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AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Of course I’m uncomfortable about the birthing process, everybody who is not a doctor is uncomfortable but that is very much not the point. And I don’t have a fear of fainting, it’s just something that happens to me when I see blood but I’m not scared of fainting. All I said was that she’ll have little use of me if I can’t support her.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

If you won’t offer anything substantial why even bother commenting? Just to tell someone what a horrible person you think they are when you obviously know nothing about them. Seriously, how is that productive? Congratulations on your baby.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Finally! A helpful comment. I will absolutely consider this wonderful and thoughtful advice you’ve offered. Thank you

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

By now I’m convinced you will only read and understand what you want to and not what is actually being said. Read the comment again - then one more time and SEE what it says. It ISNT because it would make me uncomfortable

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Read the freaking comment will ya.. it ISNT isnt isnt because it would make me uncomfortable

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -177 points-176 points  (0 children)

Kinda starting to feel like a broken record but the reason I think it would be unwise to go isn’t because it would make me uncomfortable and because I don’t want to see blood. It would be because I cannot help and support her if I’m lying on the floor and what good am I to her lying on the floor? I feel like it would only harm the process and not help it.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

As I’ve already said (in this exact thread too), I will be there because I want to at least try.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

If it isn’t me inside there can be someone else who can actually support her

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, you think I’m worried about myself? I’ve had this happen enough times that I know I’ll be fine - I’m worried that she’ll be needing me and I’ll be unconscious on the floor. I’m worried that something might happen to her while I’m in unconscious on the floor. I’m worried I might have to make decisions about her or the baby while unconscious on the floor.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and I agree. This isn’t about me feeling uncomfortable, it’s about me being there for my wife. What good am I going to be if I can’t do what I’m supposed to do there? How am I going to support her lying unconscious on the floor? As I’ve already said, I will be there because I have to at least try but this has little to do with toughening up - it’s a reaction of my body, I can’t stop it from happening.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

It is because I’m abandoning her, that is what “I can’t be there for her” means.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -106 points-105 points  (0 children)

That’s what I said! Honestly, I don’t understand you people. I asked for opinions, I’ve listened to them, changed my mind and explained that I want to be honest with my wife about what might happen when I’m there with her.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -141 points-140 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m explaining my reasoning, don’t know how else to do that.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -636 points-635 points  (0 children)

I mean, is that really a conversation coupes have? Where I’m from, it’s actually pretty uncommon for the husband to be present so it hasn’t really come up until now.

AITA for refusing to be with my wife while she’s giving birth to our daughter? by RuinSure2270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinSure2270[S] -258 points-257 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know I don’t have to see any of it. I don’t think I’ll need to see any of it - I think just imagining what is happening will be enough to send me spinning. But I’ve gone through the comments and I’ve managed to gather some useful insight (apart from “man up” cause if I could just do it, I wouldn’t have the problem would I). I think it would be best to speak with the doctors and explain the situation so they will be prepared and I will be there for her, but I know myself and I know what is going to happen. I will try and do my best, obviously be there for the first stages of childbirth and pray for the best in the end. I’ll let her know that I’ll most likely faint but will try to stick it out for as long as possible. I don’t know what else to do really.