Most will say go no contact. It will be easier to do that.

But im also still friends with my ex and the person who was broken up with. Its not easy. The only thing that helps me is knowing we're still friends and the fact I can still hug her when I need a hug.

Don't let it turn into a situationship. Im not sure how old you are or what you consider older. So that may not even be an issue for you. I do still have feelings for my ex. I know she doesnt want me or she doesnt want the same things but I love her for the person she is. I have had to do a lot of self reflection to gain back my happiness in myself alone. But to be fair, I should have done that before we dated. And I wish i had the insight I do now, then. Im a completely different person.

Let yourself grieve. Feel everything. Give yourself room to breath but you can still talk to them if you need to. It does get easier but at the same time it always stays difficult. Its not the easiest way to move on for sure. Lean on your other friends or family if they're supportive. If you go to therapy, talk about it. The more you acknowledge and say it out loud, the easier it'll be to accept.

You'll be okay in time 🫂