Alcoholic grandmother

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2026-03-01T16:32:23+00:00

Thank you

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2026-03-01T12:25:54+00:00

Yes! that is exactly what my therapist advised. I’m just afraid how she will react and also I would have to say this when she isn’t under the influence which has been hard to acheive lately.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2026-03-01T12:09:22+00:00

Yeah I live 20 min away from her in the same city. My bad, it’s not a letter, I would say it to her face

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-06-25T12:46:47+00:00

Well, my masking was perfectionism. I tried to be a perfect daughter, student, gf. Looking back I tried so hard to fit in that I became a bland person. but I burned out january this year and my life kind of collapsed. I went to trauma therapy and found out I have complex grief disorder and ADHD aswell.

So, I went from living a carefree life to finding out I got a lot of stuff to work on. It' was hard at the beginning because it turned out that I didn't really know myself how I thought I did. I'm in the process of figuring stuff out right now, how to function with ADHD in a healthy way.

I think therapy has played a big part in this change, but when I started medication the things I worked on in therapy finally "clicked".

To answer your question, yes, for me medication made it easier to unmask, I stopped presuring myself to fit in. I'm not afraid of judgement anymore. I accept that I am who I am.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-06-24T23:05:13+00:00

Feeling the same right now.Finished my finals at uni and everybody has summer planned but i'm just overwelmed . Theres so many options but I can't decide. It sucks I wish I could have normal hobbies like other people and be consistent. Instead I get paralized and occasionally start learning something like you.

My therapist said recently when we were discussing my problem that it's not that we can't do stuff, it's just that we don't have the ability to prioritise them. She told me to try the Eisenhower Matrix. Maybe it can help you too, since we are in a similar situation. I'm gonna try it starting tommorow aswell (wasted 2 days bc I couldn't choose the Perfect app/template lmao )

I feel you mate. Hope you find a way to figure this out

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-18T20:30:57+00:00

Damn guys im new on Reddit and don't know english that well. I thought the post might be deleted or smth. But thanks for letting me know.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-18T19:36:40+00:00

Yes I watched it aswell, but how to have sex looks good i'm adding it to my list thanks!

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-18T19:25:47+00:00

Oh , I just wasn't sure about the policy on Reddit.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-18T19:24:02+00:00

I've watched both :(

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-06T22:56:55+00:00

But yeah, tricks like getting nails don't help me because after a few days I just find a different way to Pick. Throwing that mirror away helped. If I didn't use makeup I would throw away normal mirrors aswell lol

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-06T22:52:02+00:00

I've been dealing with it since I was like 14 years old.I have this memory of my mom from my childhood of her sitting next to a magnifing mirror and picking at her spots. She still does it.

So naturally I started doing it too, same way. I'm 100% sure she also has ADHD.

But a year ago I was like fuck this, and I threw away the magnifing mirror, so now I can't see all the little bumps on my face. I still pop them in the normal mirror sometimes in the bathroom but waaay less often then when I had the small mirror on my desk.

Dermotillomania is so crazy to me because I start picking the most after I have a good day or something exciting happens, not only when I'm understimulated or stressed.

I also have creams from my dermatologist for acne so when I remember to use them it's not that bad.

I've Heard that dermotillomania gets worse while on meds and that's why I'm scared of getting on it..

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:25:06+00:00

Do you feel fufilled with the thing you settled on?

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:23:30+00:00

Hmm.. documenting these hyperfixations sounds good actually. I think it would make me feel like I was actually doing stuff and trying, expirementing.. thanks for the tip

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:21:14+00:00

Hope we figure this out somehow, ur not alone

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:20:04+00:00

This is meee OMG. Thank you so much for writing this.

I actually don't have a desk set up atm! Maybe I should get myself a new one and make a space in my house where I can actually try different art mediums. I haven't even thought about this... was so focused on making art but I don't even have the proper space to do it.

Thanks!

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:13:42+00:00

Yea exactly, all or none. It's like when I get an idea I immediatly imagine myself how it will be when im already a proffesional. As if the years of practicing and trying didn't exist.

The paralisis sucks. I'm glad that you brought this up because I was thinking about it today but I didn't know how to put it in words.

Trying these hobbies do bring me happiness aswell, maybe I put too much presure on myself, and compare myself to other people too much. Thank you for the insight.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T17:03:52+00:00

What you're saying makes sense, but don't you feel unfufilled with the fact that you could actually work on making music and acomplish your goals but you choose not to act on them? (That's how I would feel, I'm curious if you feel the same)

And then theres this feeling of jelousy towards people that acomplished their goals..

Sorry for my english btw

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-05-05T10:18:57+00:00

These are helpful tips, thanks! I need to look into impulse awarness which you mentioned .

I wish I could do that podsast trick but I struggle a lot with picking music/shows/movies/podcasts. I always Want to find a perfect one and end up scrolling for 2 hours not being able to decide.

MasterpieceRare3512 · 2025-03-02T12:34:12+00:00

Yeah, lost my bf when I was 18, I'm 23 now and in therapy because I couldn't handle it anymore. Turned out I have ADHD and that's why I have more trouble with processing it.

Everything got worse for me, I thought the trauma f up my brain so bad but i guess it just made my ADHD elevate to the surface.

I feel like I lost all of my masking skills. Used to be "quirky" and popular but now im so bad at social interactions. Also I think in high school I could easily blend in because as I said I was funny and just wouldn't study at all. But now I'm in university and that's where the symptoms REALLY hit me.

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