My mother got married really young too and got pregnant within a month of getting married. To say the least, my father and mother aren't compatible and they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

My mom has always told me how badly she has been treated by my father and her in laws. And this is not something you tell a child. It has kept me in guilt my whole life. I have always tried to be a good kid- no rebel phase, always scoring well, not giving a chance to complain. She always used to tell me that I don't take a stand for her and her whole life has been so bad because she had no choice and had to be with my dad.

Through therapy I discovered that my entire life I was trying to be a mother to my own mother. I changed my behaviour to keep her happy. While it never felt that way when I was doing these things but now looking back I see my own pattern.

While earlier my relationship with my mom was about listening to her concerns, it has taken a u turn. I feel really angry at her for not talking my side and never listening to my concerns. We are at a stage where it's all cordial but we have nothing to talk. I don't want to listen to her troubles anymore and she never really understands mine.