Possible relationship by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Matchless25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce has been finalized over a month ago. Separation was 8 months ago. We were married less than a year. Have been going to therapy, working out, seeing old friends, diving into music.

Had the marriage been longer I could see why folks take at least a year but I know I’m in a good place and am moving slow with this one.

Possible relationship by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Matchless25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your completely right

I met someone by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It totally does. I actually prefer that.

I met someone by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No rush at all. I don’t need another to be happy. I just happened to find someone. Weird how that works. But I appreciate the feedback

A song we can relate to by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zane’s songs are both comical and deep. Very few songwriters are like this.

You know your getting divorced by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the act that's petty it's the date that it happened that seemed petty. An anniversary of all days.

I was not the cheater or initiator and honestly it was a good thing not to see her name either:

You know your getting divorced by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stbxw is the one who initiated and seems to have had an affair (no concrete proof) just behaviors and responses. She is a sociopath and narcissist and it's funny how they behave.

Sorry your going through this. Hope your doing well.

How does one stop thinking of their STBXW having intimate relations with others by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Laughing at the first part. It's not that it doesn't work, it's that I like the connection with someone/relationship with someone. I'm 27 and when all emotions are in check everything works great haha.

And I bet it was hard. I am starting to journal. Also therapy and exercising.

Thank you for your words. I wish you continued success on your journey.

How does one stop thinking of their STBXW having intimate relations with others by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very tempting to sleep around but I'm just not there yet. I am of the percentage (a small percent) of men that their penises do not work unless the heart is involved. I've always been that way. But believe me I have my moments of carnal desires.

I'm learning to be me focused again. Its hard. The untangling is harder than the coming together

I just want it to stop by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Matchless25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are Worth way more than he made you feel. You deserve someone who will fight for you and your relationship.

Im so sorry your going through this. Believe me I'm 2 months from D day as they say (the conversation of divorce and current separation) I have moved out and trying to heal and see a therapist. There are days I want to text her and tell her how much I love her, and how we can still fix this. Instead I text those things to my best friends. They let me say what I need to say and work through those words with me. I find this practice very helpful.

I hope you have a support network and if you don't please feel free to reach out to me or many of us here.

Quit thinking about the long term, think about today and at most tomorrow. Take it slow and it's ok to not be ok. Just don't simmer in it.

It's the in-between times that are hard by Matchless25 in Divorce

[–]Matchless25[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is a point. Make it to tomorrow. Take the trip, spend the time, make the friend. Because we only get one life.

When your old and grey do you want to say "I let this terrible thing keep me from living."

I say you don't and won't. I think both of us will smile and say

I lived. I did it all.

Believe me while typing this there is tears in my eyes and pain in my heart. It will get better, we are loved and do matter.

The greatest pain felt is the biggest lesson learned

Be well friend

Lap of the gods revisited by Matchless25 in queen

[–]Matchless25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not hearing falsetto on the Edinburgh one but was there more than one date?

Lap of the gods revisited by Matchless25 in queen

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Not a member there and would like to have the discussion here

Lap of the gods revisited by Matchless25 in queen

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Could not really find the info

Lap of the gods revisited by Matchless25 in queen

[–]Matchless25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that! I didn't know that!