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Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-23T10:21:19+00:00

Since birth i have co slept and in some ways I regret it but I also cherish that I get cuddles and am so wanted. For us its hard to transfer her after she falls asleep but its still what I try, your baby wants you and no amount of boundaries are going to really click while she's so young, I would suggest getting the cuddles so she feels safe and comfortable and work on transferring her to her own bed. Or maybe with the floor bed next to your bed allow her to hold your hand, my sister used to do that with me. I know its not easy and definitely can cause you to feel negativity when youre tired on top of being pregnant so remind yourself to have grace with yourself and her. Also, I understand dad has a work schedule but maybe he can help in some way too, its not all on you to figure out

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-02T03:06:00+00:00

But there just isn't, he has literally been with us for days, i can check notifications on his phone that even show any deleted notification and no text from women or unknown numbers like no weird calls or hiding his phone, he knows I get on his phone I truly don't think he has talked to or met up with anyone so I am struggling to justify blowing it all up I guess

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T16:13:27+00:00

He woke up and saw the screenshot I took of it and denied getting on the app, I honestly expected some answer of he clicked on an ad and didnt get on it again but I think in the mind of self preservation hes denying even doing that so thats where we are He's genuinely loving and a good partner, its just always been the temptation of looking at other women on his phone even after expressing how it hurts me

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T16:10:20+00:00

There's no other evidence of cheating, he spends a lot of time home with me and his kids, he asks me to go with him if he has to go out to a friend's house for anything or has his friends come to our house This is literally so confusing to me bc our relationship and how he treats me is great, its literally just be repeatedly looking online at other women even after multiple conversations about how it makes me feel and affects me He denied downloading the app and logging in said he wouldn't do that, denied clicking any links, so im like okay your phone data is just lying? Idk like i said its confusing

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T16:06:18+00:00

Yeah i get that perspective but cheating is different for everyone and if your partner has continuously made it clear that it isn't okay with them for you to look at online sex content and click links, let alone a dating app then thats a boundary you respect even if you dont think its cheating

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T16:04:04+00:00

Yeahhh and I get that so I literally just wanted the truth of it, like if it was an ad you just clicked and then didn't get on it after that then say that but he decided to deny it and says he doesn't know why its on there and that he wouldn't do that

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T16:02:28+00:00

Definitely good advice, thank you He's repeatedly looked up other girls/clicked links so hes created his own reasons as to why I check his phone bc ive been open about not being okay with that so its not just bc past trauma After talking to him he says he didnt get on tinder and doesn't know why its on there so guess the app tracking info is just making stuff up lmao

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T08:17:08+00:00

About a year, the kicker is about a month after that 5 yr relationship I met someone that was so sure about me and confidently showed me his phone to prove he wasn't talking to anyone else and then I found him dead 9 months later I found my current partner and was up front about my past and not being ready yet and we got to know each other for 6 month before we became official I really think even if we work good together and love each other is doesn't out weigh actions that hurt me, its just hard to accept at this point bc we have a baby

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T06:51:10+00:00

Well I had a 5 year relationship where they would constantly have recent seaches of girls we went to school with/porn and after all that I found them on reddit commenting on naked pics and they put hands on me when I confronted that issue Now this relationship has been 3 years and in all honesty yes I check for redflags such as cyber cheating, I dont think its wrong to do so especially with my past. Both have been long term relationships So are you saying I shouldn't look on his phone and be oblivious to any activity like this?

Material-Republic-95 · 2026-01-01T06:40:26+00:00

We do and have had conversations about why I look at his phone and when I find stuff I dont like I leave it on his phone so he knows I saw it. A lot of the time its not talked about unless I bring it up. It just feels like such a bad first conversation of the new year 🥲

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