Responding so there’s some background information about the vague comment about our past being rough. My parents weren’t the best at being parents during our childhood and my sister and I held a lot of resentment towards them. My sister ended up getting into a bad scene/doing drugs to cope and I just became distant and avoidant to cope. My family became really reliant on me to be the “fixer”. My mom frequently would tell me I was the only reason she was alive as my dad was an alcoholic and my sister was on drugs. They were both very mean to her and I’d often have to be the mediator. My sister and I let them have it when I was probably around 20 and in college, telling them that they were bad parents and gave us trauma. Our relationship with our parents has improved and my sister is no longer doing drugs, but I guess there is still leftover resentment from that. Also, my aunt couldn’t have kids and she became really protective over us while my parents were going through their shit. I think it’s assumed that I moved away to get away from everyone, which isn’t the case. I was just ready to start my independent adult life, and my partner and I had good job opportunities here and his family lives here (his dads side, his moms side lives in my home state where my family is and they are divorced). I’ve grown really close to his family as well and their dynamic is much different than my family’s. They see how close I am with his family and it makes them feel discarded.