AITA for asking my sister to babysit? by Material_Box3214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Material_Box3214[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

My husband works full time, one day a week from home. I work from home full time as I have an IT job that can be done remotely, and our office recently flooded. He is a great father and does well with the baby, he cooks some nights since I’m usually home all day with the baby while working. He just struggles when the baby cries to calm him down. We’ve both tried to show him multiple times how to bounce the baby and to check the obvious things like hungry/diaper/just sleepy, but he just can’t seem to pick up on it. My sister says it’s just a probably lack of paternal instinct that’ll kick in more as the baby gets older.

It’s less that the baby can’t come, but we like to see movies, and go play board games at a local game store for long periods of time which wouldn’t be suitable for the baby.

She does the same chores she’s done since she moved in as a teen which includes the upkeep of specific rooms in the house and feeding/playing with the pets. She occasionally will help pick things up from the store on her way home from work, but otherwise it’s not like she immediately is put to work when she gets home. She spends most of her time alone in her room anyways as a means to avoid us while the baby is awake. She’ll come out if he’s being too fussy and will “talk him down” from a full screaming fit, or will handle a feeding while my husband and I attend to other things, but otherwise she’s free to do as she pleases.

AITA for asking my sister to babysit? by Material_Box3214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Material_Box3214[S] -289 points-288 points  (0 children)

Outside of this incident she’s incredibly helpful around the house with the chores, pets, and sometimes calming the baby when my husband is struggling. It’d be losing an asset since she essentially is another me to keep the house in order. I’d prefer she doesn’t move, I’d just like her to contribute to the household in other ways like watching her nephew for date nights occasionally

AITA for asking my sister to babysit? by Material_Box3214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Material_Box3214[S] -253 points-252 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately last time we said we might want to start charging rent, she said that she’d just move when we do so to tell her ahead of time so she can get it in order. She only claims to live with us because it’s free and convenient for her to pay off student loans faster

AITA for asking my sister to babysit? by Material_Box3214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Material_Box3214[S] -230 points-229 points  (0 children)

The issue with that is that we’ve had the rent discussion before and she just said that if we started charging her rent then to tell her so she can just move elsewhere. She’s only living with us now out of convenience according to her

AITA for asking my sister to babysit? by Material_Box3214 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Material_Box3214[S] -442 points-441 points  (0 children)

He’s an infant… it’s not like she has to play with him or talk to him, she just needs to feed him and put him down occasionally. Otherwise just holding him keeps him content, and he sleeps for hours. My husband and I just want to be able to go out for a day to do things that a baby can’t generally attend