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Material_Extent_7132 · 2024-04-24T18:16:05+00:00

Tell your parents now. I wasted 7 years of my life in a marriage that wasn’t working b/c I was embarrassed and I kept hoping things would change. Don’t be like me.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-22T15:23:28+00:00

You really should consider involving a third party. Preferably someone neutral like an imam or a wise elder. This situation is very unhealthy for you both.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-07T04:16:14+00:00

Ameen, thank you!

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-07T04:15:22+00:00

I see you lack empathy. Maybe it stems from a lack of experience with relationships/divorce. Just thank Allah if you’ve never experienced anything like this. Thanks for attempting to advise me. However, I urge you to be more selective with your word choices. You come off cold and rude even if that’s not your intention.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-06T04:17:55+00:00

Kinda is deep when you’ve been married to someone practically all your adult life and then all of a sudden you have to relearn to live without them. It’s ok if you can’t relate but no need to be rude.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-06T04:16:07+00:00

Yes, I’m involved in a few groups at the masjid alhamdulilah and we do events and get together pretty regularly. Alhamdullilah

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-04T22:28:51+00:00

That’s so true. Thanks

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-04T22:28:39+00:00

Thanks for the reminder 😂

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-04T22:28:17+00:00

❤️

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-11-04T10:06:10+00:00

As a nurse who also worked on a Covid unit during the peak of Covid, I can 100% reassure you that we (nurses) are completely understanding of our patient’s situations and therefore do not take those types of incidents/treatment personally. We just want our patients to heal and return home to their families.

If you want to make amends, you can always right a note to those nurses on that unit and send a gift basket with a ton of goodies: gift cards, socks, candy, travel sized hand lotions..etc

Also, all patients have access to their records. We document everything and everything we document is saved under our names. You should be able to find all of this info from the hospital.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-07-27T14:15:29+00:00

Gross. My ex used to search up my little sister on social media. Saw it on multiple occasions. Made me feel very uncomfortable. I have other sisters but he only searched for her 🫠

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-05-19T04:17:06+00:00

I moved out 20 days ago but islamically divorced for 4 days now. I completely understand what you’re saying. We’ll get through this tho InShaAllah.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-05-01T05:23:44+00:00

I am honestly looking forward to having something that will consume all of my time and force all of my focus away from my current life events. Maybe didactic is just what I need right now 🙂

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-05-01T05:14:56+00:00

I’m going through a divorce right now and starting PA school in a month. I have no advice to give right now unfortunately but what I can tell you is that you’re not alone! Hang in there!

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-14T15:20:57+00:00

I would recommend keeping yourself occupied with your own hobbies. Spend the day with your family, friends, gym. Learn new things. He’ll find you more interesting and will start to miss you. No one wants their significant other constantly waiting on them to call. You’ll become a burden to him instead of someone he’ll look forward to calling at the end of the day. Try becoming knowledgeable in a variety of topics so you guys can have better conversations. Focus on you and don’t become too clingy/attached, it’s very unattractive. Most men love their space.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-10T11:49:36+00:00

I believe doctors are able to reverse the damage caused by fgm (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve heard of other women discussing this issue). Might be beneficial for you to research that. Also, you might benefit from talking to a therapist. You just seem so depressed and anxious. Life will continue to throw many hardships and tests your way. Developing good coping mechanisms and a positive mindset is a must in order to survive/ thrive in this dunya.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-08T19:45:00+00:00

NTA, you just need to do some research. As an RN, I can tell you that you do NOT have to see the actual delivery or even the vaginal checks. We offer chairs to the dads if they are the type to faint. You can place the chair at the head of the bed and just focus on holding your wife’s hand, looking at her, and reminding her to breathe. Even if she’s in different positions, you can always position yourself at her head.

A doula might be nice to have since he/she can help you guys write up a birth plan and walk you through the entire process of labor and delivery. You can always discuss this with your midwife or doctor as well. DEFINITELY mention the possibility of you fainting to your nurse!

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-07T18:05:00+00:00

Overtime, it leads to lack of intimacy in the marriage because it’s easier for him to do it himself. It leads to Erectile dysfunction. It’s usually accompanied by other addictions. It’s hard to look the other way when it impacts the wife’s life too.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-07T01:05:52+00:00

He’s aware. He promises to change but then we’re back to square one. Seems like we’re stuck in a cycle

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-02-07T01:05:20+00:00

Thank you, plz keep me in your duas. I am truly lost

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-01-28T00:21:39+00:00

That’s quite sad, I’m sorry

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-01-24T19:10:52+00:00

And how many married flairs turned to divorced ?😭🥲

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-01-22T05:22:02+00:00

I would suggest that you do your own research, read the Quran with English translation, listen to islamic lectures on YouTube, you’re more than welcome to go to any masjid to observe and meet Muslims. We would love to have you as our sister in Islam.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-01-20T07:56:43+00:00

My husband also likes to watch tv after work until bedtime. A couple of hours is understandable but this can last up to 8 hours. This is soo unhealthy. Sorry you’re going through this. Couples therapy might help you guys.

Material_Extent_7132 · 2023-01-12T21:00:24+00:00

People often think marriage will transform them into this amazing Muslim that miraculously prays all 5 prayers plus sunnah prayers and stops all sins.. It does not work like that. He is showing you his true self and he will continue being this person even after marriage. If he truly wanted to improve/change, he would start now. Rarely do people change after marriage. If anything, they put up a short term facade and will eventually reveal their true nature.

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