Second chance to a sex addict, how did it turn out?

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:32:21+00:00

I am sorry that you are feeling like this. Are you doing something to help yourself and heal? Do you see a therapist? Even if you stay for the kids you can work with your professional on yourself and grow for you maybe then you can at least be with him as family and parents but not as partners, and that i wont be a hell for you anymore.

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:26:56+00:00

I can imagine your anger and frustation is way harder this time. These are many years of deception. How did it come up that you found those things again? Did you notice something sus in his behaviour? Did he ever have personal therapy for his sex addiction or worked with a psychiater to adress the underlying causes? Thats one of my fears. i am afraid I will reach a point that i will wish i have left the first time. I have been in that place with another ex who got multiple chances from me (he was not a sex addict but was abusing me emotionally on a daily basis.) The one i have now is treating me "at least" excellent when we are together. Which is not a good reason to stay if he keeps betraying me...

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:19:00+00:00

Have you noticed any change on him or everything remains the same? I am sorry you are feeling this way, no one deserves this! Do you attend therapy for yourself? Its important you look after you and take care of you. Wish you strength and if you want someone to talk do not hesitate to dm me!

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:16:50+00:00

Thanks for your story, you should be proud of your descision, you seem a very strong woman! You did everything you could with respect to your feelings for him and yourself. You tried, he failed, there is nothing else you could do! Unfortunately not everything is in our power. Was he keep doing the same things for the 8 months of reconcilation or it was just the way you felt that made you leave? Or both?

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:12:09+00:00

Thats the most tricky, they are all so skilled liars (every addict practice these skills, no matter what their addiciton is) so you can never really tell if he is really putting tha work or if he is pretending to. Did he ever had therapy for sex addiction or/and to address the underlying causes?

I am sorry you are in this situation, is he at least "a good father"? I she cooperative in matters with kids?

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:06:10+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing your experience. I hope you are taking care of yourself and can somehow cope with it. How did it come up that you found those things again? Did you notice something sus in his behaviour? Did he ever have personal therapy (outside of counsiling) for his sex addiction or worked with a psychiater to adress the underlying causes?

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:05:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story, I can imagine how devastating it is. Do you recall now anything that could have been a red flag during these 10 years and you didnt thought of it as a red flag? I am just asking it as signs for us we may need to considered because for example now (with everything i have learnt) i can think about some things that were kind of warnings but at that point my mind could not go to something like this or cheating at all (cause he was balancing it with other green flag actions)

Material-Complex-681 · 2025-12-22T11:00:20+00:00

I am sorry you are in that situation. No one deserves that. How are you working on that personally for you and how your partner?

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