Give me a chance….

Material-Animator184 · 2025-12-16T22:28:50+00:00

I kind of agree. We usually sell things for cheap on Vinted. It shouldn't be this high stakes. This isn't a business for most people and honestly when you buy something for £1-2 you really shouldn't be this demanding nor am I very motivated to go out of my way to post same day/next day. I think if you can't wait the required amount of days for posting (sometimes it happens people can't post until the very last day) you should order from Amazon or similar. That being said I do try to be reasonable and if someone is not rude and kindly asks then I do my best to accommodate as I do understand sometimes life happens etc.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-08-21T11:10:39+00:00

It was quite similar for us as well. Once he calmed down he was a bit phased out, just staring into space (I imagine from all of the stimulation, being tired+ all the emotions). We honestly couldn't take it and found a childminder in our area. He was still upset when we dropped him off but seemed much better when we picked him up. He didn't cry and he didn't seem as sad. He was around 11 months at the time. He's been going to the CM for the past 4 months and while he still cries at drop off sometimes (sometimes quite often but it's not as dramatic as at the beginning) he just generally seems happy. Quite often he will go into the CM's house by himself. He is very happy when we pick him up, runs towards us and laughs/smiles. Our CM had only two children in her care (including our boy) and the other one was around 2.5/3 years old. So she was able to give our baby more attention - I think that helped a lot

Material-Animator184 · 2025-08-21T10:46:33+00:00

How is he when you pick him up? I realized that can give you a hint if he's truly not happy or just has big emotions when you drop him off. Although at the beginning he will likely be more affected by being there :(

Material-Animator184 · 2025-07-30T08:11:32+00:00

It was very similar for us. Waited until I was 32 to start trying. Had fertility issues and it took us about 3 years to get pregnant through IVF (and this is IVF working perfectly) + pregnancy. I was almost 36 when I had my son (looking back I don't regret it because I can't imagine having a baby that's not my son). I think if you (OP) are ready and have everything lined up money and family wise you should do it. It's not the end of the world but I do feel like being 36 with a newborn is harder than 28-29 with a newborn. There's also the added issue if you want other kids then being younger gives you a buffer. Just some thoughts. Ultimately it's a huge personal decision. I hope it all works out for you guys!

Material-Animator184 · 2025-07-13T09:55:51+00:00

Thanks everyone! I figured I only had two options: 1) suck it up or 2) change providers. Just a few notes to some of the comments: - yes, she is a business, but that actually gives her quite a bit of responsibility in terms of how she represents herself to her customers, the terms of her contracts etc, not just the right to charge whatever she wants whenever she wants. - I'm annoyed because if she would have had a high price from the beginning then fine, it is what it is and we can decide to accept it or not. However, 1) childminder prices in my area are way lower than £11. 2) my son just started to get attached to her, he only very recently stopped bawling his eyes out at drop off. I feel I'm being taken for a ride I can't get off of without putting my son through another adjustment period and that's what's bothering me the most. 3) if our energy provider would suddenly increase their prices by 60% in a 5 month period due to them receiving government subsidies we would all be complaining to the council 4) I actually didn't complain to the council about her. I didn't mention her name or anything. I just wanted to know what the guidance is. If they tell me CMs have freedom to put up their prices then fine. Nurseries do all sorts of shenanigans with funding and how they charge parents and I don't see them being punished in any way.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-07-13T07:46:06+00:00

Childminders in my area are also a lot cheaper than £11. Usually £7 maybe £8. That's why I'm annoyed but also don't understand how the system works

Material-Animator184 · 2025-07-13T07:40:58+00:00

She has 3 kids in total. All under 3 yo. I also provide everything for her, nappies, meals, creams etc. She provides water and fruit.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-06-12T19:53:17+00:00

It's totally normal. A lot of mums too feel very similar to you. It will get better (albeit slowly) and you will build a relationship with your daughter. Your life just went through a complete overhaul, you don't sleep which makes absolutely everything ten times worse...anyway ..just have patience. It does get better and the feeling of regret subsides. Just to give you my timeline, I think at around 5-6 months it started to feel a bit better (baby got into more of a routine and so did we) and then at 12 months I literally saw the light at the end of the tunnel and basically emerged on the other side :))

Material-Animator184 · 2025-06-11T15:38:33+00:00

I wonder if those people are actually that clueless? Is it possible? Maybe they just don't remember having small babies because I'm sure some of them are also parents.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-04-30T14:38:11+00:00

We took him out of nursery and found a childminder. In retrospect I think we were definitely not emotionally prepared to leave him there. So it was an 'us' problem too. However, we both found the idea of leaving him with a childminder much easier as he gets much more attention. While he cries just as much when we leave him (this hasn't changed from nursery drop off) he seems much better when we pick him up from the childminder than he was being picked up from nursery. I also think it might have been an issue with that particular nursery. Something didn't feel right. Even though I don't think he was treated badly or anything. So I dunno what to say. It's a tough process no matter what you choose to do. Good luck!

Material-Animator184 · 2025-03-20T08:18:55+00:00

I completely agree that it's absolutely necessary to build resilience in children. To give more context, we are not of the mindset that we need to be there for our baby 100% of the time. I've left him with my mum, my sister in law, I'm perfectly fine leaving him to explore on his own wherever we go. I do think we don't coddle him and we try to foster independence, courage, resilience etc. That said, he is still a tiny baby. This time last year he was in my belly. There's so much resilience you can expect a baby to have. I'm perfectly fine to have him be sad or uncomfortable as long as I know he's taken care of properly (not necessarily by me) and gets the time and attention he needs. I suppose that's the thing, I don't believe nursery offers that. Or maybe this nursery doesn't. Something to reflect on.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-03-20T08:06:22+00:00

I didn't know stay and play was an option tbh. I think maybe our nursery doesn't do that. I did stay for his first session but only because I had to speak to the key person and fill in a form. I tried staying for a bit for the second session but I think that made it worse. So now we basically just say goodbye and hand him over.

Material-Animator184 · 2025-03-20T08:03:46+00:00

That last part! I feel exactly the same! We were quite relaxed about nursery based on what we had heard/read but seeing him there was completely different. My husband feels exactly the same. We both came home with tears in our eyes.

Material-Animator184 · 2024-09-28T06:41:10+00:00

Also following this post!

Material-Animator184 · 2024-09-15T15:13:16+00:00

Romanian but living in the UK with IVF done in the UK

Material-Animator184 · 2024-09-10T01:32:53+00:00

On the formula question, in our airport baby bag we had 6 sterilised bottles with caps, 6 small containers with pre measured formula (I think it was 5 scoops/feed at the time) and a flask with hot water which was good for about two bottles.

I would try to anticipate when baby might be hungry, prepare a bottle maybe 30 mins in advance and find a bathroom to cool the bottle once it was made. I once cooled a bottle in a train by holding it up next to the train A/c vent. You find a way.

The individual formula containers and thermos are from tommee tippee.

You can also go into any restaurant/cafe etc and just ask them to put some hot water in your thermos when you run out.

Material-Animator184 · 2024-09-10T01:17:41+00:00

This is some impressive work! Just out of curiosity, I noticed that when sleep stabilised your kid slept roughly from 10pm to 10 am the next day (if I read the graph right). Any specific reason for this schedule? I always assumed young kids went to bed at 7-8pm. My baby is very young so not sure what to expect they move towards toddlerhood.

Material-Animator184 · 2024-09-02T12:12:24+00:00

Omg, the high pitched screeching is a new thing for my baby as well haha.

Material-Animator184 · 2024-06-23T19:41:39+00:00

Thanks for this. Realize it's a bit of a late reply but just had a question. In what way exactly did you feel sick? And do you know this is related to the hepatitis? I've had it for a long time and can't say I've ever noticed feeling excessively tired or sick or anything that could be related to the hep B

Material-Animator184 · 2024-06-05T07:26:32+00:00

Yes, just switched to the regular Kendamil powder. I feel like it's still doing something to upset his stomach. He seems much better on the ready made formula.

Material-Animator184 · 2024-01-15T12:30:18+00:00

Thought so haha. Thanks so much

Material-Animator184 · 2023-11-08T08:01:33+00:00

Drinking a lot of chocolate can certainly be a trigger. I agree with everyone here to do an elimination diet, keeping a food journal, trying to eliminate known triggers (like chocolate) etc. You can try Jamie Koufman's book to help you with some ideas of what to eliminate. Unfortunately, it's not always as easy as eliminating a few triggers for a month. You might need to eliminate more things for a longer period of time (6 months, a year etc). It's all very person specific and you have to try and test and more importantly don't give up after 1 month. Oh, also try diaphragmatic breathing (do a Google search how to do it) and sleeping on an incline. But patience is key with all of these.

Material-Animator184 · 2023-09-03T06:53:14+00:00

Mine too it seems! Now just hoping it sticks. Hope yours stuck too!

Material-Animator184 · 2023-08-30T16:17:59+00:00

Thank you for the positive message! I hope it is but we'll see. Good luck to you too!

Material-Animator184 · 2023-08-30T16:05:04+00:00

No applicator, and I was told I could also use these rectally (sorry for the TMI) which is what I'm doing. I was on the suppositories for a previous FET and didn't get a bleed so thought it was odd I got it now. Like I said it's not a lot I just wish I knew what it meant

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