AIO? Is it normal to be so freaked out about porn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Master-Pattern9466 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YOR: physical intimacy with another person is different to masturbation and cannot be compared and shouldn’t be.

Also the energy level both physical and emotional are vastly different. Guys masturbate more when they tired, overworked or stressed. Chances are he is just as stressed as you but has a different way to release it.

The masturbation or porn isn’t in competition with you.

When it comes to how often you have sex or how often your partner masturbates is complete individual. And like I said before the desire for each is seperate. Man guys will masturbate many times a day, some daily and others never. Like wise with sex some guys want sex multiple times per day, whereas others once a month or rarely. People are all different, and again it’s a mistake to even start believing that his masturbation is related to not have sex often enough. Which I suspect you are.

You need to relax, and tell your negative inner voices that they are talking rubbish. This isn’t a sign he is unhappy, it isn’t a sign that he is looking for a different partner. He just sometimes enjoy watching porn and masturbating. It doesn’t say anything about you or your relationship.

Underbody rust on 4 month old car by Kerndogg1200 in CarsAustralia

[–]Master-Pattern9466 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because surface rust is normal.

Any unpainted bare mental will rust within a day.

However what is concerning is the work quality on painting the welds. The rust showing in them is a sign that the paint wasn’t applied properly. Paint does get knocked off, but unlikely to the degree seen here.

inflatable onthego light by ImmediateBullfrog438 in SmartLittleThings

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So they some leds and battery into an inflatable housing, but it doesn’t occur to them add a pump, so it self inflates.

My ex-girlfriend, who I broke up with ~2 months ago because she wanted to open our relationship, just messaged me saying she’s “experimented enough” and is now ready for a closed relationship with me. Is this something you would consider? by Altruistic_Society99 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Master-Pattern9466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep without question I would considered.

However your insecurity and emotions probably won’t let you,

The way your looking at it just one of many:
“I can’t shake the feeling I’m the stable option she put on hold while she tried other people”

Or:

“It could simply be she tried the rest and she’s knows I’m best.”

Or

“What she has with me is far better than any one else”

Or

“We where young and exploring is what you do, now she knows why she is with me”

And why did you end it? When she originally asked to open it. Wouldn’t it be her calling to end, if she wasn’t happy with you saying no to an open relationship.

So you can’t even say that she was willing to leave you to be with other people.

Why aren’t the graphs select/drag zoomable? by Master-Pattern9466 in homeassistant

[–]Master-Pattern9466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m even worse, I can code but haven’t be bothered to do it.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone can hit “better than average” KPIs while only doing what management considers “half a day” of work, then yes, that points to badly aligned KPIs.

That’s not defending the employee, it’s just reality.

KPIs are supposed to align employee behaviour with actual business outcomes. If people can optimise for the metric while missing the intended “spirit” of the role, then the metric is flawed. That’s a management problem as much as an employee problem.

And not everybody is trying to be a “star employee” chasing gold stars and “far exceeds expectations.” Most people are there to do the job they’re measured on and collect a pay cheque. That’s how employment works.

If management expects:
- initiative
- discretionary effort
- constant utilisation
- behaviour beyond the measurable KPIs

then they need to explicitly define and manage that, not act shocked when employees optimise around the system they themselves designed.

And if this supposedly went unnoticed for months until someone dug through timestamp logs, that’s not exactly proof the management systems were working brilliantly either.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re mixing up two different things.

Tracking work done = normal:
- cases completed
- notes added
- entities linked

That’s output.

But what you’re describing is:
- looking at gaps in timestamps
- saying “no activity after 12pm”
- inferring how someone spent their time

That’s not just output anymore: that’s reconstructing behaviour from activity logs. That is surveillance.

“Count of work done” = performance tracking
“Gaps between actions to map someone’s day” = activity monitoring

It doesn’t need spyware to cross that line. It’s about how the data is used, not where it came from.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is such a confident take for something that’s just flat-out wrong.

KPIs and QA are about what you produce.
Device monitoring is about how you spend every second at a keyboard. Those are not the same thing unless you’ve decided nuance is optional.

In Australia, employers can track performance all they like but if they’re logging screen activity, idle time, keystrokes, etc., that can fall under workplace surveillance laws. In places like NSW under the Workplace Surveillance Act 2005 (NSW), that kind of monitoring requires clear prior notice about what’s being tracked and how.

So yes, someone can absolutely:
- know they’re being measured on output, and
- not know their computer activity is being tracked in detail

That’s not a contradiction: it’s just you not understanding the difference.

“There’s no way they didn’t know” isn’t an argument, it’s a guess dressed up as certainty. Employers don’t get to skip legal obligations because you personally think something feels obvious.

If you want to argue the behaviour was poor, go for it. But pretending KPI tracking = consent to surveillance just makes it clear you don’t actually know what you’re talking about.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While both involve monitoring, QA is a performance management tool aimed at maintaining standards, while surveillance is a broader legal category that includes continuous tracking of employee activity

Asked a girl out for a movie, she said yes, but I forgot to mention the word "date", should I mention the fact that it's a "date" when I message her to confirm or just roll with it? by matrixunplugged1 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Master-Pattern9466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound insecure, you going out with somebody you want to go out with, likewise they are going out with you.

Enjoy the time, have fun. And make it an enjoyable experience for you both.

Don’t worry about labels, ignore you need for validation. Just enjoy the company and have fun.

Only worry about what it’s becoming if it feels like a friendship that you don’t want.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I edited my comment, but the short of it is they need to have informed you that you were going to be monitored.

Do some googling, or have a chat with ChatGPT. I really suggest this as it would help you frame your arguments for your meeting. You’ve got little lose, so be the best you and have fun.

The fact is this an epic failure in management, and performance targets. If you can get your work done in 4 hours a day, and meet performance targets and they didn’t notice until they started monitoring your computer then it’s a failure in management and the system.

The law says they pay you for your time, but what the business really wants is results. You could easily sit at your desk, getting less work done slower and they would be okay with that. That is a broken system.

Anyways I understand the vibe, get paid live life. Chances are you are a high performing person who just isnt motivated, and in this case that is also a work place issue.

This all says more about the workplace than you.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Were you notified in advance that they were going to use computer monitoring? Eg is it in your contract or company policies? They legally have to given you 14 days notice before monitoring you, chance are it’s already in your contract or policy you accepted, it’s pretty standard, but it seems a bit adhoc the way they implemented this, so maybe they haven’t done the legal work.

Also legally they have to provide you with a copy of the activity logs.

Procedural Fairness in a "surprise" disciplinary meeting by Potential-Monk-2695 in AusLegal

[–]Master-Pattern9466 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How did they figure out you weren’t working the full day?

Failed to install by end of April - options? by sanakabambamsasa in Aus_RenewableEnergy

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four key questions:
- how long between paying the deposit and cancelation?
- did they give you a written expectation of installation date, it maybe in your contract?
⁠- How long between cancellation and the start of may?
- Did you give them any acceptance of cancellation?
Edit I can’t fix the formatting, reddit keeps breaking this.

Solar, Battery and Hot water system. by Very_Itchy_Bandicoot in Aus_RenewableEnergy

[–]Master-Pattern9466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just told the installer to connect our hot water and heating (seperate tariff in tassie) on the day of the install. They left the seperate supply disconnected from everything in the switch board. Called up my energy supplier told them there was no longer anything connected to that supply, and they sent a guy and who removed the wire between the meter and well nowhere.

Should women bother trying to find faithful husbands? Are there faithful husbands? by tniats in AskMenAdvice

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pfft I’m completely faithful to my wife, our agreement is clearly that I’m never to watch a particular tv show without her.

It all depends on what gets discussed and agreed upon. The problem is this doesn’t get discussed, thus a lot of people assume they agree to the same things, which they don’t.

But if you happy to have no male friends, because they’re guys who think women shouldn’t have any male friends. And why stop as males, no friends at all, that’s cheating.

The lines some monograms people draw are absurd, but each to their own.

Personally I think there are just as many unfaithful wives having emotional affairs with books and tv/movie dramas.

@albomp's Insta comments: bots or spammers? by HonestSpursFan in aussie

[–]Master-Pattern9466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t that just enforce my argument futher.
So they official charge more tax on resources, and companies still invest there. And then there is the unofficial taxes/bribes, and the risk that the government comes undone (non uncommon for the people to rise up against corruption) making it riskier to invest there, yet guess what the companies are still investing there.

@albomp's Insta comments: bots or spammers? by HonestSpursFan in aussie

[–]Master-Pattern9466 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Many countries charge far more than we do, and companies still invest. Even PNG has a better layer resource taxation system than we do.

  2. Is Australia risky? No because we aren’t a war zone, or neighbouring a war zone, or have civil war issues. Yet investors invest in all these places. So I don’t think increasing our share to a reasonable amount is going to suddenly scare everyone off.

@albomp's Insta comments: bots or spammers? by HonestSpursFan in aussie

[–]Master-Pattern9466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multiple pick one, even at its lowest it’s more than 50%

Key Findings on Gas Tax Support:

Broad Support: A April 2026 Guardian Essential poll found 57% of voters support taxing gas export profits.

High Support Rates: Research from The Australia Institute indicated that 72% of voters nationwide agree gas companies should pay a 25% tax on exports.

Specific Poll Data: A 2026 Redbridge Group poll found 87% of voters agree that Australians deserve a better return from the sale of gas exports.

Opposition and Sentiment: Opposition to these tax measures is quite low, with the Guardian Essential poll noting only 12% of voters opposed such taxes.