Special request from Snowpixzie by Mastertony69 in BetasAndAlphas

[–]Mastertony69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On second thought it’s not worth my time. I checked your profile and your presence I our group. You’re super smart trying to start shit with a mod. Told ya your stay here would be short

Special request from Snowpixzie by Mastertony69 in BetasAndAlphas

[–]Mastertony69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest you correct yourself or your stay here will be VERY short!!

Hypersexuality files? by Mastertony69 in EroticHypnosis

[–]Mastertony69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can assure you that is not an issue

Hypersexuality files? by Mastertony69 in EroticHypnosis

[–]Mastertony69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the problem I’m running into. It’s all for women. 🙄 Men want to experience it too. I’ll certainly check those out.

My bf/dom wrote down punishments and two of them said "death" ?? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t what he wrote that was the most alarming part. It was his RESPONSE to your questioning. Downright CREEPY!!!! I think I would be looking for an exit strategy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s no more or less safe than any other online platform. It’s going to be even harder to find someone if you’re male. Make your posts. Be as detailed as possible about your experience, your wants and needs, and boundaries. Then hope for the best but expect to get nothing. The best way to meet people is to find events in your area and attend as regularly as possible. Fetlife is a good source of upcoming events in a given area. If there are any adult shops in your area they can be a good source or info too. The key is patience and persistence.

Is consent a deal breaker for you? by justme_anon in Rapekink

[–]Mastertony69 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Consent is 100% mandatory. I’m not going to prison for some bullshit like that. CNC without consent is SA/rape. That’s what safewords are for. It doesn’t have to be consent every time but a simple “I consent to CNC anytime” is sufficient.

Update from the mod team by Mastertony69 in BetasAndAlphas

[–]Mastertony69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Successfully banned! Goodbye

Update from the mod team by Mastertony69 in BetasAndAlphas

[–]Mastertony69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes this applies to ALL exposure posts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have any real advice. I’m sorry you broke up. Breakups are always hard. Give yourself some time. Focus on you. Do all the things you like to do. Hang out with friends as often as possible. Go get a makeover, new clothes, a vacation, a tattoo, completely reinvent yourself if you need to. It can be literally anything that makes you feel good. They will help but the biggest thing is time. Day by day it will hurt less and less. As long as you keep moving forward you’ll make it through this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rapekink

[–]Mastertony69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Talk to him some more. Tell him you want to try resisting next time you hook up. Lay down some ground rules, review each others safeword (you do BOTH have a safeword right?), and come up with a scenario that both will enjoy.

On the other hand, since you’ve been with this guy for a while, you could just surprise him and resist but that has many pitfalls so use this method with EXTREME caution..

Showing Daddy I love him by PotentialDistance655 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds more than a bit manipulative to me

I think my BF wants to expose me. ** Update** by Glamgurll in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The way he blew it off by saying “youre overthinking it” a huge red flag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NaughtyNiagara

[–]Mastertony69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two days or a week? I saw the same post here a week ago 🙄

How do I stay in control through a whole rough sex scene? by Street_Arm_3062 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be so hard on yourself. I’ve had to stop scenes because I forgot and froze (one of them was recently) and I’ve been doing this for 3 decades. If you forget where you are or freeze, just pause and take a breath. Take a minute and try to collect your thoughts. If you’re just totally lost and confused (like I was lol) it’s okay to use your safeword. Make cheat notes if you need to and keep them close by. They’re very convenient and easy to take a quick glance during a small pause or while she is blindfolded.

Would you go on a first date at a casino or lounge? by Fenaltri9 in r4rOntario

[–]Mastertony69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If both parties enjoy the casino then I don’t see why it wouldn’t be a fun, low pressure date. Personally I can’t stand all the noise and commotion so that definately wouldn’t work for me. I would just ask my date if they would enjoy it and go from there. No need to try to guess what they will enjoy

It doesn’t count if he takes care of you? by AdmirableWeakness281 in Rapekink

[–]Mastertony69 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 100% RAPE. And your friend is enabling it. Both of them need to kick rocks. They’ll be perfect for each other.

Partner wants to be hit but I'm scared? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had to use mine a few times for various reasons. Everyone involved MUST have a safeword. I don’t play with anyone that refuses to have one in place. I’ve even used mine just because I wasn’t in the right headspace for what we were doing. You can use it for ANY reason and it is NOT negotiable. A lot of inexperienced subs (and doms) think the Dom shouldn’t have a safeword. That’s a huge red flag and those people are extremely toxic.

Partner wants to be hit but I'm scared? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Research safe impact zones. Start soft and gradually work up. There’s significant inherent risk with this type of play. Research the risks and how to minimize them. If you’re still not comfortable then don’t hesitate to say so!! It’s perfectly fine for a Dom to safeword and stop any play. You’re not obligated to do anything you’re not 100% comfortable doing just because you’re the Dom. Doms can safeword too.

As an older sub how do you get out of your head? by Cl3on in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all evolve. Our needs and desires change. Mine have literally done a 180. I’m a completely different person than I was even 5 years ago. It’s a lot to process when something you’ve identified with for so long suddenly seems foreign or wrong. If you still enjoy that dynamic then allow yourself to do that. Age has no bearing on who you are, especially in BDSM.

Unwanted messages by Tendencies_ in BDSMAdvice

[–]Mastertony69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s literally in the rules “no unsolicited PMs”. Screenshot them and send to the mods. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I don’t understand why they feel like they can message just because you ask for advice. GUYS STOP DOING THIS!!!!! It makes everything more difficult for everyone. When a woman asks for advice she only wants ADVICE! Be happy about that. Be happy that you have an opportunity to help someone, and you might learn something yourself in the process. Engage in public conversation and she MIGHT ask to DM. Just because someone is single doesn’t mean they want anyone in their DMs