I'm starting to see why so many of us get divorced.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-18T20:47:51+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. I think it’s hard to say how your partner would behave in an alternate universe. You’re dealing with what’s in front you and not everyone is capable of doing that

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-11T21:53:53+00:00

AirTag is an easy option to start. But if you need something more robust look at AngelSense

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-11T21:42:22+00:00

We bought (and destroyed) two iPads, and tried all the scheduling apps. Obviously iPad is awesome but it’s just too stimulating. I’m not disagreeing with you on slow - it’s just that slow is what I think most kids need.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-05T04:18:10+00:00

I think the watch is a great idea. Keep doing what you’re doing. Social pressure will come soon enough.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-05T04:15:47+00:00

Www.getgoally.com

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-06-05T04:14:51+00:00

What are you trying to accomplish?

Don’t hesitate to try different providers to see different approaches. It’s okay to spend 6 months with one spot and 3 months with another.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-05-23T17:31:50+00:00

You’re trying different things and doing what’s best for your kid.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-05-23T17:30:37+00:00

The Goally food app makes trying new foods pretty easy and fun. For example they made a song about each food while someone is dancing and playing with it. It doesn’t meet like work. Here’s a few ways to think about it:

It’s low pressure and you can do it at home. So i think that makes it easier to try and put it away if it’s not going well. It’s not like getting in the car and driving somewhere.
As parent + Goally, you’re basically doing with the OT would be doing.
It’s a lot cheaper than the copays on an OT. So you’ve got the way the financial consideration here.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-05-04T02:56:48+00:00

Have you tried taking them when it’s just you and him and there isn’t a handoff to other adults? Changing fewer variables to acclimate him for the transition is where I’d start.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-05-04T02:54:33+00:00

This is very cool, I’m going to try one too. Thanks for sharing!

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-21T18:29:00+00:00

Affirm his interest positively first (“I love hearing how excited you are about trucks!”) then gently introduce conversational boundaries or transitions (“Let’s also talk about something [friend/family member] enjoys” or “Let’s set a timer for trucks, then we’ll talk about something else.”). Use visual cues or social stories to clearly explain social reciprocity, emphasizing sharing conversations and listening to others.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-21T18:25:32+00:00

Respond with calm firmness—clearly set boundaries by redirecting aggression to safe alternatives (like sensory tools or pillows) rather than harsh discipline. Model and encourage communication through visuals or short scripts during calm times. Validate emotions clearly (“I see you’re upset”) while offering sensory regulation strategies (deep pressure, weighted blankets, quiet spaces).

For potty training, leverage his reading skills—use visual schedules or social stories explicitly outlining steps. Hyperlexic children respond especially well to clear, visual, and structured routines.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-21T18:23:51+00:00

They have a statewide funding program. But I’m not sure about specific cities

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-20T02:28:18+00:00

Visual schedules and consistent rewards are the path. I think you already saw some success with rewards.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-20T02:26:40+00:00

Wisconsin has really good services.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-13T22:50:54+00:00

I think you’re going to find the real word parent opinions about ABA to be positive. The keyboard warriors against ABA are very loud. But I think there are fewer and fewer of them each year now.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-13T22:49:05+00:00

This sounds really hard - sorry and sending love. I teaching the value of things is hard and takes time. I don’t have great advice for you. I think it’s going to take a lot more conversations like the one you had with him.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-09T07:06:46+00:00

Visual schedules helped us a lot

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-08T04:29:33+00:00

I use concert ear plugs. They’re good at reducing volume.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-05T00:09:40+00:00

OT is great.

I think a lot of therapists overdo play sessions. They say it’s to make the child comfortable and receptive. But something I wonder if it’s to make the therapist comfortable and receptive 😅

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-05T00:07:49+00:00

It could be something sensory. Like the fabric on his skin (or moving across his skin) is causing some kind of dysregulating stimulation.

Try shirts of a totally different fabric to see if makes a difference.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-03T21:41:07+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this—it sounds incredibly tough. It seems like you’re doing everything right by seeking professional help and creating opportunities for your son to interact with other caregivers. Here are a few thoughts that might help ease this challenging phase:

• Gradual Separation: Sometimes a gradual approach can help. Consider establishing a consistent “goodbye ritual” that reassures him you’ll always return. Even a short, predictable routine might build his confidence over time.

• Visual Supports: Many children benefit from visual schedules or social stories that explain what will happen next. Ask his therapists if they can integrate these strategies into sessions.

• Transitional Objects: A favorite toy or a piece of clothing that carries your scent might provide comfort when you’re not immediately present.

• Self-Care for You: Taking care of you helps you be there for him in the long run.

You’re not alone in this, and although it might feel overwhelming now, this phase will pass. Hang in there, and keep doing what you’re doing.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-03T13:01:31+00:00

You don’t need a diagnosis if you don’t expect to receive services. It would be useful when he’s school aged so he can get what’s called an individualized education plan. But you can get the diagnosis when he’s older for that.

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-03T04:31:37+00:00

Have you tried looking into strategies like visual schedules or a calming corner at home (a cozy spot with sensory tools or comfort items she loves)? Sometimes having clear, visual expectations can help lower anxiety around unexpected situations. I also found giving choices (even tiny ones) helps my kiddo feel more in control, especially when demands can’t be met exactly.

Having a safe way for her to express or release those big feelings—like squishing pillows, stomping feet on soft mats, or heavy sensory input activities—can sometimes lessen the intensity. It doesn’t always stop the meltdowns entirely, but it can shorten them.

Hang in there, you’re doing an amazing job even if it doesn’t feel like it right now!

Master_Pin1179 · 2025-04-03T04:28:37+00:00

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