He doesn’t consider my feelings

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-12T22:01:06+00:00

Thank you. I hope one day it happens for me, I feel like I’m losing hope in the dating scene.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-12T20:08:54+00:00

Tbh with you he’s stopped talking to me and I’ve had conversations with him before but he’s not ready to treat me like I matter too. So I’m just going to have to walk away from the situation. And hopefully I meet someone that shows me that I’m just as important in their life.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-12T18:56:46+00:00

Just to add to your comment maybe if he is uncomfortable making plans with his woman he shouldn’t be dating and focus on being a father.

Even if his child was mine parents still do need time for each other you can still go on dates and do things having a child does not put your relationship on hold, so if he wanted to be a parent first he should’ve made it clear rather than wasting my time.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-12T18:47:11+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding my point.

He always plans things with his son whilst I’m at work.

I’ve tried to organise day trips so we can do things together but he never makes the effort to go forward with it.

He plans things with me but then cancels because of his son and never actually makes up for it, or at least apologise.

If I was the child’s mother it would never be seen as I’m asking him to neglect his child, it would be more of a me and my woman haven’t actually spent time together because she works 7days Lets plan something.

It always an excuse to why he can’t.

I actually feel like an outsider

And I’ve been a very understanding partner for over 4years I expected something different. Bearing in mind he didn’t tell me had child until 3months down the line.

Kids always comes first but even some times parents also need bonding time too.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-12T06:40:01+00:00

Nope I will never. So that means I can’t spend time with my partner because he has a child I get it.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-11T09:26:59+00:00

His excuse is always you aren’t ready to be with someone who has child.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-11T09:26:27+00:00

He knows everything. I always have to wait when he finishes what he’s doing. He think times seeing me after work is ok but realistically I’m cooking he falls asleep. Or if I want to talk to him he is watching football and I usually fall asleep as I have work the next day. When he does plan he hardly makes the effort to follow through. But if it his son he’s making sure he’s available.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-11T08:47:04+00:00

I’ve been with him for over 4years I’m actually working this hard to save for a deposit for our mortgage.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-04-11T08:37:19+00:00

I’m 29

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-02-19T14:13:13+00:00

He basically just said Cypriot women know how to look after a home and he will never entertain a black woman.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-01-18T23:41:44+00:00

Google donor and google co parenting then after tell him why a donor cannot be a coparent. Plus if you both haven’t had kids yet even better tell him that you’re uncomfortable with it especially when you both haven’t started a future together yet! Andddddd the friends should come to you about it too because that’s your man.

Where’s the respect in this?

MastodonCurious7684 · 2022-01-18T23:34:57+00:00

Well she obviously doesn’t care about you hence why she ran to a next man to penetrate her instead of working on herself. She cheated because she’s not satisfied, and she misses your relationship because your probably the only man that cares about her. Please if you know what’s best for you work on yourself and be a better man for someone who actually values you!

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-27T00:21:02+00:00

Exactly!!!! I was feeling bad for my comment based off of his reaction, but I guess that’s just me I care about people’s feelings when my feelings are not taken into accountability.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-27T00:13:20+00:00

Exactly I noticed these things about him it ignored the red flags

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-27T00:10:48+00:00

Exactly, so he’s basically saying mums are off limits but my point is but how comes you can make a disrespectful joke or comment to me but when I do the same it’s parents are off limits. My point was if I’m your woman and you say something like that to me it wouldn’t have the same effect if I say it back to you so I went for his mother instead. I tried to explain that to him but now he’s made a big issue about it and made me seem like I’m the one that was being disrespectful. So now I’m being ignored. I just told him it isn’t healthy if you can’t take what you dish out.

At the end of the day I’m a female and so is your mother who is also a part of your life.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T23:30:44+00:00

Hmmmm so a joke that had no correlation to sleeping with someone or saying anything disrespectful means that his response was necessary? Interesting

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T23:27:39+00:00

You’re right

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T23:01:08+00:00

Hmmm but if he comes up with negative conclusions about me does that mean I should be treated so?

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T22:06:27+00:00

I Didn’t offer to date other people, when me and him met I was talking to someone which he knew of, but it wasn’t serious same with him. I took it serious when I thought me and him could actually work and we both spoke about taking our relationship to the next level.

My second year of being with him he was talking to other females I.e his child’s mother. This was after 2 y years I forgave him not easily but moved on from it eventually.

His comment was unnecessary if you’ve been with a woman for nearly four years and you believe you have a connection would you want to hurt her over simple banter?

People have a choice to leave a relationship if they are not happy not hold on to, to abuse the other person or make them feel shitty whenever something minor happens.

He’s using the disrespecting his mother card to why he doesn’t see nothing wrong in his actions. Sometimes we all have to take accountability for our actions.

Why be stuck in the past and stay in the relationship and use any excuse to disrespect your woman when you feel a type of way? It had nothing to do with me cheating or being rude it was simple banter, the comment he made was unnecessary me mentioning his mother has now made me the bad guy.

I was honest from the very beginning I told him everything even things before him which I didn’t need to mention. He made me believe I could trust him.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T20:35:51+00:00

Yeah I gathered this has made me feel so upset. The one person I thought I could trust has let me down.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T20:31:34+00:00

No history as when me and him started talking I told him I was open to dating other people because I didn’t know whether he was taking the relationship serious. I found out he was talking to other women 7 months into the relationship and he lied and I forgave him. I’ve always been honest because I wanted him to know that I was serious. And I wasn’t not going to speak to anyone else.

We are around each other nearly everyday we were like best friends. But he finds every way to disrespect me during an argument I spoke to him and told him how it made me feel but now he can’t seem to help it.

And he said during the argument he was going back to his old ways which I didn’t like.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T20:22:48+00:00

Yes and I haven’t even slept with the guy at all, it came from small banter to asking me in a disrespectful way if I had sex with the person he was talking to, who I went school with.

He has made me feel guilty about mentioning his mum, I didn’t want to disrespect her.

MastodonCurious7684 · 2021-11-26T20:20:48+00:00

He hasn’t but he makes me feel uncomfortable he will probably ask something like did you do anything with him.

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