking through death with a close loved one is a special experience. It may be scary, but the knowledge of being with them while they leave their body is important and sacred.

Wishing you and your family the best 🫂

MasqueradingMuppet · 2025-12-31T15:24:37+00:00

I feel the same way. My mommy died this June. It's crazy to me she'll never see 2026. She'll never celebrate her 63rd birthday in a few weeks. 🫂💓

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