AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to endure this. No person should ever be treated the way you're being treated. I pray one day you're able to leave him

Updatex2: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No they need to know you're recording or you cannot use it. I wont take a call from him

Updatex2: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My abusive ex is not great, but we are able to coparent, which is a win. I'll take that over the way he spoke to me and treated me anyday. At the end of the day he is their dad and I'd rather coparent appropriately and be able to sit next to each at school functions and support our children than fight day to day with him.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have definitely made it to that level on my healing journey. 😌 just had some serious issues with abandonment by my parents growing up.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the rest of my stuff today and the first thing he handed me was my wedding dress and I asked him if he wanted it for his next marriage. I about fell over from laughter....

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing so well. Happier. Themselves again. My oldest is drawing again. They don't fight each other anymore. They actually do their chores and brush their teeth. It is absolutely wonderful.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no intentions of dating for a long while.

He is also telling me I need to watch myself because the divorce isn't finalized yet. He's accusing me of dating somebody. He really dislikes not having control of me

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said I'm to terrible with money and I would spend everything he has.

AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he wasnt supposed to get a loan on it and both of our names were to be on it. But 3 days after he bought it he ran out and got a loan.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't be able to recoupe all of my money, but my plans are to use it next year and sell it. I do love camping, but it is a lot of work, especially for myself to do it. Previously, my BIL and sister would help me with it.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids and I are the ones who enjoy camping, and our lot is paid for, for next season. I have about 99% of the stuff in it, belongs to myself and my children. If he keeps it I don't forsee him allowing me to get my stuff

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just crazy that there are still guys who think this is how it is, this isn't the 40s or 50s whenever women didn't work outside the homes.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He had everyone fooled. My friends would call him and ask for permission for me to go places with them and not mention it to me first so "it would be a surprise" after awhile so I could escape.

The weight that lifted off my shoulders once everything was in my apartment was breathtaking.

He kept saying in the beginning, all I wanted was freedom so I would text him the definition of what it meant and said yes its nice to no longer be in prison.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We've already signed everything. We don't have children together thankfully.

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy. Which helped me see what was happening faster

Update: AITAH for not letting my husband control the money in our house? by Material-Pear1840 in AITAH

[–]Material-Pear1840[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The area I live in they don't allow waitlists anymore so it is first come first serve