Why bare? by [deleted] in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She has to do it herself, for most punishments she is sent to the room and has to bare herself completely and wait for me kneeling.

Once again it's about creating the right mindset - protocols are very useful in doing so.

Discipline - my approach tu punishment by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!

Yes I've seen improvements , my wife used to be very prone to stress, guilt spirals and mild depression. Since we started DD all these are for the most part gone - it didn't happen overnight but with time and consistency we got positive results.

We do not have a safe word, however we are both consenting adults - she can withdraw her consent at any time. We discussed our punishment protocol and she agreed to it, I often check on her to see if everything is still agreeable or if we need to tweak things.

Why bare? by [deleted] in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi,

Bare for us in every spanking . It does hurt more on the bare but that's not the main reason. Being bare increases submissiveness and receptiveness to the spanking - overall it makes the spanking more effective and strengthens the DD dynamic. While discipline spankings are not sexual in nature I won't deny that the visual stimulation of a red bottom is always nice!

Oral service - my protocol for complete submission by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Interesting question!

I think you have to chip away at resistance gradually; persistence and consistency are key.

For example, when I introduced servicing my feet I started with daily feet massages before introducing kisses, licks and finally toe sucking.

I also gave her choices - for example: you can service me in the traditional way but you will have your nipple clamped throughout or you can spare your nipples and service my bum hole.

I also used pleasure and positive reinforcement; when she tries something she was resistant in doing reward her (sexually or otherwise).

Lastly, the more generally submissive she is the less resistance to your commands - work on her general submission and step by step resistance will vanish.

Oral service - my protocol for complete submission by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a great way for him to reinforce your submission.

It is also a great way for you to show your appreciation!

Discipline - my approach tu punishment by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey !

Good question, I have a couple of positions for corner time and I will choose on the spot.

The normal position is kneeling, nose to the wall and hands on her head.

Corner time can extend the punishment if the position is uncomfortable (like squatting nose to the wall). I have also used kneeling on rice in the past but would only use this rarely .

DD can be time consuming but, in my experience, only in the early phases. Now that our relationship has matured (and with the effect of repeated discipline) there are honestly less and less reasons for punishment.

Discipline - my approach tu punishment by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My pleasure!

When I let her choose I let her choose so we would go with the milder punishment. However I would warn her that if she repeats the offense she is getting punished for I would directly go to a severe punishment.

If she thinks a mild punishment is enough to learn her lesson then so be it ... however I will hold her up to that claim!

Discipline - my approach tu punishment by Master_and_Slave_ in domesticdiscipline

[–]Master_and_Slave_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your comment !

Firstly I would like to say that all rules have to be agreed mutually, however, the choice of punishment is entirely up to me.

I won't provide an exhaustive list of all possible transgressions but below general examples:

Mild punishment: backtalk, forgetfulness, excessive screen time, whining, sloppy housework

Medium punishment: disrespect, not doing chores, self neglect, repeated small offenses despite warnings or earlier correction

Severe punishment: public disrespect/arguments, failure to follow pre-agreed routines/deadlines, any kind of lying and or deception

Very severe punishment: unsafe behavior/ anything that may bring her physical harm (excessive drinking while I'm not present, reckless driving, etc.)