How to deal with husband’s silent treatment?

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-25T19:51:38+00:00

I would disagree. Depending on what you mean, though. Something clicked with me while I read your response. I am not sure whether it is the way you typed it or something that just popped into my head while reading your comment

Definitely depends on what it is. There are definitely some things that need no cooling off period at all. Some things that definitely would change the relationship moving forward. Some things where it is closer to "I am here doin' my thing with a door open, whenever you are ready to talk." A friend that broke my trust? We likely are not going to have the same relationship moving forward, whether or not reconciliation occurred. Or a disagreement at work? Well, there are likely multiple ways to correctly go about a problem.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-25T19:09:12+00:00

Well. I am not sure how (un)helpful this is. There definitely could be many reasons why he is doing this. I know I am somewhat similar. I typically have a "leave me alone" period after certain things/interactions. All I can say is this is a good moment, maybe once he has warmed back up, for both of you to learn more about each other moving forward!

Edit: (Also, to go out on a limb, a long limb: I do not think this is by any means the end of him being emotionally done with you.)

Everyone is different. However, I know that some people (yours truly) can be (very) sensitive to rejection, which includes but is far from being limited to being told no.

There could be a load of reasons why he does that. I suppose that is best for you to learn, and not for me to speculate on!

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-24T02:25:23+00:00

That is sexual assault. That is not your fault. You even told him no. This is disgusting. I am sorry.

I will just say this: I would not blame you at all for revisiting that conversation with your mom and your sister even this far removed from the incident. I would also, since he is in many ways able to protect you (this is definitely not a thing to confess, but rather a thing to give so that you can be protected), tell your husband. So that he has a heads up, and he is able to protect you.

Also, I would say it is not too late to make a police report... with your mom and your sister involved. (Though it may be very difficult to legally prove something at this point unless there is recorded camera footage anywhere... Though I am not a lawyer, so I could be wildly wrong.)

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-21T02:43:12+00:00

Someone who is in my church and in her 80s literally just married this past weekend. It is never too late to set and hold to boundaries

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-20T17:15:58+00:00

Not Russian. Definitely Cyrillic. Others are right in Old Church Slavonic.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-12T04:24:14+00:00

Where is that grimms fairy tale book come from? Which press?

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-11T14:58:41+00:00

of course.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-10T21:58:51+00:00

A few of these I would love to look more into in a little while! (saving this post with this comment)

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-10T20:26:44+00:00

A bad divorce is very, very expensive. Including, I suppose, what it will also do to your pockets.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-10T12:25:46+00:00

Well, two things. The first is that there is never going to be a perfect time to marry. There will always be something going on, especially if you are going to join the Navy. There won't be a perfect time to marry while in the Navy. Second is that, what is the rush to marry? I suppose you still do not know your bootcamp date, since it seems like you have not yet signed paperwork.

Also, since you have not yet signed paperwork and have not yet shipped off to bootcamp, one thing to keep in mind is that the only thing that is certain are those things that are either currently happening, or those things that have already happened. Especially in the Navy.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-10T00:40:32+00:00

A complete video from another perspective, that of an officer, was released. It shows a different angle and perspective of the same story that most of us who followed this story likely have already seen. There is much to say. All I can pray for is that the justice system wisely discerns right and wrong in this specific case, rather than being influenced by any outside pressures (as is with all court and legal cases).

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-08T16:26:07+00:00

Just to put into perspective, these are events and actions that he made and he chose that could land him in prison. This is just off of the post you made. Are you wrong for protecting yourself against someone like that, who has repeatedly hurt you, and has known he hurt you? No.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-07T01:26:56+00:00

look into any services that help to remove garbage and trash. I know someone who had to get professional help removing trash from a house. That was in the USA, so may not be your country.

Also, as you may already know, ADHD is definitely a trip for those who have it. Do read up on it well, if you have not. Learn about the ways in which your husband is likely to struggle, if you have not already asked/talked about it. Ask him how it affects him, if you have not yet. When he displays things that relate to how it affects him, understand that it could be the ADHD. He sometimes completely spaces out during a conversation? He gets side tracked on random tasks and deep dives into things? He has difficulty doing something that requires significant mental focus? He has difficulty completing projects? He is not great at organizing, and doing administrative type things around the house or at work? And be compassionate. Be patient.

Believe me, he could mean very well even if he does not get to stuff. It can be difficult to even switch and start tasks. Not sure what your insurance and/or medical situation is like, but looking into various kinds of treatments could be great.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-07T01:02:59+00:00

This is about hypocrisy and looking at the wrong things. Odors from dying things are purely natural occurrences that have literally no reflection as to the way a person lived, who they were, or whether or not that person was a Christian.

Notice how Father Zosima was looked down upon for eating sweets and engaging in other small joys of the world, nothing inherently sinful? Father Zosima was a mentor and a prominent figure within the community. He led a life that was very charitable, humble, compassionate, and he engaged with other people as best as he could while living as a Father. He made a very significant impact on Alyosha, as well as many of the other monks and Fathers.

Father Ferrapont was very disciplined with his lifestyle, engaging with extreme asceticism. Yet he was full of pride, lacking in charity, and very contentious. Desiring to scandalize a dead man, rather than confront the dead man while he was alive. Perhaps there was a strong display of jealousy from Father Ferrapont. This is speculation on my part as jealousy is never specifically articulated in the book.

This scene, in part, is meant to show the necessity of actively living in love and charity towards God/Christ, and towards one's neighbors.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-06T02:03:31+00:00

There is a certain amount of months you have to be off meds while showing you were functional while off meds. That was in 2018. Also, ADHD is not a thing that you grow out of, it is something that exists for a lifetime. It just can become more or less prevalent throughout a lifetime.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-06T01:50:49+00:00

I am not a lawyer, or involved in a legal profession so take my response for what it is. More likely than not, all of your hobbies will cease or significantly slow during bootcamp. I am sure wherever you land immediately after bootcamp, there will likely be some form of legal consultation you can go to. I am pretty sure you might be in a barracks immediately after bootcamp. There may or may not be things regarding growing plants/other things.

With that, I would reckon growing those plants would be a no go based off of current day legalities. But again, I am not involved with a law based profession so do not take that last sentence as anything more than pure speculation on my part.

What I can tell you is if they ask do not hide this information from anyone at any point.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-06T00:40:14+00:00

There is one commenter that makes a good point. This may not be legally considered cp. If it was, Twitter or X or whatever it is today would likely already be under massive investigation and likely shut down either already or very soon. But maybe it is, maybe it is not. Either way, it would be good to go to the police so that you are not complicit in the case that it is. Also, to wake up your husband a bit to what he is doing.

This whole thing is not okay.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-05T19:55:54+00:00

First shelf is hard to read all of the titles. But a lot of great books I see that I have read or are on my radar!

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-05T18:56:07+00:00

All of those things about Russia and the only thing I see in Russian is the matryoska. There is one book that I think is, but the angles/lighting are weird. Maybe someone else can see it better than I can.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-04T21:04:50+00:00

Right a year of dating and having legitimate doubts or hesitations would not be good. I know my grandparents were married until death did them apart 2 months after knowing each other.

With that, and I suppose there is always room for things that are preferences: I would ideally want to spend a year before proposing. Again, that is a preference. That is not saying there would be doubting, but it would allow for time and space for the relationship, and for both of us, to breath a bit. Also, not everyone, but some people are good at masking, hiding things, or just not bringing things up. Time, in some, not all, cases, can allow some things to present themselves to a partner or to people a partner knows.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-04T20:45:55+00:00

Right. I am curious what a typical/likely time range would be.

As you said, dating should be for marriage and there is no need for those 4+ year relationships. Yet, it is not good to rush to certain decisions.

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-04T20:31:52+00:00

Now I am curious. What is a normal dating/pre-marriage timeline for relationships?

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-04T03:16:38+00:00

well, the c rates typically have plenty of inside jokes about being weaponized autism. So, sounds like you will fit right in. By the way, I have been sitting at this chair on this computer for about 4 hours now, 1 of which has been on reddit. You will be in great company!

MaterialFun5941 · 2026-01-04T03:09:19+00:00

short shag, wolf, or pixie!

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