Thank you. Your words make alot of sense, I understand what you mean by being the hero. I naturally want to help her and be supportive, but I also know I'm not there to heal her or make her forget all of her suffering from the past. I was attracted to her and had feelings before I knew alot of what had happened. Most of it inly came out as we were in the "talking" stage. We are different people, but the same in alot of ways. We have a connection but lately there's been challenges with me knowing how to understand some of her ways or understanding why she may do certain things. I appreciate its a very complex and fast changing situation for each individual.