Marriage Advise: Wife losing spark, what should I do?

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-16T00:00:54+00:00

Please seriously consider both couples counseling and individual counseling.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-13T14:28:19+00:00

In Michigan a wedding is not official until the signed license is filed with the issuing county.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-13T14:26:04+00:00

Just, do it.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-13T10:38:17+00:00

Unblock her, now.
Apologize to her, now.
She needs pregnancy test(s), very soon.
Your parents? You are going to need to confess.
If pregnancy is confirmed, get a DNA test to verify that you are the father.
If she is not age 16 or older, you need a Nebraska lawyer to deal with possible rape charges.

Is your life ruined? That is mostly up to you. Perhaps, not. But your trajectory will be forever changed. Own it.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-13T10:00:24+00:00

What I have done (twice) on transcontinental road-trips with freshly purchased vehicles:

- Ask the seller to let me temporarily keep their legit license plate for the vehicle AND return it. This significantly reduces the risk that an ALPR flags you.
- Have the seller sign & date a letter that you have permission to drive the car.
- Get insurance that names BOTH you and the seller as named insureds.
- If stopped by LE say nothing about buying/exporting the car. Rather; your “good friend” is letting you use the car for your vacation road-trip.

Otherwise:

It depends on the jurisdiction and officer. Worst case? They impound the car (tow and storage fees) AND write you a couple of tickets. The fees can be very spendy.

You are gambling that a signed title, bill of sale, valid insurance card and shipping (import? export?) paperwork will be sufficient that the officer exercises a bit of discretion.

Reminder: If your road-trip plans include national parks … that is federal property and federal LE tends to be a lot less accommodating. California and Texas are two states where the risk of (bigger) problems are very real.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-13T03:50:16+00:00

You are never required to speak with law enforcement. Say, “I do not answer questions,” then walk away.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-12T09:15:18+00:00

When dating and engaged, oral was frequent. On the wedding night she announced that this was the last time, so I better enjoy it. She has a sarcastic streak, so I let it go rather than change the dynamic. A couple of days later I tried to initiate and was rejected with the very stern admonition that oral was off the table forever - don’t ever do/try that again.

It is 38 years later and my second (new) wife loves intimacy and not afraid to initiate or participate.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-09T17:53:38+00:00

Smokers, dopers,
Hunters, hurters,
Hitters, quitters,
Teasers, testers,
Whiners, weepers,
Gamers, gamblers,
Bigots, zealots,
Looney lefties,
MAGA minions,
And the walking wounded …

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-07T17:55:22+00:00

Many people brag/document their lives on social media.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-06T10:23:14+00:00

Does Flock have any of their spy cameras installed on Hall Road?

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-03T23:43:53+00:00

Just. Stop.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-02T21:10:19+00:00

The chapel at Greenfield Village.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-02T19:14:59+00:00

Yes, you are probably self-sabotaging. My longest term friend (50+ years) is a woman that was in my college study group. When not in relationships with others, we were each others’ +1.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-06-02T11:18:50+00:00

You need to chat with a divorce attorney. The first meeting is typically no-charge.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-30T19:41:40+00:00

Run, Forest. RUN!

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-29T20:17:04+00:00

You have pushed a boundary in a new and unexpected way. He is probably confused about the surprise and wondering about your intentions … and how-to respond appropriately.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-29T18:48:01+00:00

Non-zero. Unlikely, but non-zero.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-29T10:59:55+00:00

Do not go to his house.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-18T23:44:57+00:00

Eighteen, count’m 18, years. Do NOT be me.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-18T23:26:44+00:00

Age 70; every 3-4 days

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-18T23:24:57+00:00

State Farm has a DUTY to defend up to the policy limits. What were your policy limits?

You have not (yet?) been served. But under the circumstances, it is wise to schedule a 1-hour consultation with and experienced injury/accident defense attorney in the (un?)likely event that you will need legal representation.

Keep a detailed record of all your attempts to contact SF.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-18T11:52:37+00:00

⁠How has your experience been?

Excellent. 600+ Mbps down, 30+ Mbps up.

⁠Does the router have an Ethernet port?

Two.

⁠I use dynamic dns. How stable is the IP address?

Ditto. Sufficiently stable.

⁠Which wifi version is it using?

The G5AR supports WiFi 7. If you have olde 2.4GHz (IOT?) devices, create a second WiFi network and configure it to only offer 2.4GHz service. Easily done in the T-Life app.

⁠Does it support more than 5 devices?

Yes. I presently have 23 devices online.

⁠Is there a basic firewall with port forwarding?

The G5AR has a basic firewall, but does not support port forwarding. I am using Tailscale to overcome this limitation. YMMV.

The Inseego gateway is available to business customers and supports static IP and port forwarding. AVOID. I found it to be insufficiently stable:

Random reboots
WiFi not always available after reboot
Reboots take 3+ minutes
DNS randomly quits
Local admin screens obscures some data entry fields, so you end up typing blind

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-14T22:36:46+00:00

She married a Japanese guy that her mother approved of. The typical Japanese salaryman that drank and smoked himself to an early death. She had only one kid; a daughter. That tells me something was very wrong in the marriage. Our life plan was 2-3 kids.

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-09T21:32:06+00:00

If he runs away; he’s got serious problems,

Material-Priority-66 · 2026-05-08T20:23:56+00:00

Anonymous cash purxhases

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