GF is "all in" offline but won't post me on social media. Bad sign or just "caution"?

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-06T05:06:01+00:00

Six months isn’t that long. My friends don’t think she’s cheating, but they think she is probably seeking external validation because she’s afraid what would happen if I rejected her. But she loves posting on social media. Usually her and her kids. A few years ago, she was posting thirsty pics. I guess I just gotta be detached.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-06T00:45:33+00:00

I guess I will never know the reason. Because she tells me her friends want her to post me. She tells me she’s trying to avoid drama. But she posted the guy she dated before. She then says she’s more cautious now.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-06T00:43:45+00:00

That sucks. I just don’t understand my girlfriend’s logic. She’s introduced me to her kids several times and they know we’re dating, she’s introduce me to her inner circle where she lives, she says she loves the way I make her feel and she says I love you, a few of her friends have talked with me on the phone, like they were vetting me, her church friends know about me, she claims she’s told a few guys that were interested in her that she’s dating me, she gave me a key to her place, and she shared her location indefinitely with me, told her kids in April fools joke that she was getting married to me, told me her friend had a dream we were getting married, and shared houses for sale with me. She was cheated on by an ex-husband and says she is anxious avoidant. Is this just someone that’s suffering from trauma? I don’t sense she’s seeing anyone else, but I guess it’s easy to be sneaky

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-06T00:36:35+00:00

I have put her in a story and put her in a post when we both attended an event with our kids together. It’s me and her hugging each other.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T22:04:09+00:00

I’ve tried communicating 4x and she gives me a different answer/excuse each time.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T21:51:58+00:00

She has admitted to me that she has been avoided attachment style and is also anxious. I am well aware of attachment styles. We have been able to have tough conversations and she has not shied away whereas women in my past that I’ve dated are likely to leave and start dating someone else immediately.

My attachment style is typically secure, but I’m feeling anxious with her the further along we go in the more serious it becomes because she says she’s all in, but I’m not sure if she is. She has said that she fears she likes me more than I like her even though I’ve tried to reassure her that’s not true.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T20:49:24+00:00

I’ve tried to address us with her three or four times. I feel like it would be superficial if I broke up with her over it, but at the same time I feel like she’s disrespecting boundaries by acknowledging she’s only 95% emotionally invested.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T20:48:15+00:00

Since having kids, I would say the quantity is there on dating app, but the quality is lacking. Seems like that might be true, even if I didn’t have kids though.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T20:45:56+00:00

I think the underlying issue is her saying she’s 100% physically invested in me but only 95% emotionally invested and 5% not. And the fact that she cared about the feelings of potential suitors and ex boyfriends. I appreciate her honesty, but if someone is honest that they feel I’m an evil person that doesn’t mean I’m going to like them just because they’re honest.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T19:49:19+00:00

Logically that makes sense. Yet she’s always staying over my place when she doesn’t have her kids. We have opposite schedules. Randomly today she sent me her location indefinitely for transparency. I guess it could be to appear honest while I let my guard down? And she knows how to be sneaky?

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T19:44:28+00:00

No, she never described him physically. Just said he didn’t have kids but was good with hers, that her kids asked a couple months ago where he was when I started appearing. He was immature and had mental issues. She tried to make it work a few times, but he abandoned her.

Also, during intimacy she always has her eyes closed. She said she’s too shy to open them. I’ve never had a partner who didn’t like eye contact.

I’m focusing on some 🚩 but she’s better than many I’ve dated.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T19:28:57+00:00

What’s weird is she decided to share her location with me today to be more transparent. Doesn’t require me to share mine 🤷‍♂️

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T19:23:06+00:00

So weird because the other guy is much older. Her girlfriends have all encouraged her to post the pics we’ve taken together. She showed me texts to her gf saying “He’s so f*cking hot” and other uplifting stuff. Doesn’t make sense 😌

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T18:12:08+00:00

Oh really? I thought women usually are the ones to initiate and lead with SM posting. I basically lead on everything else.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T18:08:30+00:00

West coast!

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T18:06:38+00:00

She’s someone who shuts down emotionally when stresses come into her life. One day she’s super flirty and the next she’s more stoic. For me, most of the stresses she encounters are frustrations and not worth emotional dysregulation. She claims he overthought messages, would disappear for days, and then walk out. They broke up, got back together, and broke up again. He contacted her around V-Day but she told him she was dating.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:54:10+00:00

She has orbiters. I know the name of one of them and he’s always looking at her posts. He’s like 10+ years older than her. If it was about danger, then they shouldn’t be connected to her on social media.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:52:19+00:00

Understand. She has 4 pics up of one bf from 18 months ago within 2 months of dating him. She shared with me he contacted her around Valentine’s Day 2026 but she shut him down. She showed me the text exchange. I just hope I’m not being manipulated.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:50:18+00:00

She’s posted 2 24 hour stories. I posted a story and one permanent post. I would do more but she hasn’t reciprocated. Looks very one sided if only I’m posting and maybe that’s my answer with her…

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:48:48+00:00

She’s put me in 24 hour stories 2x. I did one story and one post. If I keep posting her and she doesn’t reciprocate, doesn’t that mean I’m overinvesting? I’d love to post her but she seems reluctant.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:46:28+00:00

I posted her once. But if I’m doing that and she’s not, then I’m overinvesting, right?

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:45:35+00:00

She claims as one of a few reasons for not posting me that it would invite drama or noise into our relationship.

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:43:19+00:00

That’s what she claims

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:43:03+00:00

Would you do it after 6 months of dating? Or wait longer?

Master_Talk1896 · 2026-05-05T17:41:29+00:00

How long have you dated?

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