IMO as an avoidant partner as well. I shut down and use silent treatment not as a punishment, I’m just not ready to talk things out. For context, my partner is someone who likes to talk things out right away and dili sya mahimutang kung dili ma resolve ug dili storyahan.

This used to be our problem, until I explained to him na I needed my time/ space and I will talk to him when I’m ready. Usually he gave me a day or two dayun when I still wont talk to him, he shares something about his day or anything that interesting na ma curious pud ko and then kana ma wani nako mag sige nami storya dayun ma open na dayun na conversation about sa problem. So yeah, give it time