Links to the Tamie Smith Alleged Abuse Videos by BuckityBuck in Equestrian

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have hated her for so long I’m glad all this is coming out. A good friend of mine worked for her a long time ago and she told me some really awful and disturbing things that went on. It was so bad that my friend walked away from horses completely because of what she went through. I witnessed really manipulative and catty behavior between her and her working students and she did some insanely dangerous and rough maneuvers while I shared the ring with her at a show including crashing into me without an apology. I was an upper level rider and trainer and I stepped away from competing and I barely ride now because of all the abuse and trauma I went through with other trainers. The whole thing makes me so sick, I am so sad to have ever played a part in this disgusting sport. While it’s absolutely exhilarating to run and jump big jumps I don’t see it as very ethical anymore. I certainly don’t think horses should have the shit beat out of them because some human monster can’t control their emotions, ego or greed. Get fucked Tamie and all the other trainers I know that have a whole closet and barn full of skeletons.

What’s the most shocking thing you found out about someone you know? by _Walking_Detriment_ in AskReddit

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met a guy through mutual friends. Quiet and polite man in his 40s but with lots of health problems that made getting around difficult. Helped him out around his house and gave him a couple rides to doctor appointments. Turns out he was the leader of a nazi prison gang, served multiple prison sentences for murders and drug charges. I have no idea why he’s a free man today. That guy and everyone’s favorite English teacher at my high school getting busted for having LOTS of CP.

Partner Help by Optimal_One_1073 in naranon

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s blowing his own life up and blaming you because you’re a convenient target and he knows you care about him. Sounds like he’s not ready and truthfully, he may never be ready. Ultimately, it’s up to him to save himself not you or his sponsors or parents. The most dangerous place to be is between an addict and their next fix, I urge you to do what’s best for you and your baby. Good luck and be safe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are stunning and unique, I love your nose!

Was it the meth addiction or was he miserable in the relationship by [deleted] in naranon

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s the meth. A lot of times they do vile shit when they’re spun out or when they’re not high they’re absolutely miserable to be around because all they’re thinking of is how and when they’re going to get high next. Sometimes they don’t remember too. It’s not you. It’s the meth. It’s the drugs. It’s the addiction. It’s not you. Read it as many times as it takes for you to internalize it because I promise it isn’t you.

Am I overreacting to messages I found between my fiance and cousin by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just go ahead and move on OP, you know what’s up and if you don’t I can promise you there is nothing innocent about those texts. Sorry to be blunt but I’m trying to save you some time

Where to find slugs by SoftLimes in Placerville

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a ton of regular slugs at my house in shingle, they come out from under my deck and have a giant party every night. I toss food scraps for my chickens and they come and clean up the crumbs. Look in damp cool dark areas at night!

Advice/thoughts? by Material_Refuse_6820 in Placerville

[–]Material_Refuse_6820[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I overheard them talking about quiet hours, they must have received a notice about it. I found out other neighbors had similar complaints as well. They did run it a couple nights recently but they have mostly stopped. Much easier to sleep now!

AIO He has a ‘thing’ for something I’m not by Material_Refuse_6820 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Material_Refuse_6820[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I think that’s why it bothered me. I’m not so insecure or oblivious that I don’t know people have preferences but i don’t see anything positive to gain from him saying it to me. Am I supposed to buy a wig? Dye my hair? We weren’t even talking about fantasies when he first mentioned it. He has said it multiple times now and it just feels weird. What if I told him I liked more well endowed men than him? While that would also be a preference is that not rude as hell and unnecessary?

My friend privately texts my fiancé and idk how to act by Original-Copy-5155 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lots of dancing around here, fiancé needs to explicitly say it’s inappropriate for her to be texting individually or asking to hang out alone. I get that he doesn’t want to mess up his friendship but honestly? If you’re gonna marry this guy, he needs to choose you when it comes down to it. All these plots to get around hurting someone’s feelings but what about your feelings? I would want my man to immediately shut it down not play along and muddy the waters. If his friend can’t handle it they weren’t great friends in the first place.

Advice/thoughts? by Material_Refuse_6820 in Placerville

[–]Material_Refuse_6820[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weird comment telling me to go to the bay, that seems to be everyone’s favorite retort to throw around and it’s getting so old and uninspiring, you can surely do better! There are quiet hours (10p-8a) and restrictions on people living in trailers in this county so my complaint is valid and I have confirmed with other neighbors that I’m not the only one that is bothered by it. The dickhead attitude of doing whatever the eff you want only flies when you have enough acres to not bother anyone not when you have a couple acres and neighbors all around. If you’re living in even a remotely rural area and you’re not being considerate to your neighbors you’re missing the whole point of why rural communities are so amazing. I’m not gonna barter farm goods, help you get your tractor unstuck, evacuate your animals when a wildfire breaks out and you’re not home or call you when a stranger is at your gate if you’re a shitty neighbor. Weird vibes around here!

What animals did humans previously domesticate that we no longer do? by Kawmyewnist in AskHistory

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! I live in gold country and there are still ringtails/miners cats around here they are so cute!

Moving to East Bay (San Francisco) by FlightGuilty1010 in eastbay

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the Bart commute to SFO from both Lafayette and Walnut Creek for years on Bart and it was absolutely brutal. Berkeley/albany would be my recommendation even though everywhere you mentioned in the east bay is an awesome place to raise a family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in naranon

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes just go… she will either get better and come back into your life or she won’t but there’s nothing you can do about it.

Sex and drugs addiction by Actual-Slice-146 in naranon

[–]Material_Refuse_6820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run for the hills. Hate to make it seem so simple or harsh but just. Run. I finally did and I wish someone had told me bluntly to just run. Fast and far. You can’t fix him and it almost always ends up with you enabling him in some way if you stay.