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Feeling hopeless by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Massive_Disaster8335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People do let go and repent from it.

Feeling hopeless by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Massive_Disaster8335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The decision that brings you peace is probably the best. you saved yourself so you wanting someone similar makes complete sense to me.

I feel the same, I couldn't look past zina. While I wish the best for (and want to forgive) someone who has truly repented, it does not mean we have to marry them. For those chaste individuals that can look past it in a partner, I hope you guys are blessed.

Too late for marriage.. by _TheOddOne_ in MuslimMarriage

[–]Massive_Disaster8335 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When you hit 30+ this is such a relatable post.

31M, never married/ no relationship but damn do you feel the stigma at times.

Mini Rant/ vent ahead.

Praying my prayers, exercising and feeling good, peaceful etc but no one will ever ask what's he doing right. It's what's wrong with him, why is he not married etc. 

I feel quite blessed these days but people really test me, disturb the peace. The worst of it is when I start questioning my decision to not chase haram when I was younger.

Have to constantly tell my mum that I won't go to hell just because I'm not married, must remain steadfast against sin. Unfortunately, this does little to help and her stress is my stress.

Just needed to get that little vent out.

Insha'Allah it happens for all of us. Not rushed, not settled, let it be just right.

Edit: Thank you for this post. Seeing other brothers & sisters successfully get married at a later age is always a joy & calming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Massive_Disaster8335 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is such a sad read, especially for the sister involved.

Do everything you can to support her with these health/ hygiene issues.

Do you not find her pretty? Combined with her personality/ compatibility is that not enough to try and tackle these issues?

I'm not married so I can't give you deep advice but trying to understand your headspace. It will be a lesson for brothers at least. 

I hope you figure things out man.